one goal Posted July 4, 2013 Posted July 4, 2013 Hey everyone. Anyways at the gym I see tons of hotties of course as I've posted about in the past. Well there is this really hot looking young lady who works at the gym. Anyways my only interaction with her is when I walk in to scan my card at the desk to check in and she says "hi" to you. I don't talk much to her because I'm way too shy and if you come off as a creeper they could revoke your membership for harassment you know. Anyways I'll be moving probably early next year when I graduate because I'm tired of this town and want to move back to FL. So how up until then can I say hi to her when I check in without looking as shy? She also sometimes says "bye" when you walkout the door too. Like I said asking her out really is out of the question because don't want to get kicked out but how do you get her to take interest? Whenever I'm on the treadmill and she's walking around I'm always checking her out but I never get caught. Not a big deal because schools starts up at the end of next month so hopefully more girls I can talk to, but every semester at school I never find anyone and the few girls I do talk to brush me off.
Lani Posted July 4, 2013 Posted July 4, 2013 Maybe ask her how she is...? How her day is going? Is the gym busy? There is a lot of room to move with someone you just say 'hi' to. 3
Author one goal Posted July 4, 2013 Author Posted July 4, 2013 Maybe ask her how she is...? How her day is going? Is the gym busy? There is a lot of room to move with someone you just say 'hi' to. YEa she works during the day when there are more coworkers around and people using the gym.
USMCHokie Posted July 4, 2013 Posted July 4, 2013 Whenever I'm on the treadmill and she's walking around I'm always checking her out but I never get caught. You might want to consider getting "caught"...that way you can flash a smile, hi, how is your day going, etc. The more she sees you, the more comfortable she'll be when you talk to her. Make other friends at the gym and build your social network within the gym membership. Make her want to get to know you. 4
Lani Posted July 4, 2013 Posted July 4, 2013 YEa she works during the day when there are more coworkers around and people using the gym. ....... and?
MrCastle Posted July 4, 2013 Posted July 4, 2013 Guys need to stop thinking they'll be seen as "creepers" for saying more than just hi to a pretty girl. There are real creepers out there who grope women on the subway or slip date rape drugs in their drinks. Save the creeper talk for those guys. You won't get pepper sprayed for trying to start a conversation. The worst that will happen is she gives you a lot of short answers and makes it obvious she is not interested, but that's not so bad. And for what it's worth, I've never in my entire life started off a conversation with a girl by saying hi. Unless I was introduced to one through a friend. I just jump into material. I use the first clever line I can think of. Not a pre rehearsed cheesy pick up line, but something on the spot that relates to the situation. Obviously can't give you any specific lines as it depends on that individual moment. Work on developing humor or wit. It's the best ice breaker in my opinion. You can keep saying hi to her, but next time you see her walking around the gym, say something witty or funny to open things up. Then see where it goes. All you need is the one ice breaker, then everything afterwards is cake. Even if you just want to start off by saying "hi, how's it going?" or "hey -- pretty dead here today/pretty busy here today" -- something that will generate a response. You're in after that. When you see her the next time after the ice breaker, familiarity will have been established. You just keep chugging along until you feel ready to ask for the number. 5
sillyanswer Posted July 4, 2013 Posted July 4, 2013 Hey everyone. Hey One Goal. Welcome back. Anyways my only interaction with her is when I walk in to scan my card at the desk to check in and she says "hi" to you. I don't talk much to her because I'm way too shy and if you come off as a creeper they could revoke your membership for harassment you know. You're worrying too much about the membership revoking risk, or using it as an excuse. You can talk to her! Just don't harass her. Next time you're signing in at the desk, instead of just saying "hi" you could ask her if the gym is busy tonight, or ask her how she is (that's not harassment!). I'm expecting you'll soon be asking us if you can add her on Facebook. Answer is "no". Not a big deal because schools starts up at the end of next month so hopefully more girls I can talk to, but every semester at school I never find anyone and the few girls I do talk to brush me off. Probably because of your social awkwardness (ie, you're shy) and the age gap if they are regular school age teens. I think I recall that you're older?
SJC2008 Posted July 4, 2013 Posted July 4, 2013 Are you hot? That's the only type of women you post about.
Author one goal Posted July 4, 2013 Author Posted July 4, 2013 I see lots of pretty looking women at my gym. Problem is I never see girls really talk to strangers at the gym. It's like their defensive radar is on full alert and they don't like guys staring at them. I see large amounts of girls there and yet I don't have any shot with them. Same thing with school. The girls don't like me there. Still didn't make any girl friends at my school once again this past year.
sillyanswer Posted July 4, 2013 Posted July 4, 2013 Still didn't make any girl friends at my school once again this past year. This is either because you don't strike while the iron is hot (due to your social awkwardness) and then you ask us if you can add them on facebook, and we say "no", and then you add them on facebook anyway and ask them out that way and creep them out or it could also be due to the age gap. Go for the girls in the gym. You stand more chance there.
thefooloftheyear Posted July 4, 2013 Posted July 4, 2013 Hey everyone. Anyways at the gym I see tons of hotties of course as I've posted about in the past. Well there is this really hot looking young lady who works at the gym. Anyways my only interaction with her is when I walk in to scan my card at the desk to check in and she says "hi" to you. I don't talk much to her because I'm way too shy and if you come off as a creeper they could revoke your membership for harassment you know. Anyways I'll be moving probably early next year when I graduate because I'm tired of this town and want to move back to FL. So how up until then can I say hi to her when I check in without looking as shy? She also sometimes says "bye" when you walkout the door too. Like I said asking her out really is out of the question because don't want to get kicked out but how do you get her to take interest? Whenever I'm on the treadmill and she's walking around I'm always checking her out but I never get caught. Not a big deal because schools starts up at the end of next month so hopefully more girls I can talk to, but every semester at school I never find anyone and the few girls I do talk to brush me off. Thats your problem right there! Instead, load up the bar on the bench press with 400 lbs and hope that she walks by as you are just "completing" your set.. Kiddin, of course...If shes hot she is getting hit on by every swinging dick in the place..You better have a good game.. TFY
Author one goal Posted July 4, 2013 Author Posted July 4, 2013 This is either because you don't strike while the iron is hot (due to your social awkwardness) and then you ask us if you can add them on facebook, and we say "no", and then you add them on facebook anyway and ask them out that way and creep them out or it could also be due to the age gap. Go for the girls in the gym. You stand more chance there. Last semester I didn't have any decent ones in my classes, and last fall I had a super hottie in my art class but she was kinda stuck up and would brush me off and that and was rich. The girls at my school are mean and snobby. I don't fit in well at my school and whenever I try and make friends with girls I just get brushed off.
sillyanswer Posted July 4, 2013 Posted July 4, 2013 The girls at my school are mean and snobby. I don't fit in well at my school and whenever I try and make friends with girls I just get brushed off. Ok, so that's another reason why you should look for women elsewhere. This woman at the gym sounds interesting... talk to her!
Casablanca Posted July 4, 2013 Posted July 4, 2013 Does she seem receptive to small talk? There are two at my gym, but they pretty much never make eye contact when checking you in and never seem to have energy when checking you in...or at least checking me in, so I figured not even worth it....they probably are tired of getting hit on by all the guys
violetsareviolet Posted July 4, 2013 Posted July 4, 2013 ohhh I dunno...fake a broken membership card, but literally break it (obviously the scanner must not function, use your imagination...magnet wipe, scratched, 2 pieces etc)...walk up to said hawt woman and initiate dialogue, firstly about resolving your sad, broken membership card but then segue into asking other questions about her. this should optimize your position for some good chatting time.. ..if she's interested, maybe this could escalate towards a number exchange (have a business card ready so it's a quick and sly, you don't want to get her in trouble...or always have pen/paper in your bag ready to go so there's no fumbling on either of your parts if it comes to it) and if she's not interested or too busy, she's pass you off to Joshua. just some ideas...I haven't done this before, ymmv ps. the longer you wait, the higher she gets placed on your mental pedestal...do something before it's too late, my friend.
Moe'sTavern Posted July 4, 2013 Posted July 4, 2013 Thats your problem right there! Instead, load up the bar on the bench press with 400 lbs and hope that she walks by as you are just "completing" your set.. Kiddin, of course...If shes hot she is getting hit on by every swinging dick in the place..You better have a good game.. TFY If she's hot and works at a gym, then it's safe to assume she's hit on constantly. The OP just has to take a chance and see where it goes. 1
Author one goal Posted July 4, 2013 Author Posted July 4, 2013 Does she seem receptive to small talk? There are two at my gym, but they pretty much never make eye contact when checking you in and never seem to have energy when checking you in...or at least checking me in, so I figured not even worth it....they probably are tired of getting hit on by all the guys Well it's their jobs to great you, and say bye. The guy workers they sometimes say hi, but most of the time they don't say anything. I think it's just because that's how women in general are, more talkative.
Casablanca Posted July 4, 2013 Posted July 4, 2013 Well it's their jobs to great you, and say bye. The guy workers they sometimes say hi, but most of the time they don't say anything. I think it's just because that's how women in general are, more talkative. There is different body language...I can tell they aren't open to small talk even if its not being hit on...the guys and less attractive ladies are usually a lot more social...at least at my gym
Author one goal Posted July 4, 2013 Author Posted July 4, 2013 There is different body language...I can tell they aren't open to small talk even if its not being hit on...the guys and less attractive ladies are usually a lot more social...at least at my gym I notice when it comes to talking to other girls talk to girls and guys talk to other guys. Especially when it comes to women interacting with men like girls will small talk with an old guy, but a young guy they're less talkative and they figure a guy my age trying to talk is only interested in hitting on them.
Gottabestrong Posted July 4, 2013 Posted July 4, 2013 Last semester I didn't have any decent ones in my classes, and last fall I had a super hottie in my art class but she was kinda stuck up and would brush me off and that and was rich. The girls at my school are mean and snobby. I don't fit in well at my school and whenever I try and make friends with girls I just get brushed off. Are you looking to make friends or hook up with those girls? If you want to make female friends, maybe don't just focus on the 'hotties'.
Casablanca Posted July 4, 2013 Posted July 4, 2013 I notice when it comes to talking to other girls talk to girls and guys talk to other guys. Especially when it comes to women interacting with men like girls will small talk with an old guy, but a young guy they're less talkative and they figure a guy my age trying to talk is only interested in hitting on them. I think thats how I see it, and they are very pretty and a gym has a lot of testosterone going so the are more likely to get hit on there than say the store or a coffee shop...It is funny to watch a few guys try small talk and those two girls just look disinterested and barley respond
Phantom888 Posted July 5, 2013 Posted July 5, 2013 OP: why are you even wasting your time thinking about her? Girls like this are not interested in dating customers. They likely have a rich handsome BF somewhere.
Author one goal Posted July 5, 2013 Author Posted July 5, 2013 Would it be okay to type in the gyms name on Facebook and see if I can find her if she list it as her employer? That way I know her name so I don't have to sound awkward asking what her name is.
USMCHokie Posted July 5, 2013 Posted July 5, 2013 Would it be okay to type in the gyms name on Facebook and see if I can find her if she list it as her employer? That way I know her name so I don't have to sound awkward asking what her name is. You could try looking at her name tag...? 2
MrCastle Posted July 5, 2013 Posted July 5, 2013 (edited) Would it be okay to type in the gyms name on Facebook and see if I can find her if she list it as her employer? That way I know her name so I don't have to sound awkward asking what her name is. You will appear more awkward knowing her name without asking. Trust. Just go in, be natural, make some small talk, get the name. I think a slow burn will serve you well in this instance. I have used the slow burn on occasion. It seems to have a better success rate. A slow burn is building familiarity so your chances of getting her number increase. This is not a street approach so no need to rush things if you don't feel ready. Now usually I try to get the number the first time we talk, to set the frame. But that's in school when I know the girl is showing signs of interest. This girl may just be being nice to you because it's her job. So don't get that mixed up and look like an idiot. Work up to the number. Day 1: "Hey, how's it going. Dead in here/busy in here today huh" -- What's your name by the way? Oh okay cool. I'm ___. See you around. Day 2: Hey ____. (Insert some kind of joke or witty line here pertaining to what's going on around you, see how she responds. If she walks by while you're lifting, say something like "do I look like a body builder yet?" or "do I have the body of a greek god yet?" -- see how she responds to that.) Day 3: This time you try to open her up more and get her to talk more. Try to establish some sort of common ground/some sense of familiarity. After you do this, say something like "you seem cool, here, let me get your number" -- what I typically do is hand her my phone with the contact page already on the screen, ready for her to enter her stuff in. We'll be talking, I'll be answering back while taking it out, and during our convo, say "I gotta go, here" and hand her the phone, then say "Cool. I'll hit you up sometime." Be prepared for the I have a boyfriend thing if she's not interested or if she really does have a boyfriend. In that case you say "oh ok cool, no problem, see you around." Take it all in stride and don't make things awkward the next time you see her. Edited July 5, 2013 by MrCastle
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