thereal Posted July 4, 2013 Posted July 4, 2013 Heres the story.. So me and my ex have been dating for nearly 2 years now, she is my first real love. I was/am head over heels for her. I have been there for her when nobody has, cared for her. She got admitted to hospital and I was the only person who came to support her at 2am, and stayed for days. Basically I have proved my love for her time and time again and always took care of her. I go to a music festival with my friends every year. We buy the tickets about 8 months before the festival. I bought my tickets, then a few months later my ex asked if I would go with her instead. I said no as I have already planned to go with my friends and promised her that we would go the next year. We had a big argument, but after a while things were ok again. So the week before the festival, we are getting on better than we ever have. We are madly in love. Then the morning i go to leave for the festival, she is cold and angry with me. So i go to the festival, then the day i get home (to my parents house) she texts me telling me its over and she can't believe I have done this too her etc. She is so mad. I tried to reason with her but she is so stubborn. In the end after much arguing, she breaks up with me. I am distraught. I can't eat, sleep, think. In the back my mind i know that she can't be the one for me if she would end a beautiful 2 year relationship over this. But my heart wants her back more than anything. She still won't see me. When we speak we argue. Iv tried NC but she just texts me angry messages. She will go thru stages of being angry, to saying she still loves me but will never be able to forgive me. She tells me she misses our life together and misses me. I don't know what to do, I really need some advice? Thanks.
forgetmenot75 Posted July 4, 2013 Posted July 4, 2013 (edited) She seems to be a little on the crazy side...emotionally unstable. i mean, do you really want to be with a person who gets uncontrolable angry for some random reason? I'd try to move on and find a healthier relationship. Edited July 4, 2013 by forgetmenot75
Author thereal Posted July 4, 2013 Author Posted July 4, 2013 She has had a hard upbringing. She has been looking after herself from a young age. We are both 22 now btw. I am the first person she has trusted and loved. She has crazy moments, but i still love her. Maybe it is best to let her go. But my heart doesn't want to.
forgetmenot75 Posted July 4, 2013 Posted July 4, 2013 She is not treating you well and you need to acknowledge this. You need to realize this is no normal behavior, no matter how hard her upbringing was.
swimswithjeans Posted July 4, 2013 Posted July 4, 2013 I'm sorry you're going through this, thereal. But the thing is that if THIS is REALLY a dealbreaker for her... She isn't long-term material. You MUST let her come back on her own terms IF she is to come back. If not, you really have to take solace in the fact that you WERE there for her as best you could be and it sounds like you did a great job doing so. You did not do anything knowingly wrong from what it sounds like; so there is really nothing you can do at this point. And it really stinks but she will come back if it is meant to be. Just be with your friends and try and stay occupied... Post here instead of messaging her; you can PM me if you want.
Author thereal Posted July 4, 2013 Author Posted July 4, 2013 Thanks guys. This is really hard. I just don't understand how she can be fine with me right up until the day I went. I feel helpless. I havn't seen her since the festival either. I just feel like i'v gone from so high to super lower low in seconds.
BC1980 Posted July 5, 2013 Posted July 5, 2013 She sounds unstable to me. I personally couldn't put up with that at this point in my life. There is a statute of limitations on how long you can blame your parents or your upbringing on the choices you are making. She's young but still, she is an adult.
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