youngbutoldsoul Posted July 4, 2013 Posted July 4, 2013 So long story short, three months ago I was left by my bf of 2 years. I contributed to many of the arguments that led to our downfall and he couldn't forgive me for hurting him with all I've said. I've begged, showered him with gifts, pleaded, and written letters to him: clearly it pushed him away as in less than a month of our breakup, he became infatuated with someone else and made it clear that we have absolutely no chance. It was extremely awkward the two months after our breakup b/c we still shared an apartment so it was difficult to go NC. We just settled into our new apartment for about half a month. Occasionally he initiates contact via text "Hey, how've you been?" and I would answer very politely and briefly. Just half an hour ago, he asked if I wanted to "hang out sometime over this weekend". I'm completely shocked because the last time we "hung out" was a few days before our breakup (3-4 MONTHS AGO!). What is the most likely reason he is doing this? For what purpose? Could this be a second chance?
Nicoleiia Posted July 4, 2013 Posted July 4, 2013 It's more than likely just breadcrumbs, but it MIGHT be a second chance. I say hang out with him and really analyze what he says. If its any less that "Let's get back together, I miss you", go NC. 2
athousandquestions Posted July 4, 2013 Posted July 4, 2013 I would ever so nonchalant ask "what do you have in mind?" Try to get him to come right out and tell you what he wants. Is he just trying to set up some FWB with you? Does he just want a friend? Get as much out of it as you can WITHOUT going. Remember, unless he expressly says "I ****ed up and want you back" he does not want you back. 1
Author youngbutoldsoul Posted July 4, 2013 Author Posted July 4, 2013 I would ever so nonchalant ask "what do you have in mind?" Try to get him to come right out and tell you what he wants. Is he just trying to set up some FWB with you? Does he just want a friend? Get as much out of it as you can WITHOUT going. Remember, unless he expressly says "I ****ed up and want you back" he does not want you back. He says he feels bad that we haven't gotten to hang out in a really long time.
Simon Phoenix Posted July 4, 2013 Posted July 4, 2013 He says he feels bad that we haven't gotten to hang out in a really long time. That's a breadcrumb. 2
sprucegoose Posted July 4, 2013 Posted July 4, 2013 He says he feels bad that we haven't gotten to hang out in a really long time. So lame. The reason you guys haven't hung out in a long while is because you guys broke up. Did you forget that? 2
Maverick1983 Posted July 4, 2013 Posted July 4, 2013 This is what people do to boost their own egos sometimes.He wants to know that he still has you as an "option". Unless someone clearly states their intentions on why they want to meet up then they are not worth it. 1
Author youngbutoldsoul Posted July 4, 2013 Author Posted July 4, 2013 I just asked him this morning what he had in mind. His response: "Umm not sure, we can maybe go get something to eat, walk around the mall, I can show you my apartment" He's so confusing
forgetmenot75 Posted July 4, 2013 Posted July 4, 2013 no confusing at all. Read: he wants to show you his apartment, that equals: SEX. Just tell him you're busy this weekend. Go no contact again and wait to see if he comes with a better excuse.
forgetmenot75 Posted July 4, 2013 Posted July 4, 2013 You think he's confusing because he's not telling you what you want to hear. Read between lines: he's not saying he's sorry, he's not telling you he wants to start all over again, he's not telling you that he loves you. He's telling you he wants to show you his apartment. He doesn't care about your feelings. Please go no contact. 1
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