Can a good looking guy really give an unattractive guy tips on how to attract women?

[jma500]

Employers don't know you from Adam either. Does that mean you should sit in your house and wait for them to knock on your door and ask you to take a job?

 

History favors the bold. If you are "comfortable with who you are," then you should also be comfortable with the fate that comes with it.

 

They do not know me until I email my resume. Dating doesn't work like that. It's like comparing apples and oranges. Why should I have to completely alter the person I am to conform to someone elses arbitrary rules? Besides the fact that just because you approach women is no indicator of success. Just ask some of the posters whom are rejected each and every time they approach.

[USMCHokie]

They do not know me until I email my resume. Dating doesn't work like that. It's like comparing apples and oranges. Why should I have to completely alter the person I am to conform to someone elses arbitrary rules? Besides the fact that just because you approach women is no indicator of success. Just ask some of the posters whom are rejected each and every time they approach.

 

Ah, but it does. You "emailing your resume" is analogous to taking care of your appearance and exhibiting a quality first impression. This includes your grooming, hygiene, dress, style, posture, voice, physical behaviors and mannerisms, and on and on.

 

And someone else's arbitrary (or non-arbitrary) "rules" are what grant your penis passage into their vagina.

 

You're right, just approaching is not a sole indicator of success. You also need to possess some of the other factors mentioned above. Approaching only lowers the standard of qualities you need to have to get their attention. If you have stellar qualities, you don't need to approach, because you will be noticed based on those qualities alone. If you are more average, then you may need to approach since they won't notice you otherwise.

 

A simple analogy to illustrate: You are walking down the sidewalk watching cars pass by. The first one is a bright red Ferrari. You immediately take notice when you recognize its body shape and the roar of its engine. The second car is a Toyota Camry; rather unremarkable and average with no distinguishing features. You just let it pass by without a second thought.

 

The Ferrari didn't need to do anything to get your attention and interest. It just needed to be there. That's the person who possesses qualities and is loved "just the way it is." Now take the Toyota; in order to get your attention, it would have to do something to "approach you." Perhaps someone in the car yells out through the window at you to grab your attention. Or perhaps the car pulls right in front of where you're walking. Or perhaps they throw a milkshake at you. In any case, they have done something out of their norm to get your attention, because otherwise, no one will look at the Toyota.

 

So as a guy, if you are unremarkable and average, you will need to do something out of your norm, i.e., approach women, to get their attention.

[jma500]

Ah, but it does. You "emailing your resume" is analogous to taking care of your appearance and exhibiting a quality first impression. This includes your grooming, hygiene, dress, style, posture, voice, physical behaviors and mannerisms, and on and on.

 

And someone else's arbitrary (or non-arbitrary) "rules" are what grant your penis passage into their vagina.

 

You're right, just approaching is not a sole indicator of success. You also need to possess some of the other factors mentioned above. Approaching only lowers the standard of qualities you need to have to get their attention. If you have stellar qualities, you don't need to approach, because you will be noticed based on those qualities alone. If you are more average, then you may need to approach since they won't notice you otherwise.

 

A simple analogy to illustrate: You are walking down the sidewalk watching cars pass by. The first one is a bright red Ferrari. You immediately take notice when you recognize its body shape and the roar of its engine. The second car is a Toyota Camry; rather unremarkable and average with no distinguishing features. You just let it pass by without a second thought.

 

The Ferrari didn't need to do anything to get your attention and interest. It just needed to be there. That's the person who possesses qualities and is loved "just the way it is." Now take the Toyota; in order to get your attention, it would have to do something to "approach you." Perhaps someone in the car yells out through the window at you to grab your attention. Or perhaps the car pulls right in front of where you're walking. Or perhaps they throw a milkshake at you. In any case, they have done something out of their norm to get your attention, because otherwise, no one will look at the Toyota.

 

So as a guy, if you are unremarkable and average, you will need to do something out of your norm, i.e., approach women, to get their attention.

I do get noticed (by younger women) but only in NYC with full camera backpack on. Not at home in RI though. While you make a compelling argument, that would make me have to be someone I am not. That is never a good idea. While I have seen it said here on LS that women like to be approached, I believe they wouldn't take too kindly to being approached by a guy like me.