Ale khun Posted July 3, 2013 Posted July 3, 2013 So I ignored his first text on Monday and now he just texted me : "Ohhh now you are ignoring me ???" Do I reply ? What do I say ?? Please any advice ..
lop98 Posted July 3, 2013 Posted July 3, 2013 No, don't reply. I got one of those, replied and it's basically just an ego stroke, they just want to make sure you're still there, waiting for them. Make it your mission to reach a week without responding to anything, once you reach that, then 2 weeks, a month, and just keep going with your life. 1
xXCountryXx Posted July 3, 2013 Posted July 3, 2013 I've made this mistake too... Do NOT respond. It only doghouses you further.
esteem-jam Posted July 4, 2013 Posted July 4, 2013 Seems very manipulative. Also this reminds me of games we used to play as kids: "if you are a loser, blink your eyes; if you like me, sit there, ..."
Author Ale khun Posted July 4, 2013 Author Posted July 4, 2013 Seems very manipulative. Also this reminds me of games we used to play as kids: "if you are a loser, blink your eyes; if you like me, sit there, ..." Sure this is just a game for him . I hate that
Tenderheartbear Posted July 4, 2013 Posted July 4, 2013 He's just trying to get a reaction out of you...trying to engage you. Don't fall for it. It'll only make you upset.
Maverick1983 Posted July 4, 2013 Posted July 4, 2013 Simple answer = nothing Sometimes silence is your best weapon.
Author Ale khun Posted July 4, 2013 Author Posted July 4, 2013 I really hate when he texts me because I feel uneasy , I keep telling myself that I shouldn't bother to reply because its not worth it , besides he dumped me I know what he wants but I don't want to keep playing this game , it's taking me a lot of strength not to reply I hate this feeling
ballycastle Posted July 5, 2013 Posted July 5, 2013 I really hate when he texts me because I feel uneasy , I keep telling myself that I shouldn't bother to reply because its not worth it , besides he dumped me I know what he wants but I don't want to keep playing this game , it's taking me a lot of strength not to reply I hate this feeling Well it's taken me a long time, time on this site, and times when I used to reply and get burned to realise that the advice is true. I hope you have not texted back. I still get texts from mine almost 18 months after he chose to delete me from his life, texts on my birthday, asking me about my child he LEFT WITHOUT SAYING GOODBYE TO etc etc. When he texted before my heart would burst thinking, 'he still loves me...there is a chance!' but there isn't. If THEY make the decision to delete us from their life, you do the same. Think of it this way, they decided they didn't want us for whatever reason so they are being SELFISH thinking they can decide when it suits THEM to drop in and out of the lives we are building WITHOUT THEM to see how we're doing when they DROPPED us in the first place. SELFISH, SELFISH, SELFISH!! Would you want someone like that as a partner when, through this selfish behaviour they have showed you a quality you now know you need to avoid in any future one? It's taken months of NC to realise this. Months. It still hurts, but I am getting there 2
Author Ale khun Posted July 5, 2013 Author Posted July 5, 2013 Bally .. You are right what do they think they are ? showing up and disappearing as they please , it's hard for me to be selfish because I care for him , not the same way like before but i do and it still hurts to remember what he did and the way he did it but at the end I know that if I keep being available for him that only hurts me more , besides he left me right ? He had his reasons now I have my reasons not to reply
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