rogersm Posted July 4, 2013 Posted July 4, 2013 My whole situation with my ex is confusing. At least I think. This is my first breakup, so maybe I am just reading too much into it. To sum up everything I really want my ex back. But, she has told me that she doesn't see us getting back togethor. Even though she enjoyed the time we spent togethor and was happy we dated for so long. I really feel like she has GIGs but who knows. I have been trying to move on now. I blocked her on twitter a couple weeks ago because she kept posting stuff about seeing another guy and how people were asking about me. She got mad at this, but continued to follow me. She also has been texting me after seeing stuff on my twitter and instagram. She says I have changed. Whcih I have a little. I realized the mistakes I made while we were togethor and I am trying to make myself a better person now. But, I dont see why she would keep bring that up. I told her that change might be a good thing for me. She answered by saying "yea maybe. maybe you will a girlfriend". I of course took that as her being rude. Can somebody else tell me what is going on here?
TaraMaiden Posted July 4, 2013 Posted July 4, 2013 Nope. No point. It doesn't matter. She's your ex. What goes on between her ears really isn't your concern. You need to block her completely, delete twitter, block/de-friend her on FB, get a call/text blocker app installed on your phone (there are some really good free ones), change your email address, and.... getting the picture? Read the No Contact Guide in my signature. All these responses to her are simply an ego-feed for her. Your mission - should you decide to accept it - is to quit responding to everything and anything, form this second on. .....GO!
Author rogersm Posted July 5, 2013 Author Posted July 5, 2013 I just want to know what she might be thinking because I miss her. I have been trying to get over her and I cant. Everybody says go no contact and I get that. But, it is so tough when you love somebody. I truly want her to be happy. But, I gues selfishly I want her to be happy with me.It has been two months of hell for me. Everyday I think about her even though I am doing things to get away from it. I have had contact with other girls, joined a gym, even deleted her off twitter. And yet I still cant move on.
Simon Phoenix Posted July 5, 2013 Posted July 5, 2013 I just want to know what she might be thinking because I miss her. I have been trying to get over her and I cant. Everybody says go no contact and I get that. But, it is so tough when you love somebody. I truly want her to be happy. But, I gues selfishly I want her to be happy with me.It has been two months of hell for me. Everyday I think about her even though I am doing things to get away from it. I have had contact with other girls, joined a gym, even deleted her off twitter. And yet I still cant move on. Stop staying in contact. That's why you can't move on, because you keep talking to her. And two months isn't anything, moving on takes time. You just keep delaying it by continuing to correspond with her. She has told you flat out that she doesn't want to be with you. Nothing else really matters. And it's a waste of your time to try to figure out what another person is thinking. 1
TaraMaiden Posted July 5, 2013 Posted July 5, 2013 I just want to know what she might be thinking because I miss her. Yes we know. Sadly, just like every other 'poor Joe' who's been dumped. I have been trying to get over her and I cant. No, you haven't. You can't even BEGIN to think about the process of 'getting over' someone until you've closed every possible way and means of contact. Until then, you've actually made zero effort, so it's not a wonder you can't. Everybody says go no contact and I get that. No, you obviously don't.... Why haven't you therefore gone 'No Contact' if 'everyone says' so? No Contact works. But you DON'T get that - because you haven't implemented it.... But, it is so tough when you love somebody. Yes, we know. Sadly, just like every other 'poor Joe' who's been dumped. #2. I truly want her to be happy. But, I gues selfishly I want her to be happy with me. Then, she's not going to BE happy, is she? You need to let her go, block her off, delete, de-friend, and deny all and every way of contact - in BOTH directions.... You need to give both you - and her - the opportunity to really become accustomed to not having each other to bounce on.... It has been two months of hell for me. Everyday I think about her even though I am doing things to get away from it. I have had contact with other girls, joined a gym, even deleted her off twitter. And yet I still cant move on. No, you can't - not until you sever all ties - in precisely the same way a surgeon performs an amputation. Time to let it all go, and really just keep looking in one direction, and one only. Forward. And away from her. 1
Minneloa Posted July 5, 2013 Posted July 5, 2013 I just want to know what she might be thinking because I miss her. I have been trying to get over her and I cant. Everybody says go no contact and I get that. But, it is so tough when you love somebody. I truly want her to be happy. But, I gues selfishly I want her to be happy with me.It has been two months of hell for me. Everyday I think about her even though I am doing things to get away from it. I have had contact with other girls, joined a gym, even deleted her off twitter. And yet I still cant move on. As Simon and Tara stated above, the reason you cannot move on is because you are still in contact with your ex. Please, please give NC a true chance to help you heal and move on with your life. At this point, you have been miserable for two months; what do you have to lose by trying a tested method that has worked for countless others? (And if your answer is, "my ex," sorry, but she's already gone.)
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