lost_andconfused Posted July 3, 2013 Posted July 3, 2013 I was in a 11 month relationship with a guy who was really nice guy at first but turns out to be extremely selfish and was a compulsive liar. As a result, we broke up 3 months ago. We went NC but just yesterday, he contacted me again. Telling me how he made a few mistakes and that we were really good together/how much he missed me. I dont want to get back with him (NEVER AGAIN). However, I feel kinda sad and want to be alone. I am interested in other guys and started dating again. But after since he contacted me, I feel like I am not interested in anyone anymore and I want to be alone (except for my gal pals). Why do I feel this way?
SimonSerenade Posted July 3, 2013 Posted July 3, 2013 Disbelief that he came back maybe?, either way it's just a phase, turn your mind off for a while until it passes, don't get back with him, he's talking some bull shiz. 1
aloneinaz Posted July 3, 2013 Posted July 3, 2013 You guys broke up and didn't speak for 3 months. He certainly wasn't into you that much. It sounds like he maybe recently got out of a relationship and is bored and lonely. This is the time frame that a lot of dumpers reappear. They saw the grass wasn't necessarily greener. They realized a lot of THIER issues that they were blaming on the relationship or the person are still there after the dumping is complete. I'd let him know NO to any chance or reconciliation and go back to NC> 2
Author lost_andconfused Posted July 3, 2013 Author Posted July 3, 2013 Thank you for replying! I am horrible with my own feelings. It takes me awhile to understand them so thank you. I actually dumped him. I told him I needed some time alone. I guess I am the one at fault if I feel this way?
soccerrprp Posted July 3, 2013 Posted July 3, 2013 You are preoccupied with the dissatisfaction and disappointment of the relationship. There maybe be additional doubt, disillusionment about dating as you have had the time to fully process and move beyond your recent failed relationship. It's normal. A little mild, short-term depression may also have crept in. You are right not to get back with him or have any desire to do so. This is particularly a good sign. You know when you have a bad apple and to stay away no matter the overtures. It will pass, but it may also make you even more cautious about dating. Not necessarily a bad thing. Good luck and it will pass.... 1
SimonSerenade Posted July 4, 2013 Posted July 4, 2013 So you dumped him for being selfish and a compulsive liar?, I wouldn't give a second thought to that decision, focus on the nice guys out there who aren't total sociopaths 1
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