Talulah Posted July 5, 2013 Posted July 5, 2013 My ex broke it off with me about a month and a half ago. We both work and live in different countries. Oh and we lived right next to each to each other too so NC was not possible. He left almost a week ago and is now vacationing in Asia. The weekend he left I was a complete mess. Ever since, we have gone full NC. It was bad on days 3 and 4. But I feel great today! I still think of him, but the the healing process is great. I've even stopped the urge to want to e-mail him. Does this mean that I never truly loved him?
hellischrome Posted July 5, 2013 Posted July 5, 2013 Nah. It just means that you work that way. Same for me, I felt really bad at the beginning and I feel better. I think about him all the time, but I don't FEEL sad. Maybe I still hope to see him.. Or that he will change his mind... I don't know.
aloneinaz Posted July 5, 2013 Posted July 5, 2013 My ex broke it off with me about a month and a half ago. We both work and live in different countries. Oh and we lived right next to each to each other too so NC was not possible. He left almost a week ago and is now vacationing in Asia. The weekend he left I was a complete mess. Ever since, we have gone full NC. It was bad on days 3 and 4. But I feel great today! I still think of him, but the the healing process is great. I've even stopped the urge to want to e-mail him. Does this mean that I never truly loved him? Don't over think it, just roll with it. Everyone heals at different speeds. Look how many people dump others and are in a new relationship a week later. Even dumpee's can get right back on the horse and start another relationship within a few weeks of a break up. Lots of factors come into play. How long the relationship was, was it a good relationship, was it rocky or strained the last few months of it? Lot's of variables. Most people move on with their lives and feel better after a month or two. Don't let some of these folks on this site scare you that you should be in mourning for months and months. People who post they can't get over someone after 6 months is the exception, not the rule. Most dumpees with good self esteem and confidence will pick themselves up, dust themselves off and shake off the rejection and reenter the dating pool.
Author Talulah Posted July 5, 2013 Author Posted July 5, 2013 Thank you all. I had a break-up like that once, the guy was good at abusing people. It took me about three ears to rebuild my self-esteem. This time, I am sad, very sad but I am also happy that the awkward part is over. My exes end up contacting me eventually and sometimes they are not over me. I'm not counting on it, but it's so ironic how once you stop caring for someone, the other person starts caring for you.
Author Talulah Posted July 5, 2013 Author Posted July 5, 2013 Just got home today and now I am slipping. I started to miss him so much for a couple of hours today. I thought that I was fine. All I want to know is that he is still thinking of me. Ohh....this is so hard, I was doing so well and now it all comes crushing down...
theonlyjuan Posted July 5, 2013 Posted July 5, 2013 Yeah, it sucks when that happens. I feel good most times but randomly just crash. Usually happens when I'm tired or drink alcohol. Both make me emotional. Whenever I get a thought, I just think of something else
Chi townD Posted July 5, 2013 Posted July 5, 2013 It just means you feel GREAT today. But,you don't know what tomorrow will bring. You're probably going on a rollercoaster trip now. It's called the rollercoaster of emotions. You feel great today; but, tomorrow, you might be sad, then the next day, you might be angry as a snake, then back to feeling okay. This is completely NORMAL! And no one can tell you when this coaster ride will end; different strokes for different folks. But, one day you'll feel totally indifferent about him. That's when the coaster ride stops.
Author Talulah Posted July 6, 2013 Author Posted July 6, 2013 Well, today is day 7 and I am sad again. I have gone through the relationship and now I am dealing with the fact that we might never talk again. It hurts to realize it, but in a way it's a huge relief. But I do miss him terribly, well the good him. I think that he does care, but he knew (he told me) that he caused me stress and that he was not good for me.
Author Talulah Posted July 7, 2013 Author Posted July 7, 2013 It's been 8 days of NC. I went out last night and had a long talk with this guy about it. It really helped, he helped me see through all the bs. I miss him less, but I really miss his presence here. I miss him being my companion. I still hope we talk soon although, we might not for a long time.
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