jacksonww Posted October 19, 2004 Posted October 19, 2004 It has not even been a month and I am still going crazy. I try to fill my time with things but end up being reminded of her. She ask for space but this sure is hard. Does she even think of me, does she want to call me, or be with me? I don't understand how she could just walk away from 7 years and an engagement. I really feel like I need to call her just to say hello. I need to know if she is ok with this decision. The thoughts of her waiting for me to contact her drive me nuts. What if she is sitting around like me asking herself, does he love me, or miss me, why doesn't he call.
ltomlinson81 Posted October 19, 2004 Posted October 19, 2004 I think that if you initiate NC, and the ex does not contact you on their own during that time, then it is best to leave it alone. If she asked for space, it is likely that she will contact you when she is ready to. On a similar note, I have a question. If you are doing NC, and your ex tries to contact you regularly, is it okay to respond? Should you go a certain amount of time before responding? My ex and I have been broken up for a little over a month. He cheated on me. I initiated NC last week, and he has called or emailed me almost every day since. I have not answered the calls or responded to the emails. The situation is even more difficult because of the fact that we share a dog. When he calls, he says it is to 'see how things are' or to tell me that my dog 'misses' me and that I should come and see the dog. Is he using the dog as an excuse to contact me? Should I respond? A part of me wants him back, but not now. It is too soon after to have anything be any different. If I never respond, am I shooting myself in the foot with regards to the chances we have of reconciling?
Weird Posted October 19, 2004 Posted October 19, 2004 Of course she thinks of you. She probably thinks about you/things more than you even imagine. Not having communication with an ex gets easier over time so just stick with it. Dont have the mindset that the more time you two dont talk the less she will think about you and will forget you. It won't happen. Trust me. I was with my ex for close to 2 years and we stopped talking almost 1.5 years ago. It was ahrd at first not talking to her but things eventually got easier and I realized that hey, if we are meant to be in each other's lives down the road we will and me wodnering/thinking/hoping for that wont make it happen. Sure enough almsot 1.5 years later we got back into communication and are talking again. During that time apart she admitted she thought about me alot and even read past emails and stuff that I sent her. So dude just realize all is not lost and the odds are she will contact you down the road. She most likely has stuff she needs to sort out in her life before she can deal with things regarding you. I just cant imagine a girl would forget a guy she was with for 7 years. I don't think it is possible so at the very elast, realize she is thinking about you a lot.
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