jimtash Posted October 20, 2004 Posted October 20, 2004 It's been a while since I posted here because the relationship I was in was fine up until today. If you do a search on my name, you'll come to thread by me where I talked about getting back with my ex. Anyway, we did and even moved in together and everthing was fine until last week. That's when her ex called her on her birthday and since that day, it was downhill until today when she told me that she want to give him another shot. I am heartbroken and she really didn't even care. The real kicker is that I read his letter that he wrote her dated 10/14 and he wrote that it was good that they were talking about their future together. What was I supposed to think or feel when on that date, I thought that we were still together and everthing was the same. He will be back here in December or January after spending time in Mississippi. That's the reason she wants to get back together because their relationship didn't end in arguments or the like, but because he was taken back to serve time and the relationship wasn't allowed to run it's course and she feels like she owes him that much. Now here's the real thing that I keep asking myself. Does she want to be in a normal relationship or does she want to be owned? According to her, when they were together she was not allowed to speak to other men or even keep a job. His excuse is that it's disrespecting him if she talks to other men. She even told me that one day while going shopping, another man smiled at her, just freaking smiled and this guy turned the car around and was going to confront him. I have never ever done anything like that, never. I let her have her space, her freedom and never questioned her. We never argued and we were at peace. Although tonight I got pissed and told her that it's time to grow up and make some mature decisions about her life, she responded with a "**** you". I did respond with the "C" word, and I swear this is the only time we have ever said things like that to each other. I'm still in disbelief and when I asked her why she's doing this, her answer is that it's her and not me. Why does she want to go through this with him? By his actions alone, anyone with a brain knows where this is going to lead her and that's down a road to nowhere. Thanks for the vent.
Weird Posted October 20, 2004 Posted October 20, 2004 Whoa whoa whoa... fill me in on a few more details. So you and this girl broke up, then got back together and now she is breaking up to get back with her ex before you? Wow, that is crazy but it does show that despite what some members on this board say, a person can still hold out hope for an ex even after they get involved in another relationship and shows it is silly to get invovled in another relationship if there are still feelings for an ex. She has basically screwed you over because of that and it was very selfish of her to get with you when her heart wasn't fully prepared for it. Anyway about your situation...I say you just wash your hands of this and go about living your life knowing she is really messed in the head right now and isn't worth the effort. Chances are she is making a big mistake (based on how you say her ex tries to control her) and will realize it and come crying back to you. In fact, I am almost positive she will comeback to you when this crap wit her ex goes baaad. The only thing you can do is live your life and when the time comes for her to come back you can either tell her "sorry, you blew it" or you can be receptive of her and forgive her and get involved with her again. Oh and she most likely said "**** you" to you because you called her out on her being immature and she knows she is but instead of agree, she hurled an insult at you....a classic human response to justified criticism. really bro, just do your best to wash your hands of the situation/her for now and let time sort out everything. You seem to already know how her thing wiht her ex is going to turn out so for the time being feel good you will be proven right in most likely a short period of time. As for why she would want to get back with a guy who treats her like crap....I have no idea. People can make some of the dumbest decisions ever (especially when it comes to relationship matters) that just make me scratch my head and wonder what they are smoking.
grojas1986 Posted October 20, 2004 Posted October 20, 2004 F*ck that sl*t. don't worry about her man. if she was spreading for you and all of a sudden went back to her ex, that should disgust you. don't let bitches f*ck with your head or emotions. If she does one day come back, blow her off. I'ts for the best. I recently got over my ex this past week and i feel great. Don't feel that your missing out on something just because you aren't with her. There are plenty of great women out there. Just go with the flow, don't dwell on this, and start to have fun. Come on, your single now. Back to square one were you get to meet new chicks and start new relationships. Good Luck Buddy!
Author jimtash Posted October 20, 2004 Author Posted October 20, 2004 She just called a few minutes ago asking about her belongings and won't even talk about nothing else. She even hung up the phone on me when she said I am making it hard for her to apologize. Screw her.
amerikajin Posted October 20, 2004 Posted October 20, 2004 Screw her is right. She's not worth a moment of your time. It's weird, but some women actually seem to prefer dysfunctional men to functional people such as yourself. And that reminds me, when you say he "served time", do you mean he served time in jail? You mean, she wants to be with a jailbird?! Just cut your losses and move on. Return her belongings, wipe your hands clean of this relationship, and don't even think about letting her back into your life ever again. My hunch tells me that she may try you again, but ignore her.
Author jimtash Posted October 20, 2004 Author Posted October 20, 2004 Oh she'll be back, of that I'm certain. But the way I'm getting treated right now says a lot about her and I don't know if I could ever forgive her for treating me like a piece of garbage, throw away and forget. I've never done anything for her to act this way but be there and so for that, I guess I deserve it.
Author jimtash Posted October 20, 2004 Author Posted October 20, 2004 Well she called me again at 2:30 in the morning last night demanding her things, I mean is this rediculous or what. She said that she doesn't have anything to wear to work and you know, like I really care. I hung up the phone and she theatened to call every ten minutes until I picked up again, which she did. I think my dog is going to leave her a nice going away present in her belongings since she likes to treat me so much like it.
Weird Posted October 20, 2004 Posted October 20, 2004 WOW. She sounds super messed up. She keeps digging a bigger hole for herself and may have no clue just how big it has gotten. Crazy I can't wait until she realizes she made a mistake and comes crawling back to you. PLEASE make sure you post that here when it happens. What's the age of this crazy broad?
Author jimtash Posted October 20, 2004 Author Posted October 20, 2004 She turned 31 the 9th of this month. The way she sees it, she's thinks she's never going to want to come back but I know better. She says that we should be adults about this, but this is a far cry from acting like a descent human being. I'm sitting here feeling like crap and she's sticking it to me even harder. At least have a little compassion. I did nothing to her but be there and love her.
EC Posted October 20, 2004 Posted October 20, 2004 Dang...I can't believe after giving you hope and moving in with you she has the nerve to treat you like sh*t! You know what it was right? her guy left out of town and she was lonely..so she gave you another chance and moved in with you..to kill time untill he came back.. What a meanie that girl lol Screw that girl and when she comes back begging and pleading pls dont take her back... I so want an update on her picking up her work clothes with that doogy treat inside lmao!
Author jimtash Posted October 20, 2004 Author Posted October 20, 2004 Yep, I even told her that she has the reasoning of a 14 year old.
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