MrCastle Posted July 5, 2013 Posted July 5, 2013 Have you ever dated someone who didn't have the same sense of humor as you? Were you able to make it work? Maybe I place more importance on sense of humor than most, but I still can't realistically see myself dating someone who's sense of humor differs from mine. I get borderline offended when I find out the kind of stuff a particular girl finds funny if it's something I personally find hacky or cheesy. I'm like "she watches that show? She thinks that's funny?" It's also brutal if I say something to a girl and she gives me the face and I have to say "...it was a joke" Then she gives me the "ohhh...ok...ha..." Torture. Anytime you have to tell someone it's a joke, you've already lost. I think one of my best qualities is being funny and if a girl doesn't get my style of humor, that's a big chunk of me she's missing out on. I can't see myself being with someone who didn't get my style of humor, or who didn't make me laugh from time to time herself. I'm not saying a sense of humor can take someone I find unattractive, and get me to date them, but at the same time, if I find you incredibly attractive physically but you don't "get" me--I can't be with you. It's just too brutal. Do you care about humor at all? 4
Eggplant Posted July 5, 2013 Posted July 5, 2013 My mom always emphasized the importance of a couple's sharing a sense of humor. It was one of the big reasons she and my dad clicked. 1
Author MrCastle Posted July 5, 2013 Author Posted July 5, 2013 My mom always emphasized the importance of a couple's sharing a sense of humor. It was one of the big reasons she and my dad clicked. You have been on a roll tonight with your posts. Dare I say...an eggroll? I'm funnier than that usually, I swear 4
USMCHokie Posted July 5, 2013 Posted July 5, 2013 I think one of my best qualities is being funny... You have been on a roll tonight with your posts. Dare I say...an eggroll? These two items directly conflict with each other. 9
Author MrCastle Posted July 5, 2013 Author Posted July 5, 2013 These two items directly conflict with each other. Oh the irony! I'm not one for racially stereotypical jokes but you damn near forced my hand Hokester. 2
TheZebra Posted July 5, 2013 Posted July 5, 2013 I think humor is one of the signs that you're either on the same wave-length or not. If sense of humor differs... you're not getting each other. If you're not getting each other you're not connecting. If you're not connecting, then IMO, that's not having a relationship to its fullest. My ex and I did well because we had the same sense of humor. This translated to other similarities we had. It worked (until the bitter end anyway) The last guy had a bit of a different sense of humor. He relied TOO much on sarcasm, but made it extremely hard to read, so he often had to say 'I'm kidding' afterward, which killed it. I also made many jokes to him that he didn't get. For example, one time my male boss had me go get some screws to fix something. Along the way I ran into him and said 'yeah my boss wanted me to get some screws, but hey better than HIM giving me a screw!' but he didn't get it and just kept talking. That's how I knew it was never gonna work out. (That was NOT my best material btw! It was all I had and I was nervous, I promise ) 2
tbf Posted July 5, 2013 Posted July 5, 2013 Watching two people interact with different senses of humours is like watching two spastics trying to play patty cake. Plenty of movement but no connection. 8
USMCHokie Posted July 5, 2013 Posted July 5, 2013 I think humor is a direct reflection of one's intelligence. 8
Author MrCastle Posted July 5, 2013 Author Posted July 5, 2013 I think humor is one of the signs that you're either on the same wave-length or not. If sense of humor differs... you're not getting each other. If you're not getting each other you're not connecting. If you're not connecting, then IMO, that's not having a relationship to its fullest. My ex and I did well because we had the same sense of humor. This translated to other similarities we had. It worked (until the bitter end anyway) The last guy had a bit of a different sense of humor. He relied TOO much on sarcasm, but made it extremely hard to read, so he often had to say 'I'm kidding' afterward, which killed it. I also made many jokes to him that he didn't get. For example, one time my male boss had me go get some screws to fix something. Along the way I ran into him and said 'yeah my boss wanted me to get some screws, but hey better than HIM giving me a screw!' but he didn't get it and just kept talking. That's how I knew it was never gonna work out. (That was NOT my best material btw! It was all I had and I was nervous, I promise ) What is this amateur hour? The official open mic thread Anyways, I totally get you. I feel if you can't connect on humor, you guys are just different people. I can't see myself being with someone who didn't make me laugh, or someone I couldn't make laugh. Making women laugh is my second favorite thing to do with them.
Els Posted July 5, 2013 Posted July 5, 2013 Nope, never been with someone who hasn't shared my sense of humor. That being said, you seem to have a rather... different concept of what that entails. Sharing a sense of humor doesn't necessarily mean you enjoy exactly the same shows as each other. 1
Author MrCastle Posted July 5, 2013 Author Posted July 5, 2013 Nope, never been with someone who hasn't shared my sense of humor. That being said, you seem to have a rather... different concept of what that entails. Sharing a sense of humor doesn't necessarily mean you enjoy exactly the same shows as each other. Yeah. Like I said, humor may be a much bigger thing for me than others. Really though, you know there are shows/movies/comedians out there that you just think are puke worthy. Just really unfunny and stupid. You don't get a little turned off when you find out the person you're seeing eats that stuff up? I get a little miffed. For anyone who will get this Seinfeld reference -- it's like Jerry and Kenny Bania. Jerry can't for the life of him understand why anybody would find Kenny's act funny. 1
TheZebra Posted July 5, 2013 Posted July 5, 2013 Nope, never been with someone who hasn't shared my sense of humor. That being said, you seem to have a rather... different concept of what that entails. Sharing a sense of humor doesn't necessarily mean you enjoy exactly the same shows as each other. I think he meant more the type of humor reflected in those shows. For example, I probably don't share the same sense of humor as a guy who lives for Jackass movies. In the realm of comedy I tend to like movies that put in the comedy in a subtle way (like Cabin in the Woods... more comedy than horror IMO) than the movies that try to get a laugh out of people doing stupid things. As in, I'd rather see Juno than almost anything with Adam Sandler. EDIT: Oh here's something worse - someone who finds those Madea/Tyler PErry movies funny or even entertaining 1
Author MrCastle Posted July 5, 2013 Author Posted July 5, 2013 I think he meant more the type of humor reflected in those shows. For example, I probably don't share the same sense of humor as a guy who lives for Jackass movies. That's interesting. I think Jackass is the only one of its kind that I find funny. I think people who try to emulate it in real life and do stupid slapstick things are hacky and corny, but Jackass to me is hilarious. But aside from that, I like stuff like Seinfeld, Curb Your Enthusiasm, That 70s Show, and comedians like Louis CK -- observational stuff, sarcasm, dark humor, and raunchy. I also love Kevin Smith stuff and stuff with Will Ferrell (Old School, Anchorman, Step Brothers), but hate anything by Judd Apatow not named 40 Year Old Virgin. It's weird. If a girl can make raunchy jokes, I like it, as long as it's not typical shock value "oh look at me, I'm a girl and I said the C word, I'm funny." I like girls who are actually witty and sarcastic. Sarcasm gets my loins burning. I love it.
USMCHokie Posted July 5, 2013 Posted July 5, 2013 Really though, you know there are shows/movies/comedians out there that you just think are puke worthy. Just really unfunny and stupid. Humor in social interaction with others is a bit more impressive and vital a skill than humor displayed by a guy talking to himself... Although they are entertaining, and I can't say a comedian/actor's skill with humor can be accurately assessed by a canned act... 1
Author MrCastle Posted July 5, 2013 Author Posted July 5, 2013 Humor in social interaction with others is a bit more impressive and vital a skill than humor displayed by a guy talking to himself... Although they are entertaining, and I can't say a comedian/actor's skill with humor can be accurately assessed by a canned act... Why you are coming in here with these semi-theoretical/logical posts when you know this will be a designated dick joke thread by the second page. 1
TheZebra Posted July 5, 2013 Posted July 5, 2013 Humor in social interaction with others is a bit more impressive and vital a skill than humor displayed by a guy talking to himself... Although they are entertaining, and I can't say a comedian/actor's skill with humor can be accurately assessed by a canned act... To reinforce what you just said, rarely are funny guys as funny onstage. Stand-up is a whole different beast from being a funny person. You have to actually plan a script, rehearse it, edit it, etc. It's very difficult to be a good stand-up comedian. It's also difficult to be a funny person. Frankly, i don't watch much TV anymore aside from Game of Thrones, but I LOVE going to a comedy/stand-up show. If a guy suggests that as a date, AND he picks a good comedian (I love Ralphie May for example), then he's way ahead of the curve for me. There's no better date night for me... just don't sit us at the front!! 2
Els Posted July 5, 2013 Posted July 5, 2013 Yeah. Like I said, humor may be a much bigger thing for me than others. Really though, you know there are shows/movies/comedians out there that you just think are puke worthy. Just really unfunny and stupid. You don't get a little turned off when you find out the person you're seeing eats that stuff up? I get a little miffed. For anyone who will get this Seinfeld reference -- it's like Jerry and Kenny Bania. Jerry can't for the life of him understand why anybody would find Kenny's act funny. Well, I think you'll find that most people are a mixed bag - it's extremely rare that you'll have a 100% overlap in the shows (or more specifically in your case, comedies) you enjoy, and it doesn't necessarily reflect in their personal sense of humor, either. Not that I've noticed, at least - wit and intellectual connection is probably one of my most important criteria for a R, but there has been some variety in the type of shows we enjoy. Which should be the case, given that human cloning hasn't worked yet (and I'd find it incredibly creepy to sleep with my clone). 1
USMCHokie Posted July 5, 2013 Posted July 5, 2013 Why you are coming in here with these semi-theoretical/logical posts when you know this will be a designated dick joke thread by the second page. I need to get it in before I leave the thread because the dick jokes will make me sad. 3
Author MrCastle Posted July 5, 2013 Author Posted July 5, 2013 Well, I think you'll find that most people are a mixed bag - it's extremely rare that you'll have a 100% overlap in the shows (or more specifically in your case, comedies) you enjoy, and it doesn't necessarily reflect in their personal sense of humor, either. Not that I've noticed, at least - wit and intellectual connection is probably one of my most important criteria for a R, but there has been some variety in the type of shows we enjoy. Which should be the case, given that human cloning hasn't worked yet (and I'd find it incredibly creepy to sleep with my clone). Oh man. You just spawned a great thread idea! Has it be done before? "Would You Date The Male/Female You?" I'm sure it has been. Damn. I do agree you need changes. But I'd rather changes in other areas. I mean, sure we can disagree on certain shows/movies, etc. Of course The more important issue is us not making each other laugh. A relationship must be dark as hell without laughter. All this talk about boobs and butts and height and muscles -- I can't see people sticking with someone who didn't make them laugh. 5
Els Posted July 5, 2013 Posted July 5, 2013 Oh man. You just spawned a great thread idea! Has it be done before? "Would You Date The Male/Female You?" I'm sure it has been. Damn. Knowing LS, probably at least dozens of times. I do agree you need changes. But I'd rather changes in other areas. I mean, sure we can disagree on certain shows/movies, etc. Of course The more important issue is us not making each other laugh. A relationship must be dark as hell without laughter. All this talk about boobs and butts and height and muscles -- I can't see people sticking with someone who didn't make them laugh. Amen, brother.
Feelin Frisky Posted July 5, 2013 Posted July 5, 2013 Mr Castle, you seem like a cool dude--like you get it and don't need validation or tips. Humor is central to social and sexual mobility and allow me to be among the few, the first, the many, w/e to say you're on the right track. Everyone alive wants to have a good time--how could they not? So being ever at the ready to say something clever and humorous can't help but put you in better favor or being seen as someone to get to know. Hell, you even have Archgirl using you for her signature. If you're as successful elsewhere, you're my hero. 2
Author MrCastle Posted July 5, 2013 Author Posted July 5, 2013 Mr Castle, you seem like a cool dude--like you get it and don't need validation or tips. Humor is central to social and sexual mobility and allow me to be among the few, the first, the many, w/e to say you're on the right track. Everyone alive wants to have a good time--how could they not? So being ever at the ready to say something clever and humorous can't help but put you in better favor or being seen as someone to get to know. Hell, you even have Archgirl using you for her signature. If you're as successful elsewhere, you're my hero. Haha come on man. I think we can all agree I don't need anymore ego boosts or validation of any kind on this forum. Well I mean I absolutely love it but it bothers some of the other members But in all honesty, thank you. Making people laugh really gives me a lot of joy--entertaining others in general. Which would explain my love for the arts, aspirations to be famous some day, and my affinity for being theatrical and dramatic.
ChessPieceFace Posted July 5, 2013 Posted July 5, 2013 I get borderline offended when I find out the kind of stuff a particular girl finds funny if it's something I personally find hacky or cheesy. I'm like "she watches that show? She thinks that's funny?" One of the easier ways to discard someone's profile in online dating. Can't say OLD doesn't have any advantages. It would be tortuous to be with someone who isn't on your wavelength. 1
Titania22 Posted July 5, 2013 Posted July 5, 2013 Have you ever dated someone who didn't have the same sense of humor as you? Were you able to make it work? I was married to someone very serious that almost seemed to have no sense of humour (if he did, it wasn't anything like mine). It wasn't fun. Years later I had a guy friend who introduced humour and laughter into my life every week. I had never experienced such a thing before and it was so wonderful, that I wouldn't waste too much time around people who at the very least, couldn't be amused by my humour. I don't think we can ever laugh too much. 2
irc333 Posted July 5, 2013 Posted July 5, 2013 I've always heard of women saying how they just LOVE a man with a sense of humor, but dont' date them, at least in my case...I have no problem making them laugh, but I just wind up being a good bud to have around the parties to joke around with, but no thing romantic. Have you ever dated someone who didn't have the same sense of humor as you? Were you able to make it work? Maybe I place more importance on sense of humor than most, but I still can't realistically see myself dating someone who's sense of humor differs from mine. I get borderline offended when I find out the kind of stuff a particular girl finds funny if it's something I personally find hacky or cheesy. I'm like "she watches that show? She thinks that's funny?" It's also brutal if I say something to a girl and she gives me the face and I have to say "...it was a joke" Then she gives me the "ohhh...ok...ha..." Torture. Anytime you have to tell someone it's a joke, you've already lost. I think one of my best qualities is being funny and if a girl doesn't get my style of humor, that's a big chunk of me she's missing out on. I can't see myself being with someone who didn't get my style of humor, or who didn't make me laugh from time to time herself. I'm not saying a sense of humor can take someone I find unattractive, and get me to date them, but at the same time, if I find you incredibly attractive physically but you don't "get" me--I can't be with you. It's just too brutal. Do you care about humor at all?
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