theonlyjuan Posted July 3, 2013 Posted July 3, 2013 When did you become interested in someone else? I know it's early because it's only been a month, but I had absolutely 0 interest in any girl last night. I wasn't even looking to make conversation with one. I think this might be good for me because I tend to jump into relationships for the sake of not being alone. I then convince myself they are perfect and the relationship is great. I am blind to faults in them and the relationship. Although I don't like being alone, I am slowly getting used to it.
UVict Posted July 4, 2013 Posted July 4, 2013 It will vary depending on factors such as how long you were together, who dumped who etc. For me, my ex dumped me in Feb, but we were still seeing each other until the end of May. June I went NC, and it worked wonders. After a week or 2 she meant nothing to me, I would look at pictures of her and not find her attractive in the slightest. (I think this is a good turning point). It has only been 2 weeks since I have been dating this new girl from uni, last night we decided that we were more than friends. So if you count from February its taken me atleast 3-4 months to talk to another girl and genuinely be interested. There were times where I didn't want to or make the effort, I even stood up a few girls just to changing my mood daily. With my new girl I was concerned about only being single for 4 weeks (NC), as she was a little concerned too about my ex, considering our past. But I weighed it up, I'm over my ex, what happened is in the past, and this new girl is too good to pass up just because of my ex. It looks like things are starting out slowly but I'm happy with that, I don't want to race into things like I did with my ex. Nobody likes being alone. But you aren't completely alone. You have friends, family etc keep in contact with them, reconnect with old friends etc. You don't need a girl to make you not feel alone. Also, there's nothing wrong with a bit 'me time' to just do things for yourself and enjoy the freedom that comes with that.
SimonSerenade Posted July 4, 2013 Posted July 4, 2013 I'm happy on my own and it's only been a month for me, I don't go looking for new people, anyone I've ever been with has just randomly popped up out of thin air and it always felt like the right place at the right time so I don't worry about it, I'm not the kind of guy who has an interest in sex unless I'm in a commited relationship so I don't feel I'm missing out and never have, don't think about the ex anymore, it doesn't matter what this person does anymore if your never going to be together again, let it all go and be true to yourself, there's no pressure on you to do anything after the relationship ends other than accepting it and moving on.
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