Packard Posted July 4, 2013 Posted July 4, 2013 Perhaps this thread should be included in more than one narrow category. My question to all is: Would a totally non-sexual breastfeeding relationship with a non-spouse be considered "cheating-by-definition"? I'm stuck in a 'dead' marriage that has become a "marriage of convenience" that is, of course, unsatisfying. We've been legally married for 41 years, yet we don't "practice marriage" anymore, though "I can." Well, I have become very much attracted to the possibility of experiencing dry breastfeeding from another woman. Due to a childhood with no love, this really appeals to me. My wife doesn't even like me to touch her; so having 'it' with her is impossible. I concede that nursing would likely "stir" some desire or feelings. But neither does my potential nursing woman, nor I, wish to jeopardize my marriage, and thus we have committed to no sexual activity between us. Yet, she wants to nurse me and I want to be nursed. Opinions, please.
SmokeRat Posted July 4, 2013 Posted July 4, 2013 You should consider WHY you are stuck in a 'dead end' marriage. Why it became so, why you (and your spouse) let it become so, and why you stay in such a situation. These are key questions to ask yourself, and perhaps your spouse, before going off and having an affair. Now, do not fool yourself, what you wish to do is an affair regardless of the terms and conditions you may or may not place on it. Both you and your spouse have a hand in the current state of your marriage. Why haven't you tried to fix this, or if you have, why has it failed? I'm not trying to attack your character, as I do not know enough of your situation to do so. But I will tell you this, if you decide to proceed with this 'dry breast feeding' act while still married to your wife, you are cake eating. You are allowing your needs to supersede those of your spouse, not only that, you are lying, betraying and acting in a mode that is both dishonourable and pathetic. If you truly wish to follow through with this urge, tell your spouse, explain your reasons. This will allow your spouse to make an informed decision on whether she is ok with your actions, or your actions go against her moral code. In which case, she may opt to leave you. Think this over. You can either lie and gaslight your spouse, or be open and honest. Explain to her your needs, listen to her needs and come to a compromise. You've been married for 41 years, and I envy you, I envy that even after 41 years you've managed to stay married. It would be such a waste of memories and experiences to end it with an affair, lying and betrayal. All the best. 1
Turtles Posted July 4, 2013 Posted July 4, 2013 Perhaps this thread should be included in more than one narrow category. My question to all is: Would a totally non-sexual breastfeeding relationship with a non-spouse be considered "cheating-by-definition"? I'm stuck in a 'dead' marriage that has become a "marriage of convenience" that is, of course, unsatisfying. We've been legally married for 41 years, yet we don't "practice marriage" anymore, though "I can." Well, I have become very much attracted to the possibility of experiencing dry breastfeeding from another woman. Due to a childhood with no love, this really appeals to me. My wife doesn't even like me to touch her; so having 'it' with her is impossible. I concede that nursing would likely "stir" some desire or feelings. But neither does my potential nursing woman, nor I, wish to jeopardize my marriage, and thus we have committed to no sexual activity between us. Yet, she wants to nurse me and I want to be nursed. Opinions, please. You'd have to ask your wife what she thinks of it. She is the only one who can answer that, here is why: What consists "cheating" is established as a couple. There is no set rule. Some may be fine with the other watching porn, some not. Some may be fine with the other having opposite sex friends, some think it's cheating. Some may be fine with casual sex as long as there is no penetration, etc. For the record, unless he was under 2 year old I would absolutely consider it cheating if my wife let another guy suck on her breasts. Breastfeeding fetish or not.
beach Posted July 4, 2013 Posted July 4, 2013 Your description is very creepy - to me. Ask permission from your wife. She's the one you made a commitment to. Have you asked a counselor to help with your mommy issues? 3
wanting more Posted July 4, 2013 Posted July 4, 2013 This is a really weird situation. How did you find a woman to agree to this? Are you going to talk to your wife about it? 3
BetrayedH Posted July 4, 2013 Posted July 4, 2013 If you plan on hiding it from your wife, yeah, it's cheating. 3
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