JO101 Posted July 4, 2013 Posted July 4, 2013 Ok I'm getting the urge since I've seen he unblocked me 3 and half weeks ago in Facebook to just ask him why! But I know I shouldn't and I won't. I won't block him because that gives him attention even if it is negative and I never look at his page! We're not friends on there so can't see much and I made my profile completely private so he gets curious! I've had a new hair cut been studying a new course and getting a's been addicted to the gym and I've never looked better! Wish I could get out more and travel but I have a baby so no an option for me and I'm back with my ex so I'm wondering why he unblocked me and not said anything? Btw he split me and my ex up and gave me false hope of a relationship and didn't leave his girlfriend as promised and after we slept together he ignored me! I've known him years and we have a past going back before I met my partner. He loved me very much once and I hurt him but he's hurt me more. He's only ever kept me blocked for 4 or 5 weeks before he gets curious and unblocks me! I'm breaking up with my partner again for reasons nothing to do with this so my curiosity as to why he's done this has heightened. Do you think I will hear from him soon?
youcanever Posted July 4, 2013 Posted July 4, 2013 Ok I'm getting the urge since I've seen he unblocked me 3 and half weeks ago in Facebook to just ask him why! But I know I shouldn't and I won't. I won't block him because that gives him attention even if it is negative and I never look at his page! We're not friends on there so can't see much and I made my profile completely private so he gets curious! I've had a new hair cut been studying a new course and getting a's been addicted to the gym and I've never looked better! Wish I could get out more and travel but I have a baby so no an option for me and I'm back with my ex so I'm wondering why he unblocked me and not said anything? Btw he split me and my ex up and gave me false hope of a relationship and didn't leave his girlfriend as promised and after we slept together he ignored me! I've known him years and we have a past going back before I met my partner. He loved me very much once and I hurt him but he's hurt me more. He's only ever kept me blocked for 4 or 5 weeks before he gets curious and unblocks me! I'm breaking up with my partner again for reasons nothing to do with this so my curiosity as to why he's done this has heightened. Do you think I will hear from him soon? Here is a similar story to you. Maybe it makes sense.. At the break up my ex blocked me from whatsapp and facebook. Also told me not to contact her anymore. And I went to NC for 2 weeks but always creeped on by fake profiles. Anyway, after 2 weeks I saw that she unblocked me from those social medias. I was so curious because even though 4-5 days past she hasn't wrote me anything. And a week later she updated her facebook and whatsapp profile picture with a new photo of her, smiling at a beach and so happy, and so beautiful. That crashed me so hard. I couldn't sleep that night and asked myself how can someone have so much great time while other person cries his heart out and all depressed. Anyway, that moment I realised that creeping on her is no good for me. It damages me so bad. And went to full NC. After 5 days of full NC she called me. She talked friendly. I think it was the call people say breadcrumbs here. Anyway I was the one told her not to contact me anymore again. I asked this gently and she said okay goodbye and pissed off a lil bit. And 2 days later she changed her whatsapp profile to a sad picture and her whatsapp status to "is it me or something else?".. That second I realised that she was disturbed by my NC and did the unblocking and photo changing to take my attention and contact her and beg her again. And I didn't do it 5 days, so she called me as I said. And when she called me she still couldn't get what she wanted. And pissed off. All I can say is, don't think about it that much. It can be a game but I'm pretty sure it is not because he wants you back. It is hard but it is over. Even though if you two get back together things will never be the same again. It sucks to realise that but it is the truth. Good luck on your journey and do your best to be your bestself.
Author JO101 Posted July 4, 2013 Author Posted July 4, 2013 I just have this constant thought of WHY? And It won't go away! Your so right it will never be the same I can't even say I love him anymore or would even go back there but I would really like an apology and for neither of us to have a sour taste in our mouths if we do bump into each other. We were good friends before and I care deeply for him! I know he cared for me and am frustrated he can't and won't say sorry for hurting me! I've said sorry and he ignored me! Why??
Author JO101 Posted July 4, 2013 Author Posted July 4, 2013 I had him blocked for 9 weeks and in that time I had a flood of fake facebooks adding me and I thought it was his girlfriend also my email got hacked and my secret question was answer only he would know!! I unblocked him and just told him about the fakes and said I think it's your Gf and he just blocked me for 5 weeks but now he's unblocked me! 3 weeks before I blocked him for the 9 weeks I sent the apology but got no reply and he didn't block me so I blocked him! But I sent the apology 2 weeks after he unblocked me the first time when he has be blocked for 6 weeks... Sorry if its confusing I'm going backwards with the unblock and block story. I didn't think men did the whole fake facebook thing could it have been him? I've never done that I make sure I don't look at his profile.
youcanever Posted July 4, 2013 Posted July 4, 2013 I had him blocked for 9 weeks and in that time I had a flood of fake facebooks adding me and I thought it was his girlfriend also my email got hacked and my secret question was answer only he would know!! I unblocked him and just told him about the fakes and said I think it's your Gf and he just blocked me for 5 weeks but now he's unblocked me! 3 weeks before I blocked him for the 9 weeks I sent the apology but got no reply and he didn't block me so I blocked him! But I sent the apology 2 weeks after he unblocked me the first time when he has be blocked for 6 weeks... Sorry if its confusing I'm going backwards with the unblock and block story. I didn't think men did the whole fake facebook thing could it have been him? I've never done that I make sure I don't look at his profile. I really don't know much about your ex but he sound like a total jackass. Just let it go. I know it is not easy, I know you are in so much pain, but you can only feel better if you just stop creeping on his social media and stop contacting him even if he calls you or texts you. Be the bigger person and don't even wait for an apology. Forgive him for what he did to you, so you can move on. You are better than this. 1
Author JO101 Posted July 4, 2013 Author Posted July 4, 2013 I deleted his number about 2 weeks after he decided to ignore me after sex and I changed my number! He has made no attempt to contact me at all since then and it was 6 months ago. I don't look at his social media at all I noticed his comment on a mutual friends facebook post 3 weeks ago so that how I know I was unblocked. It makes me sick he treated me this way I've known him 10 years!
youcanever Posted July 4, 2013 Posted July 4, 2013 I deleted his number about 2 weeks after he decided to ignore me after sex and I changed my number! He has made no attempt to contact me at all since then and it was 6 months ago. I don't look at his social media at all I noticed his comment on a mutual friends facebook post 3 weeks ago so that how I know I was unblocked. It makes me sick he treated me this way I've known him 10 years! You know what is good for you? Just stay away from computer and from your phone as much as you can. Don't even open your facebook. Just stay away from them for a while. Do some exercise. Meet your friends and talk to them about your feelings and ask for some advice, they will make you feel better. And I guarantee you that you will feel so much better as time goes by and you will start forgetting him.
Author JO101 Posted July 4, 2013 Author Posted July 4, 2013 I've done that though I'm at the gym everyday and I even deactivated my facebook for 2 months to focus on my studies and even getting back with my ex focusing on my kids and I even banned myself listening to music for a month to try and get over him! I've been in love with him for 3 years nothing has worked I even went 2 and half years not seeing him in person while I was with someone else nothing works! I can do no contact till I'm blue in the face with this man and yet he is still on my mind! Is there something wrong with me. I was never clingy either he knows the kind of woman I am and he knows I don't take any **** I've never put up with it and I walk away before I'm hurt which is way when he wanted to be with me 3 years ago I said no and when he told me he loved me I didn't say anything back because he wasn't making the effort with me it wasn't till I got with my new partner 3 yers ago that he wanted to prove it and be with me but I didn't give him the chance.
youcanever Posted July 4, 2013 Posted July 4, 2013 I've done that though I'm at the gym everyday and I even deactivated my facebook for 2 months to focus on my studies and even getting back with my ex focusing on my kids and I even banned myself listening to music for a month to try and get over him! I've been in love with him for 3 years nothing has worked I even went 2 and half years not seeing him in person while I was with someone else nothing works! I can do no contact till I'm blue in the face with this man and yet he is still on my mind! Is there something wrong with me. I was never clingy either he knows the kind of woman I am and he knows I don't take any **** I've never put up with it and I walk away before I'm hurt which is way when he wanted to be with me 3 years ago I said no and when he told me he loved me I didn't say anything back because he wasn't making the effort with me it wasn't till I got with my new partner 3 yers ago that he wanted to prove it and be with me but I didn't give him the chance. There is absolutely nothing wrong with you. I'm in kind of break up pain as well. And you can not expect your feelings to go away suddenly and move on with your life next day. It is a bumpy road with full of up and down feelings. I know it, because I'm going through the same thing. Trust me, it is getting less and less by time. You are doing great by going to gym. Perfect, also it is good you deactivated your facebook. Keep it that way. Force to improve yourself. We all learn new things about life and people in every relationship and in every situations in our lives. You and I learned not to put anyone in the center of our universe. This is a very valuable lesson. Noone has any medication or quick magic to make you feel better. Only you can do it. There will be times you will lay on couch and can't stop crying or hating yourself, but next day you will feel so much better, relaxed and openminded. Accept the feelings and avoid everything about him in your life. And please, for the love of god, if he ever wants to get back together, DO NOT DO IT !
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