Sunshine87 Posted July 4, 2013 Posted July 4, 2013 Even the most uncommitted man would change his tunes instantly if he met the right woman. I have witnessed this so many times. A man would not marry his woman after 6 years of dating. Then they break up, and he marries the next woman in less than 3 months. So for all the ladies out there with uncommited men... He isnt afraid of commitment. He is only afraid of commitment with YOU. Let him go. Not true. He married the other woman because after spending 6 years with someone, all the infatuation and butterflies have worn off. He is bored stiff. No more challenge. He meetsn new girl and is at that point deeply infauatated. 3 months is still part of the honeymoon period. Of course he marries her...because he is acting based on deep lust/ infatuation/excitement. Find out what happens years later. He either cheats on her A LOT or eventually moves on to another woman.
Sunshine87 Posted July 4, 2013 Posted July 4, 2013 I knew that before I got this part of your post. He is addicted to drama I think he is, but he seems to think he isn't. All these girls have one sob story or another. One of the girls he fell for, told him some really gruesome stories about her abortions, her abusive exes etc. Sure everyone has baggage but some of these stories were pretty......intense. Turns out she was such a liar and no one knows if those stories ever occurred.
miss_jaclynrae Posted July 4, 2013 Posted July 4, 2013 My man goes by what his mom says "it's not if you feel like can live with them, it's if you feel like you can't live without them." Commitment to what extent? Marriage, that could be a huge mixture of things. Love, the right woman, financial readiness, emotional readiness... Etc.
Author Woggle Posted July 4, 2013 Author Posted July 4, 2013 This is your lens, not a universal lens. It is a good way of approaching relationships. Does this make my life better or not seems like a good standard to use when deciding whether or not to commit to a person.
tbf Posted July 4, 2013 Posted July 4, 2013 It is a good way of approaching relationships. Does this make my life better or not seems like a good standard to use when deciding whether or not to commit to a person.In your judgement, rather than a universal must or need. Are you aware that not all men are the same? My husband is like night and day to you which isn't necessarily good or bad. Just different.
miss_jaclynrae Posted July 4, 2013 Posted July 4, 2013 It is a good way of approaching relationships. Does this make my life better or not seems like a good standard to use when deciding whether or not to commit to a person. What do you mean by freedom?
Author Woggle Posted July 4, 2013 Author Posted July 4, 2013 In your judgement, rather than a universal must or need. Are you aware that not all men are the same? My husband is like night and day to you which isn't necessarily good or bad. Just different. Of course not all men are like me but I just feel that for men and women also that is a good question you should ask. If they bring drama and a bunch of crap to your life why bother?
tbf Posted July 4, 2013 Posted July 4, 2013 Of course not all men are like me but I just feel that for men and women also that is a good question you should ask. If they bring drama and a bunch of crap to your life why bother?I'm playing devil's advocate here because relationships with a lot of drama give me hives. But, when you break down the concept of relationships and attempt to define what love and drama are, you'll find a large spectrum of pin points for different couples. Take two emotional people and for them, what others call drama, they consider passion, thrive on it and elicit it from their partners. Even writing this makes me shudder but as long as it doesn't get abusive, more power to different relationship types.
Phantom888 Posted July 4, 2013 Posted July 4, 2013 Not true. He married the other woman because after spending 6 years with someone, all the infatuation and butterflies have worn off. He is bored stiff. No more challenge. He meetsn new girl and is at that point deeply infauatated. 3 months is still part of the honeymoon period. Of course he marries her...because he is acting based on deep lust/ infatuation/excitement. Find out what happens years later. He either cheats on her A LOT or eventually moves on to another woman. This particular example, he has 3 kids with the new woman, and they just celebrated their 9th anniversary. In another example, the man and new woman divorced after 5 years, but mostly because there was resentment after their baby died in an accident.
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