this_guy Posted July 3, 2013 Posted July 3, 2013 (edited) okay i was going okay with nc ( me and her went out for 6 years left me for another guy blah blah ) , still feeling betrayal feeling hurt. whilst i deleted her on facebook 3 weeks ago when we break up. i stupidly saw my sister on her facebook account yesterday( she still has my ex as a friend ) and i was like can i check the ex gfs profile. you know curiosity got the better of me. so when i went on bam there was a picture of her with this guy, mate of a mates. and yeah all her status updates to him with love hearts and **** like " i didnt know i would feel this way about you , glad you came into my life." Seeing that made me get really anxious, angry , depressed pretty much all of my process of healing was back at square one Edited July 4, 2013 by a LoveShack.org Moderator
Author this_guy Posted July 3, 2013 Author Posted July 3, 2013 (edited) its been 3 weeks now my exgf of 5 years suddenly left one day, she says she was unhappy, wanted to party, do drugs blah blah g.i.g.s did feel the same way ,moved to her parents house and was pretty unremorseful... 2 days later after the break up she was with a guy she recently become friends with a 1 month before . so i followed nc advice and yeah. how likely is he just a rebound guy or what ? if so what can i do to get her back with me ? i want her back, i miss her like crazy. i waiting for the right moment say in a few months hopefully **** goes wrong with her and she gets heartboken or something and yeah bam i appear out of nowhere as this new awesome guy. im just worried if waiting for the right time wont ever come as she might get into a serious relationship with him ps... im trying to move on, i just want that chance again to get her back if i can any advice would be helpful thankyou Edited July 4, 2013 by a LoveShack.org Moderator
SimonSerenade Posted July 3, 2013 Posted July 3, 2013 What a bitch, hold on to these things you've seen until you get bored of hurting yourself with it and move on, you deserve better. 1
Legatus Posted July 3, 2013 Posted July 3, 2013 I've decided to go NC and remove her from my feeds about 8 days ago. Before I would go onto her profile on purpose, because with every picture I was more certain it was good we split, but on the other hand there was always that feeling of heat through my body, even just couple of seconds. That was anger and frustration of being left for another guy. You have to resist the temptation, whether it's curiosity or trying to go to the very bottom so then you can bounce back. Stay strong! It will get better!
Chi townD Posted July 3, 2013 Posted July 3, 2013 Lessons learned, dude! Lessons learned! Dude, start making positive changes in your life! What have you done to keep busy? What adventures have you given yourself? What self improvements have you made?
crazy1234 Posted July 3, 2013 Posted July 3, 2013 is this the same guy she left u for?not that it matters or i dont intend to dig the scars bt jst asking?..my ex left me for some1 else too..so i can totally relate to u..
aloneinaz Posted July 3, 2013 Posted July 3, 2013 Amazing how looking at something like that can knock you back a bit.. I think you can use it as a measuring stick on how far you're recovered for the relationship. I think the NC guide is truly on point in cutting all contact with your ex, don't view pictures, letters, etc.. Delete from Facebook as well. I think when you feel indifferent to hearing or seeing anything about them in the future, you'll be good. I also am a STRONG proponent that once you find someone else that you like as much, you'll QUICKLY forget about the ex. My ex is on the same dating site and its a site that you can't delete people. It really stung the first few times I was on there and I still debate w/myself if it's worth being on it. I don't think it helps my recovery to see her there. I need to probably leave that site and find another one. You wonder if it bothers her to see me on there but probably not since she ended our toxic relationship because of her issues.
headsashed Posted July 3, 2013 Posted July 3, 2013 The next time you get curious and want to look at your ex's profile remember how this made you feel. We have all done this and been hurt, just see it as a lesson learnt. As stated so many times on this forum and all over the internet, the best way to get over someone is complete NC, yes its the hardest but its by far the best. It will get easier, that I know, I was where you are about 9 months ago, now im indifferent, ive actually seen my ex's profile picture recently and its a pic of her and her new bf, it didn't bother me 1 little bit,because I stuck to NC and fully moved on. 1
Tenderheartbear Posted July 3, 2013 Posted July 3, 2013 I am always for a happy ending but I don't like some of the things you said about her...left you to party and do drugs? Please believe that you are worth more than that and you deserve better? Pretty please? For me...? 1
andilyn1 Posted July 3, 2013 Posted July 3, 2013 I've also done that before, looking at their Facebook profile, and realized the second I did how much of a mistake it was. So after my current breakup, I immediately deleted him, then blocked him, and his closer friends too. That way I wouldn't have to see anything. It's still tempting to unblock him at times, but I just walk away from Facebook for a few minutes and realize that it would be a huge mistake to. So just try and view it as a lesson learned. We all have done stuff like this before, trust me!
BC1980 Posted July 4, 2013 Posted July 4, 2013 The good of what you did is that you will remember next time how badly it felt. If might be a rush initially, but it will leave you in a worse place. It's easy to give this advice to someone else, but we have all done this.
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