brokenheart6298 Posted July 4, 2013 Posted July 4, 2013 (edited) so let me explain the situation a little bit. my girlfriend and i are both 23 we have been dating for seven months this is the first girl i have ever loved by the way. i own my own house have a good job and am very responsible. she is 23 is still in school and works at a bar. we started dating about 7 months ago she had just gotten out of a 6 year relationship where she was previously engaged. we had some of the most amazing times together. i took her on a cruise have bought her nice things and was always their for her when she needed me. she told me many times she loves me and was never this happy with her ex that i am the most amazing guy ever. now after about six months her parents are going through a rough divorce she is going out drinking every night (both her parents are alcoholics). her dad turned crazy on her and she had to move into her moms where she sleeps on the couch. now the past month she has been going out wit her friend megan a lot more who megan is a bitch and doesn't like me. during this past month or so i have felt like i want to see my girlfriend a lot more then she actually wants to see me. for instance i had no seen her all week and she was working on a Saturday and was suppose to come over after work she got off at 8 stayed where she worked drinking with coworkers till 11 then came over at this point it just frustrated me. i was upset all night and it turned into a terrible night. witch brings me to the biggest issue of all she texted me on Sunday night and told me she was moving in with one of her male co workers. at this point i said well dont you think we should talk about this first and she responded ...you know him he is just a friend and you should be ok with this. now i have offered her to move in with me and she is very adiment that she is not ready for that, i told her how much i am uncomfortable with this and asked her to explore other options like finding a female roommate but she thinks this is her only option. i told her if she did this i could not see her any more its crushing me i lost 12 lbs in 3 day have not ate and cry all the time...what happened to us i would do anything for this girl including taking a bullet but i cant do this. she hasnt moved in yet and plans on doing it next week she called me to hang out last night and we did this morning i brought it up to her and told her it crushes me to loose her but hurts me just as bad to see her move in with another guy. her response was that i should be more open minded about it and less insecure. i dont know what to do i feel strongly about this and am concerned that she just isn't taking my feelings into consideration. am i right about this what should i do. i must add the guy is abut our age just got divorced and is a big drinker. Edited July 4, 2013 by brokenheart6298
Iama Posted July 4, 2013 Posted July 4, 2013 Do you thoroughly know this guy? This is a very grey area. But she is not being careful about your feelings, which is where most relationships fail. Also, for next time, talk more about you and how this would make you feel, then about what she can or cannot do. I.e. My stance on this would be - I feel really bothered by this and it's gonna affect me for bad. I know that there's a high chance that nothing will go wrong with all this, but it will make me not feel good. If she is oblivious about your feelings, it's time to end it.
FrustratedGuy91 Posted July 4, 2013 Posted July 4, 2013 So, you offered her to live with you and she says "she's not ready" yet she's ready to live with a male co-worker? Have you asked her about it in that way? I really fail to see any logic behind that.
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