fortyninethousand322 Posted July 6, 2013 Posted July 6, 2013 I'm interested in what people think when they see mismatched couples. For example, if you saw a woman who was fit as in training for a figure competition with a guy who was 400ish pounds and clearly obese. I ask because I'm that girl pretty much in love with that guy. For the past year since we've started seeing each other, we have done very little in public together. But recently we've done a few things in public, and I sense a feeling of being noticed by people. Even stared at. I am pretty sure I love this guy and his weight is a nonissue for me. However, I feel like my training and fitness make him uncomfortable and may be more of an issue for him than I have been able to admit. So, curious how people think/perceive couples like this or how you would feel if you were obese and being pursued my fitness junkie. What would I think? I would think it wasn't any of my business. Some people like blondes, some like brunettes, some like gym rats, some like nerds. Some people like eating oatmeal for breakfast while others prefer eggs and bacon. As long as you do what you like, it's not a big deal...
KillerFish Posted July 6, 2013 Posted July 6, 2013 I would be happy for the guy, good one bro! I don't mind if the girl is a bit chubby if she has a pretty face, so maybe some women are also like that.
TaraMaiden Posted July 8, 2013 Posted July 8, 2013 Guess it's possible. I know of a naturopath doctor that diagnosed low thyroid function in a family member. However she had some different symptoms so I don't know. Which is what I said. I'd have to deprive myself. From now until forever. It's patently obvious you haven't even so much as given the link I gave you - TWICE - so much as a passing glance. If you could be bothered you'd get a better picture of where you're going wrong. Seriously, badly entirely wrong. Many people do not have to deprive themselves, ever. And they are thin. Some are muscular. Their bodies have faster metabolisms and produce more muscle. They eat whole pizzas while I eat 2 slices. Then those people turn around and call fat people "lazy gluttons." Disgusting. Sounds like you have a serious wheat intolerance, too. Yet you keep shoving it down. Wheat causes bloating, lethargy, a lack of energy, and can lead to depression. But hey.... don't take my word for it. Ignore that, like everything else designed to help you... And I guarantee I'd still be fat even if I starved myself 2 days a week as you suggest. More like 4 days of starvation and 3 days of salad. Only way I lose weight is with total deprivation of anything I enjoy. And, quite frankly, American women are not worth it. Yup. You obviously haven't read anything. Fine, give up, be unapproachable. Don't even do the research for yourself, it's ok. No skin off my nose. Good luck!
RogerWallace111 Posted July 8, 2013 Posted July 8, 2013 I see way more 'fit' men with fat women than vice versa. its like 10x as much. It depresses me because I see a decent guy with a sloppy fat chick and think to myself 'if that's as good as he can get then where does it leave me'. This ^ Maybe not ten times as many but a lot more. The vast majority of couples seem well-matched physically, but when theyre not, it's usually a chunky girl and an average/fit guy. Can't remember the last time I saw vice-versa... Though there are plenty of fit bombshell girls with average to slightly heavy/beer-bellied guys.
Southern Cal Dude Posted July 8, 2013 Posted July 8, 2013 No way. Fit girl/fat guy is more common. A guy can make up for average looks with money or some other form of status. An average girl can find the cure for cancer. It doesn't make her attractive. Most guys prefer looks along with brains and personality. Problem is most guys are average, as are most women. You can't expect a VS model when you're an average Joe, just like an average looking woman can't expect Clooney/Pitt/Tatum. Leagues do exist whether we want to admit it or not. Exceptions are not the rule. There's a reason most couples are about the same in terms of attractiveness.
Shepp Posted July 8, 2013 Posted July 8, 2013 I don't know what id think about strangers! it'd deffo turn my head and right or wrong that's the truth! I think cause I couldnt do it - like fitness is a massive part of my life, I enjoy working out and I'm not vain but I take pride in my appearance. I would think that someone who was obese's values would be too far removed from mine for us to connect!
RogerWallace111 Posted July 8, 2013 Posted July 8, 2013 (edited) No way. Fit girl/fat guy is more common. A guy can make up for average looks with money or some other form of status. An average girl can find the cure for cancer. It doesn't make her attractive. Most guys prefer looks along with brains and personality. Problem is most guys are average, as are most women. You can't expect a VS model when you're an average Joe, just like an average looking woman can't expect Clooney/Pitt/Tatum. Leagues do exist whether we want to admit it or not. Exceptions are not the rule. There's a reason most couples are about the same in terms of attractiveness. It's either an age thing or must just be different where you live, cause I'm not saying it to say it- it's what I see. Obese guys with thin girls would stand out; it's not confirmation bias or anything. I just rarely ever see that. I know the traditional, cliche stereotype is the opposite of course. It goes just like you said- the unattractive, in this case obese guy is able to get the thin, blonde, big-boobed chick because he has money and a nice car. And that's probably still a very common situation among the middle-aged, less-progressive dating populous. But, where I live, in the twenties to early-thirties crowd, it's not happening. Or barely. Again, 98% of couples seem fittingly-matched, but of that other two, I'm always seeing the girl be the big one. And like I said, fit girl with mildly out-of-shape guy is common too. But I'm talking drastic contrast couples. Edited July 8, 2013 by RogerWallace111
Southern Cal Dude Posted July 8, 2013 Posted July 8, 2013 It's either an age thing or must just be different where you live, cause I'm not saying it to say it- it's what I see. Obese guys with thin girls would stand out; it's not confirmation bias or anything. I just rarely ever see that. I know the traditional, cliche stereotype is the opposite of course. It goes just like you said- the unattractive, in this case obese guy is able to get the thin, blonde, big-boobed chick because he has money and a nice car. And that's probably still a very common situation among the middle-aged, less-progressive dating populous. But, where I live, in the twenties to early-thirties crowd, it's not happening. Or barely. Again, 98% of couples seem fittingly-matched, but of that other two, I'm always seeing the girl be the big one. And like I said, fit girl with mildly out-of-shape guy is common too. But I'm talking drastic contrast couples. I'm in LA County. I'm willing to bet with the fit guy/fat girl couple, the girl was in shape in the beginning and put on weight. 1
USMCHokie Posted July 9, 2013 Posted July 9, 2013 I'm in LA County. I'm willing to bet with the fit guy/fat girl couple, the girl was in shape in the beginning and put on weight. Especially if a kid or two came out...
Author Ophelia11 Posted July 9, 2013 Author Posted July 9, 2013 Well, he does very little with me in public, and I'm not sure how to read this. I would think that he'd be happy to have me, but instead I feel like he's embarrassed of me. Maybe it's the attention/situation it call to him. We were out with another couple and when I told the girl that I had strong feelings for him, she laughed. This took me off guard because she is his friends' girlfriend. She said she was just surprised. When I mentioned this to my girlfriend, she was like, " Have you seen a picture of you two together?" Instead of being like I got this great girl who adores me, he's more self-conscious as if it draws more attention to where he is lacking. I should also mention that he is not hugely successful at all, and is a musician in a local band that gigs here and there. Does not live on his own.
irc333 Posted July 9, 2013 Posted July 9, 2013 This ^ Maybe not ten times as many but a lot more. The vast majority of couples seem well-matched physically, but when theyre not, it's usually a chunky girl and an average/fit guy. Can't remember the last time I saw vice-versa... Though there are plenty of fit bombshell girls with average to slightly heavy/beer-bellied guys. Yeah, there's a fit guy with a a rather obese women I know of right now...he hosted a pool party and the "Bathing bikini babes" that were at the party were hitting on him and his g/f was getting mad. LOL They made snide remarks on the side about here and saying "Man, WTF are the two of them doing together??" They couldn't figure it out.
irc333 Posted July 9, 2013 Posted July 9, 2013 Chances are also....just a guess, that whatever she has going on below her belt gives him enough pleasure as a slim, attractive woman would.
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