chaychay Posted July 4, 2013 Posted July 4, 2013 so today I feel a little down again, after whats happened, I don't really know why I feel down I just feel down and I just feel like listening to sad music and just being sad over my ex and I don't know why :/ is that normal or am I just weird? I cant really figure out whats on my mind apart from the fact that I feel betrayed, but other than that im stuck wondering why he doesn't miss me, I don't know to be honest, what are your opinions on karma? do you think it exists? and will I ever get over my first love? I always read this stuff on the internet about people never really getting over their first love, and It makes me feel worse! I cant be stuck with this feeling can I ? its just like a sudden rush of sadness.
Leegh Posted July 4, 2013 Posted July 4, 2013 I wouldn't listen to any sad music, as that will just enhance the memories. I somewhat believe in karma. Sometimes it can appear that folks are happy, great wedding pictures, etc., but then ten years down the road, things are far from perfect. I would take a day at a time, but definitely don't listen to any sad music now.
LosingHope0806 Posted July 4, 2013 Posted July 4, 2013 People do get over there first love, it takes some time and doing but they do. I do believe that Karma exists, it just doesn't happen when we want it to. But it'll happen if one truly deserves it, good or bad. That being said it generally only happens when we least care about it happening. 1
Sneaky Posted July 4, 2013 Posted July 4, 2013 It's normal and fine to give yourself some time to mourn the relationship but at a certain point you have to stop and get busy with something to keep your mind off it. Not saying that moment is now because that's for you to decide and even after there will be ups and downs for a long while. (I still have them after a month of NC.) 1
Laur3n Posted July 4, 2013 Posted July 4, 2013 What you feel now is perfectly normal and although listening to sad music is comforting I would suggest to slowly ween yourself off of it and replace it with music that would motivate you in a more positive direction, I for one loved the song called "Gone Forever" from Three Days Grace. 1
youngbutoldsoul Posted July 4, 2013 Posted July 4, 2013 One of the best things a close friend of mine told me when I went through my first-love breakup was "In life, you have your first love and true love. Everything else in between is just a map showing you where to go". I, too, at one point was in your place. My world was shattered. My first love (first kiss, first everything) left me shortly after our Christmas vacation, one in which his mother and him discussed our engagement once I moved into his town once summer came. It was the most joyful time of my life. Then, all of a sudden he fell for someone else. Just two days after our breakup, I find pictures of him and someone who replaced me. It completely destroyed me but as time went on a few things happened 1) I realized I did NOT deserve to put my life on hold and go through all this pain over someone who decided they could care less if I was in their life 2) I kept my faith in love....and what do you know.....I bumped into the second love of my life just four months after that devastating period of my life. I PROMISE you that you WILL fall in love again and it will undoubtedly reframe your current situation. One day you will be able to look back fondly of your first love, appreciate that piece of your lifetime, but find peace. And in regards to karma, the one my first love left me ended up LEAVING HIM and destroyed his reputation in his town. He suffered loneliness, depression, and having absolutely no friends for over a year.....so yes, I do believe in Karma 3
Author chaychay Posted July 4, 2013 Author Posted July 4, 2013 thank you so much for the comfort, it makes me feel better just hearing peoples opinions and just ranting and letting it all out I guess
Southern Cal Dude Posted July 4, 2013 Posted July 4, 2013 Yes it does and it also works in mysterious ways.
marqueemoon4 Posted July 4, 2013 Posted July 4, 2013 I believe in karma about as much as I believe in the Easter Bunny. Or unicorns.
Legatus Posted July 5, 2013 Posted July 5, 2013 I believe strongly in karma. If someone is doing something evil - they will receive an equal amount of sadness in their life, eventually. The balance in the universe must be preserved
Bozena Posted July 5, 2013 Posted July 5, 2013 No I don't believe in irrational things. It is just comforting to think that karma or divine punishment exists and that everything happens for a reason but no. This is just comforting things to try to fool of ourselves like religion. but if by believing you feel better, then there is no problem, go for it. As for your first love, I am now at my 30s. I guess my first love was my 6 years boyfriend in highschool or if he isn't him, then my boyfriend at 19. I don't remember anyone anymore. So don't worry, time heals everything. Believe me
GorillaTheater Posted July 5, 2013 Posted July 5, 2013 TaraMaiden will be here to kick your asses shortly. Aaaaany minute now.
travelonic Posted July 5, 2013 Posted July 5, 2013 Depends on how you define karma. IF you look at it in a manner similar to Newton's 3rd Law of Motion, to every action there is always an equal and opposite reaction, I'd say yes - there can be. I need to think of some examples to try to explain my thoughts a bit better though.
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