ddlovexx Posted July 5, 2013 Posted July 5, 2013 I texted him. He left me for another girl over a month ago and completely deleted me from his life. I've been happy and perfectly fine without him... and tonight I got drunk and texted him "Happy 4th, hope you're doing well" and his GF started calling me nonstop (had to block her number) and he replied "wish me well? I could be on my death bed and I'd use every last ounce to tell you off". I've never done anything to him.. HE did ME wrong... wtf? Wish he would just grow up. Why couldn't he just say "hope you're doing well too"?? I've also heard stories about how nobody likes his new gf, how she's crazy and they constantly fight. How he asks about me, etc... so wtf? I don't ever want him back... why do I even care a little? Ugh, so emotional over nothing. I don't even care about him, don't know why I did it... stupid alcohol. And now I'm just upset. :'( How can someone be so cruel, especially when I haven't done anything wrong?
marqueemoon4 Posted July 5, 2013 Posted July 5, 2013 1. they sound like nasty, immature, lame people. 2. if you're happy and don't want anything to do with him who cares 3. If that's you in your avatar you're very cute, find a guy who appreciates and values you 3
hellischrome Posted July 5, 2013 Posted July 5, 2013 You are OK without him, that's it. He can spend how many energies he wants, you just go on. And yeah, you look really cute, you don't need his crap! 1
Tinie Posted July 5, 2013 Posted July 5, 2013 Maybe he knows you're happy and he's jealous because he's not. 2
Author ddlovexx Posted July 5, 2013 Author Posted July 5, 2013 I'm really just mad at myself for even texting him... And I'm bothered that he was so nasty to me. He said he "doesn't give a **** about me and we're never getting back together" and yadda yadda which is whatever, I'd rather jump into boiling water anyway... but I never did anything to him for him to be so cruel. The last text I sent said "I wouldn't ever want you back in a million years. Ive never been happier I'm glad you responded this way because it just proves how immature and not worth it you are. :)" and he never responded. Ugh. Guess sometimes you learn the hard way that not everyone deserves a spot in your life.
Legatus Posted July 5, 2013 Posted July 5, 2013 People do weird things when they drunk. That's why I never take my phone with me hah It's possible she put him up to it, or it was actually her who texted it. Anyhow DO NOT CARE! At least now you learnt your lesson, I'm sure, and will be stronger next time when you feel the urge to text him. I learnt the same way that some people are just cruel and evil, not in general but to us (respectively). They will get their share of karma someday. I'm sure of it. Stay strong and most importantly away from him, but I'm certain you would do it anyway. Don't beat yourself up, at least you got final confirmation of the fact that he's an idiot, coward and immature git! 1
athousandquestions Posted July 5, 2013 Posted July 5, 2013 At least you didn't send a text saying like "I would do anything to have you back" etc A lot worse drunk texts have been sent! Don't beat yourself up about it. These people sound INSANE. As far as they know that could've been a mass text to everyone in your contact list. Just take this as another reason why you should be happy you aren't in that relationship anymore. 1
supaflyz Posted July 5, 2013 Posted July 5, 2013 Its ok. I remember I drunk texted and called my ex after I went to the club. Even had some girls number too. At first I thought she just fell out of love with me or because I said some mean things to her in person and text. However, I found out that she actually is in a new relationship with another person 2 weeks after we broke up. Just found that out like 2 days ago from an old friend. I learn my lesson. Yesterday I spent July 4th with a bunch of friends and family at my cousin beach house. We swam, play volleyball, pop fireworks, drink, play football. At the end of the day I still kind of miss her. We plan on watching the fireworks together months ago. We found out that we both like to go to the same spot every year to watch the fireworks ever since we were kids. This year I wanted to go to that place, but didn't want to go to places that reminds me of her. I wanted to text her Happy 4th so bad, but I restrain myself. SHe could of just do the same if she wanted. I hope you have better self control from now on and learn your lesson. Be strong my friend. We can get through this.
Larry Walker Posted July 6, 2013 Posted July 6, 2013 It probably wasn't even him. I've got 20 dollars betting the girlfriend was texting you those messages. 1
Tenderheartbear Posted July 6, 2013 Posted July 6, 2013 I was thinking the same thing LW. Either that or he was putting on a show for her because she probably scares him.
Nik1 Posted July 6, 2013 Posted July 6, 2013 It probably wasn't even him. I've got 20 dollars betting the girlfriend was texting you those messages. Yeah, exactly what I was thinking.
Author ddlovexx Posted July 7, 2013 Author Posted July 7, 2013 I was thinking the same thing LW. Either that or he was putting on a show for her because she probably scares him. It was probably him putting on a show, because he texts a certain way and spells certain words oddly so I know it was in fact him. But even so... come on. Honestly I think he still would've been that cruel whether she was there or not... it's not like he HAD to show her the texts. Sucks when adults act like children.
Shaun-Dro Posted July 7, 2013 Posted July 7, 2013 I texted him. He left me for another girl over a month ago and completely deleted me from his life. I've been happy and perfectly fine without him... and tonight I got drunk and texted him "Happy 4th, hope you're doing well" and his GF started calling me nonstop (had to block her number) and he replied "wish me well? I could be on my death bed and I'd use every last ounce to tell you off". I've never done anything to him.. HE did ME wrong... wtf? Wish he would just grow up. Why couldn't he just say "hope you're doing well too"?? I've also heard stories about how nobody likes his new gf, how she's crazy and they constantly fight. How he asks about me, etc... so wtf? I don't ever want him back... why do I even care a little? Ugh, so emotional over nothing. I don't even care about him, don't know why I did it... stupid alcohol. And now I'm just upset. :'( How can someone be so cruel, especially when I haven't done anything wrong? This whole thread looks wrong: you bothering him in a drunken state and you blame it on the alcohol when we both know it's because you're not yet over him. Then his current flame lights a fire up your ass and you're still wondering? I think you better go find new hobbies or better yet, a new boyfriend. 1
Author ddlovexx Posted July 7, 2013 Author Posted July 7, 2013 Shaun... disagree completely. I got over him rather quickly, what I still am getting over is how ****ty his behavior was/is for no reason. I have felt absolutely no need or want to even speak to him but people kept talking about it and it got in my head and in addition I had been drinking all day long. Also, his current flame is underage and apparently as nuts as he is... not worried about her, hence me blocking the number as soon as she started bothering me. Not beating myself up for it anymore nor do I really care... it's okay to vent sometimes, that's what LS is for!
Larry Walker Posted July 8, 2013 Posted July 8, 2013 I hate to say this, I really do. But it proves that when you treat a woman like crap, she will think more about you. If this guy responded nicely to her, she would never have made this thread. Just the fact he is a jerk who rejected you has you obsessing over him. It's a classic case of treat them like crap, they want you back. 2
winstonsdreams Posted July 8, 2013 Posted July 8, 2013 Yet these are the dudes that still get the chicks, i need to learn how to be an arsehole..
Larry Walker Posted July 8, 2013 Posted July 8, 2013 Yet these are the dudes that still get the chicks, i need to learn how to be an arsehole.. You have to be a jerk after you bang them. They will obsess over you.
Eivuwan Posted July 8, 2013 Posted July 8, 2013 I hate to say this, I really do. But it proves that when you treat a woman like crap, she will think more about you. If this guy responded nicely to her, she would never have made this thread. Just the fact he is a jerk who rejected you has you obsessing over him. It's a classic case of treat them like crap, they want you back. stop overgeneralizing and she doesn't want him back 1
Larry Walker Posted July 8, 2013 Posted July 8, 2013 stop overgeneralizing and she doesn't want him back That's what she says, but actions speak louder than words my friend.
Author ddlovexx Posted July 8, 2013 Author Posted July 8, 2013 LW, a text message isn't an action. Also, I broke up with him... Then found out about the other girl... If I wanted to be with him I would admit it- this site is for help not for judgement so why would I lie about things on here? He is the biggest piece of **** I've ever met so no, I don't think "more of him" at all. I was just taken aback by his cruelness in the matter... It was a vent. All is good.
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