hellischrome Posted July 4, 2013 Posted July 4, 2013 So, on the day of the break up I thought I was OK and hopefully going to be OK. Now I really feel like s&hit, I can't eat, it's only the second day and I am starting to feel worse. He is flying at the moment, in 6-7 hours he will land and I know he is not feeling the same so will not contact me, and I will feel even worse... I really don't know what to do. I can't even work.
It-is-what-it-is. Posted July 4, 2013 Posted July 4, 2013 I read your back story and I am sorry you are having a tough time. While it is hard to see now, you will be fine. You and your ex bf started this relationship with too much baggage. Guilt and mistrust are pretty ugly components to have in the mix early on. This is one of the reasons relationships that come from cheating have such a hard time being successful. Sounds like he was trying to go back and clean up the mess and destruction his choices made. When I say that I really mean he is doing that to assuage his guilt, not necessarily for his first x gf. You may or may not be feeling that same kind of baggage. But you are feeling grief. Real, true, terrible. In my opinion, the best thing to do is to allow the pity party, for a limited amount of time each day. Force yourself to get out and do stuff (work out, etc), and keep strict no contact so you can heal. Time will help. 1
Author hellischrome Posted July 4, 2013 Author Posted July 4, 2013 Hey I just saw this reply... Yeah, it sounded and it was wrong from the beginning, but we thought we were stronger than any kind of s/&it.. apparently not. I am doing better tonight, I am really scared of what I will feel tomorrow...
NewPerspective93 Posted July 7, 2013 Posted July 7, 2013 It's going to be fine. You might not believe you'll be ok, but you will be. I went to something similar last semester and I couldn't focus on my classes for university, but I got over it. Don't dwell too much on the memories, those will knock you back and kick you one step backward. Initiate No Contact, and do things to keep yourself busy. It's not going to be easy, but you'll be a much stronger person when you get over it. Cheers. 2
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