HumptyDumpty Posted July 3, 2013 Posted July 3, 2013 Hello people, just thought to share this theory I came across my researches! I read an article from a guy who kept on pining for his ex, 1 year after the BU! (can't find the original article anymore sadly, I was surfing on my mobile late at night in bed ) Basically he agreed that the reason he was not fully moving on was that he was hung up on the "happy" times, it was only this thin line keeping him from being normal again. He wasn't this happy than at that point of his life and even since he moved on (no feelings for ex etc), he was still hung up on this person since this ex equaled his happiness! So, ex = happiness, even though this person obviously doesn't want to be with us? Seems extreme madness to think this way! This article and theory wasn't anything new, it basically is hanging on to the past and memories that keep you from moving on and building a happier new "you"! But I can relate to this 1 year post-break up! I've moved on to the point where I don't want to communicate with my ex whereas I would have pulled my hairs out at a time with 1 week NC, don't want to be with him.. but I still have this nostalgia! I truly was extremely happy at that time when I started to go out with him, like a fairy tale come true and I really define him being him this key to my full happiness! I'm an independent individual but he was this cherry on top of the cake in my life (no obsessing involved)! It even comes down to even saying for my part that to fully move on is to get under someone else haha, hence, being madly in love & a new relationship that fulfills me this way! Any thoughts to this ex = happy feeling? (and I'm fully aware this theory doesn't apply to everyone and depends on the type of BU, mine was peacefully and mutual since we had different goals in life)
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