InsaneTrombone Posted July 4, 2013 Posted July 4, 2013 (edited) When I first started dating this girl, she would make all these kinds of jokes like I could kidnap her or something. She'd be like, oh that'd be a perfect spot for you to kidnap me and rape me or something. I'd joke back and say, oh hey there's another good spot. This was on the FIRST date. I've been on 5 dates with her since, and the amount of mentioning this stuff has definitely gone down, but should I make anything out of this? Is she a freak in bed and wants me to push the envelope, even if she says no? On one hand, I think it's kind of sexy, on the other, I like the girl and am really hesitant to go that route and if I'm reading this wrong, it would be a disaster. Should I try initiating these 'jokes' again and see if she plays along like the first/second date? Edited July 4, 2013 by InsaneTrombone
Author InsaneTrombone Posted July 4, 2013 Author Posted July 4, 2013 She could be a girl into rape fantasy or she is making a joke out of feeling uncomfortable being alone with a guy. Herein lies my dilemma lol.
Author InsaneTrombone Posted July 4, 2013 Author Posted July 4, 2013 Even if she is into rape fantasy rarely do those girls actually desire to be raped and few are looking for kinkier sex. To them it is only fantasy. Well yeah of course, I didn't plan on taking her to some backwoods or something..but what about a situation where things are getting a bit hot n heavy, and she tries to stop it by saying something like 'I think we're going a little too fast'? Is it too risky to ignore the first warning in this case?
Casablanca Posted July 4, 2013 Posted July 4, 2013 Is she a freak in bed and wants me to push the envelope, even if she says no? On one hand, I think it's kind of sexy, on the other, I like the girl and am really hesitant to go that route and if I'm reading this wrong, it would be a disaster. Should I try initiating these 'jokes' again and see if she plays along like the first/second date? Never do this! You can start making more sexual flirting What are you two doing when she says things are going too fast?
Imported Posted July 4, 2013 Posted July 4, 2013 Just ask her. Be like, "Hey, with all your joking I kinda got the feeling that you might like rough sex, maybe even being dominated and more." Watch her face, if she looks like she is completely not into it, be like "Cause I am not into that stuff! Seems very degrading to women and I am all about respect and devotion. Puppy dogs....fluffy furry kittens playing with a yarn ball" (causes a mental image that may just help you!).
Author InsaneTrombone Posted July 5, 2013 Author Posted July 5, 2013 Never do this! You can start making more sexual flirting What are you two doing when she says things are going too fast? It only happened once, but she had climbed ontop of me, started kissing my neck, biting my ear, tugging on my boxers, pushing her hips into me and moaning. I ended up ontop of her kissing her neck and when I went down to her chest she said that.
shexy Posted July 5, 2013 Posted July 5, 2013 I don't know why any girl would ever say something like that....rape, in my opinion, is absolutely NOTHING to make a joke about. I will take a wild guess that she's never been a victim of a sexual assault if she's saying that as a joke. It's possible she could be into that kind of thing as a sexual fantasy or something. I think you'll just have to ask her.
Archgirl Posted July 5, 2013 Posted July 5, 2013 Even if she has a rape fantasy there is no way in hell you should initiate anything about it. 1
Moe'sTavern Posted July 5, 2013 Posted July 5, 2013 Even if she has a rape fantasy there is no way in hell you should initiate anything about it. You'd think this would be obvious. But apparently not so much. 1
Casablanca Posted July 5, 2013 Posted July 5, 2013 It only happened once, but she had climbed ontop of me, started kissing my neck, biting my ear, tugging on my boxers, pushing her hips into me and moaning. I ended up ontop of her kissing her neck and when I went down to her chest she said that. Really weird...you might be best to just ask how far she is comfortably willing to go
Star Gazer Posted July 5, 2013 Posted July 5, 2013 She could be a girl into rape fantasy or she is making a joke out of feeling uncomfortable being alone with a guy. I believe it's the latter. As she got more comfortable, she's less fearful.
Feelin Frisky Posted July 5, 2013 Posted July 5, 2013 I think she was just trying to telegraph her sexual nature and openness to overture from you. Her lessening of this can mean two things, she less interested in exploring that with you or feels she has done enough to let you know you can make a move on her. I don't think it's about rape fantasy at all--not even a little. It's time ( or pass time) for you to make a move toward engaging her in physically in sex. Get out of first gear my friend. 1
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