henderson14 Posted July 5, 2013 Posted July 5, 2013 I met this girl a few weekends ago out at a bar and we connected great, danced, and made out a lot. She contacted me the next day and we planned a date. Date went well. By the end of the night she had her head on my shoulder. Then we went out and danced again that same night and I had my hands all over her and she didn't stop me. Then when we were at that point where it felt right to kiss, she kind of shied away. Like not making eye contact because she knew a kiss was coming. I don't get why she did this? She was also still texting me and seeming interested the next day and since then. NOTE: She was only here for a few weeks and was flying back 8 hours away the following week. But she will be back probably a few times within the next year and then possibly move here a year from now. Was it maybe because she knew she was leaving soon or something and didn't want to get too close?
kaylan Posted July 5, 2013 Posted July 5, 2013 Um....just kiss her. Some girls are shy...some girls like anticipation...some girls just want the guy to make the first move. Just kiss her next time. Simple. 1
Author henderson14 Posted July 5, 2013 Author Posted July 5, 2013 (edited) Um....just kiss her. Some girls are shy...some girls like anticipation...some girls just want the guy to make the first move. Just kiss her next time. Simple. Good advice. Its just that she didn't shy away the first night so it confused me a bit. I did make the first move also, but like I said, she kind of turned away. I'm sure some females on here could share some insight. I do know that sometimes when a girl really likes a guy and is shy she will by shy and avoid eye contact, especially in situations like that. It was hard to tell though. Edited July 5, 2013 by henderson14
Feelin Frisky Posted July 5, 2013 Posted July 5, 2013 I know I'll get crap for this but when it's awkward like that but everything else says it's right it's OK to ask and say "may I". I don't usually do that but I had the same situation and I think she was obsessing over it so much that she let it interfere with her flow. So I put my finger gently under her chin to infer I wanted he to look up at me (I'm tall" and asked "may I kiss you" and her asner was, "that's what I like about you, you make things so easy". And then we made out. So woman have said they hate to be asked, and I don't but once in a while you find one who is nervous and is afraid of w/e (being dopey at it, embarrassing herself etc.) Believe me, some females are every bit as self conscious as some males--especially if you're a guy who is intimidatingly handsome. *nudge nudge wink wink*
HokeyReligions Posted July 5, 2013 Posted July 5, 2013 Bad breath? Something in your teeth? Something in her teeth? Maybe she just burped? I don't like to kiss after I eat some foods until I brus h my teeth. I burped once in the middle of a kiss and was mortified! It was a tiny burp more like a little gurgle after we had dinner but still. Maybe it was something like that.
Author henderson14 Posted July 5, 2013 Author Posted July 5, 2013 I know I'll get crap for this but when it's awkward like that but everything else says it's right it's OK to ask and say "may I". I don't usually do that but I had the same situation and I think she was obsessing over it so much that she let it interfere with her flow. So I put my finger gently under her chin to infer I wanted he to look up at me (I'm tall" and asked "may I kiss you" and her asner was, "that's what I like about you, you make things so easy". And then we made out. So woman have said they hate to be asked, and I don't but once in a while you find one who is nervous and is afraid of w/e (being dopey at it, embarrassing herself etc.) Believe me, some females are every bit as self conscious as some males--especially if you're a guy who is intimidatingly handsome. *nudge nudge wink wink* Never Ask! Just do it! Next time if I'm in that situation I'll just be assertive and tell her to look at me, then go for it.
Feelin Frisky Posted July 5, 2013 Posted July 5, 2013 Never Ask! Just do it! Next time if I'm in that situation I'll just be assertive and tell her to look at me, then go for it. Never take absolutist advice. I qualified why the one time I did it turned out to be the right thing to do and said plenty about avoiding do it. But if all else fails and the girl shows she want to but balks, that's the exception where asking will answer with either a yes or usually a gentle verbalization of what's holding her back--which is better than second-guessing yourself forever after. No one frolics all night with someone they revile. Trust that.
Author henderson14 Posted July 5, 2013 Author Posted July 5, 2013 It wasn't bad breath. If she was so shy, why did she make out with me the first night we met?
PlumPrincess Posted July 5, 2013 Posted July 5, 2013 If you really want to have the real answer, you will have to ask her. Otherwise, it's just speculation. My guess is, the first kiss was good and then she realized that she was going away and that's when she tried to maintain a certain distance from you by not kissing you. A guy once told me, he was scared to kiss me, because he was leaving the country. Before we had a close moment sitting together, but nothing happened. In the end, he practically jumped up and ran to grab the cab to the airport.
Author henderson14 Posted July 6, 2013 Author Posted July 6, 2013 If you really want to have the real answer, you will have to ask her. Otherwise, it's just speculation. My guess is, the first kiss was good and then she realized that she was going away and that's when she tried to maintain a certain distance from you by not kissing you. A guy once told me, he was scared to kiss me, because he was leaving the country. Before we had a close moment sitting together, but nothing happened. In the end, he practically jumped up and ran to grab the cab to the airport. I kind of think it was that also.
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