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Two years ago I met a guy online, I really liked him but apparently we were just on different pages, me wanting a relationship and him..well not.

This is where it gets complex, he's a biiigg traveller so I barely see him (infact its been a year since) but we talk every day via email. Even whilst he was travelling. I always enjoy our conversations as its never boring or mundane.

 

He is coming to see me next week where it obvious we will be hooking up but I am now having second thoughts. As I'd like to take things further.

Does a guy who emails you everyday for two years really just wanting one thing?

Is there anything I can do to...make him like me as a potential girlfriend or have I pretty much screwed that up already?

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You may be different, but if it were me, I wouldn't hook up with somebody I had feelings for. Too painful.

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Two years ago I met a guy online, I really liked him but apparently we were just on different pages, me wanting a relationship and him..well not.

This is where it gets complex, he's a biiigg traveller so I barely see him (infact its been a year since) but we talk every day via email. Even whilst he was travelling. I always enjoy our conversations as its never boring or mundane.

 

He is coming to see me next week where it obvious we will be hooking up but I am now having second thoughts. As I'd like to take things further.

Does a guy who emails you everyday for two years really just wanting one thing?

Is there anything I can do to...make him like me as a potential girlfriend or have I pretty much screwed that up already?

 

Yes. Emails are quick and easy to write.

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Yes. Emails are quick and easy to write.

Yeah, it is a small investment of time, just maybe a minute or two

 

How long are these emails? I can't imagine them being super long or detailed if its every day

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How do you take things further with a person you don't see? I wouldn't hook up with him at all. He's just stopping by while he's going on his travels and when he's ready to move on again, he will.

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All you can really do is tell him how you feel and hope it goes for the best. However, to me, it sounds like this is to him exactly how he said it was (a fwb situation).

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You kinda set yourself up to be available when it's convenient for him. So he will never really see you as relationship potential.

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Does a guy who emails you everyday for two years really just wanting one thing?

Is there anything I can do to...make him like me as a potential girlfriend or have I pretty much screwed that up already?

 

 

He told you what he wanted. BELIEVE HIM! He doesn't want a relationship with you period.

 

Since you're only hanging on because you THINK you might be able to change his mind, do yourself a favor and just stop deluding yourself. Loose his number (email etc) and fixate on a guy who wants you as much as you want him.

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"Does a guy who emails you everyday for two years really just wanting one thing?"

 

::facepalm::

 

"Is there anything I can do to...make him like me as a potential girlfriend or have I pretty much screwed that up already"

 

::doublefacepalm::

 

 

*Peering at the sky in bewildered disbelief and confusion*

 

Why did you doooo thiiiss to meeeeee!!! whyyyyy!!!! Why did you put me here with these....people?!!!

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