HopelesslyStuck Posted July 5, 2013 Posted July 5, 2013 For those of you unaware of my situation, here's a brief summary of what happened. I was in a relationship for two years with someone I pictured my life with. Things started falling apart, and it seemed like no matter how hard either of us tried, it just didn't work out. We broke up five/six months ago and went into immediate NC. I still miss him, and think about him daily and its hard but I think I've gotten over the shock factor of the whole thing. Though, it's still hard to accept that were no longer together. He just got into a new relationship about a week ago. I know this because of mutual friends and everyone has been telling me about it. It doesn't bother me as much as I thought it would. I actually thought the girl hes with was interesting and cool before they started dating or talking at all. It's just hard to accept that she is in the same place I used to be. I'm happy for him and I'm glad he's out there trying to find happiness in someone else. I just don't know how to accept that I will no longer be with him and someone new is in my spot. How do I deal with this? I have no clue.
BrokenHeartedSavior Posted July 5, 2013 Posted July 5, 2013 If you broke up that long ago, and have been NC, exactly how do you know what he did a week ago? "mutual friends ?". Time for them to check out. DELETE FB COMPLETELY!! My first advice- ALWAYS. Biggest waste of human time EVER created!!! Stop bulls***ing yourself that you're "happy" for him. You are not, we know it, BUT its ok to admit!!! You are ENTITLED not be happy for him. For gods sake you MISS HIM! Stop telling yourself how "interesting" SHE is! She IS NOT YOU! and never will be! As far as " accepting". I think it ONLY comes with time. Nothing else. You'll find someone (when YOU are ready). And thoughts of you're ex will simply fade away... Lol sorry, worked last nite and I'm a little cranky! Lol. 1
ViciousCycle Posted July 5, 2013 Posted July 5, 2013 I'm sorry to hear your circumstances. I can relate. I was in a relationship of similar length and my ex-gf left me a few months ago because of her attraction to another person. I do agree that it's easy to say you're happy for them. Hopefully you can get to a place where you really go feel okay and happy that, just perhaps, they found a better fit. Here's some things that have helped me in coping. 1) Realizing that the time you had together was a learning experience and you are better for it now. You know well what you need to look for in a future relationship. 2) I know it is difficult to look back at some of the positive times...so think about the negative too. 3) There's an abundance of people out there. You have a bond to this other person, but they're not the only one that can make you happy. Go out and meet some people. That's all i've got. I hope that helps. I've been struggling too. You'll look back and realize this time was worth it, I hope.
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