louisa220 Posted July 4, 2013 Posted July 4, 2013 (edited) my boyfriend of 2.5 years broke up with me yesterday and i was completely blind sided and didnt see it coming. he says that hes not sure how he feels about me anymore and doesnt know if we're the right people for each other. he also said he wasnt sure he was ready to be in a serious committed relationship. he claimed that the last few months that i was away at school he felt like we were fading out and he thought it would get better when i got home and it didnt; it felt like i was still at school (8 hrs away) and that he just wasnt as excited to see calls and texts from me anymore. he also said he didnt know if he could do long distance again for another year or two. we were more than just bf/gf; we were best friends. im heart broken because i loved him so much and was willing to patiently wait for him to grow up and stop being immature and figure out his life. i understand his reasons and think they are legitimate. but he said he wants to stay best friends because he cares so much about me and still loves me and that that will never change. he said im always going to have a spot in his family and that if i ever need him or just want to talk or hang out, to never hesitate to call. he says this wont be the last time we see each other and he wants to meet up again before we both go back to school after summer. (he will be transferring to a state school this fall) after he left, he text me 3 hours later asking if i was okay but i didnt respond. the next morning he text me again saying he was sorry for texting me again but he wanted me to know that he felt so ****ty and i didnt deserve this, and that he would love to meet up again before we head out to school. im so confused as to why hes still talking to me if he doesnt want to be with me. why does he want to meet up and why did he end it if hes hurting as much as i am. i just dont understand and I'm trying to make sense of everything. we're both 21 and i think he just freaked out at the idea of having to grow up and settle down too soon before experiencing other things. please advise and thanks in advance. Edited July 4, 2013 by a LoveShack.org Moderator
theonlyjuan Posted July 4, 2013 Posted July 4, 2013 I think most people aren't sure what they want and when, until they get to mid twenties. If he is being honest then you have to appreciate the honesty. Don't fall into the trap of him using u when he's lonely. He ended it not you. He can't have it both ways. Most will say move on and go NC. If u can be friends and friends only, without it making you feel like crap then do so. There's a good chance after experiencing new things etc he will realise what he had and regret it. You can't wait around hoping for that. Move on. If it happens one day, deal with it then.
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