Do you think i am forcing myself too hard to distract mind from ex?

[youcanever]

Hi pals,

 

Here i am again, venting about myself. How you doing?

 

I wanted to ask your opinion in an objectivr point of view. My ex broke up with me almost 6 weeks ago. Told me not to contact her. I begged for taking me back for 4 5 days and i kept that promise. I did 3 weeks nc but only last 5 days of it was full nc ( no creeping on social media) and i was feeling great. Then she called me. We had a friendly chat which sucks because i still have frelings. At the end of convo i told her she shouldnt contact me. And it has been 12 days we havent talked to each other.

 

In this first 10 days i did nc but always creeped on her socîal media whîch hurt me so badly. And last 2 days i did full Nc and felt great.

 

But i am filling my time too much not to creep on. Monday î worked 10 hours, gym 1.5 hours and some house stuff 2 hours. Slept at 11.30 am.

 

And yesterday 10 hours work again, 2 hour drive to dance course, 1.5 hours dance and slept at 00.30 am.

 

I wake up at 6am btw.

 

Today again 10 hours work and then i will hit gym for 1.5 hours.

 

Also my daily commute is 2 hours come and go to work. I dont sleep and read book to be more productive.

 

These all stuff makes me tired so much but î feel good and positive about myself otherwise i think about ex a lot and that lower my energy. She is so beautiful and sexy. God i miss her!

 

Anyway, am i doing wrong? Just now i creeped on her social media and felt bad again.

 

How do i stop creeping fully? And seriosly am i going too harsh on myself about hobbies and keeping mind busy? Is it cowardish?

 

I need some advice.

 

And we had 5 months relationship and it has been almost 6 weeks and i am still not over her. Is it normal? I think these paîn never goes away.

Edited July 3, 2013 by youcanever

[Legatus]

I did "creep" on my ex on social media for a bit as well. Mostly because I wanted to feel the pain of what she did so I can grow anti-bodies and remember the mistakes I've done. She posted pictured with her new boyfriend etc.

 

At some point I just said to myself "I don't care. I've got my life which will get better every day". Keeping yourself busy is a good thing.

 

Try to focus on things you couldn't before. Try new things. I felt like my life had stopped when I was dumped, but after few days I saw a small light which now shines all the way through! You just have to find it and then you get to the magic point of no return (in this case a good one).

 

At first it looks like forcing yourself, but you have to do it. After a while you find that those things that you were forcing upon yourself become natural, they become your routines, hobbies.

 

Over the past few weeks I had, and still have, one sentence in my mind:

 

"Channelling frustration into passion"

 

You may discover some great things about yourself, your interests, along the way. So I would say - there's nothing cowardish about being busy. try not to engage in her social media in any way - treat it as experiment!

[Sneaky]

Is it possible for you to stay off social media all together for a while? That's what I'm doing; I got rid of all the bookmarks etc. so I won't stop by at all. (Yeah it's still easy to actually type in the address, but it's an extra hindrance to remind me not to.)

 

If that desn't work you could deactivate your account all together for a while?

[youcanever]

I did "creep" on my ex on social media for a bit as well. Mostly because I wanted to feel the pain of what she did so I can grow anti-bodies and remember the mistakes I've done. She posted pictured with her new boyfriend etc.

 

At some point I just said to myself "I don't care. I've got my life which will get better every day". Keeping yourself busy is a good thing.

 

Try to focus on things you couldn't before. Try new things. I felt like my life had stopped when I was dumped, but after few days I saw a small light which now shines all the way through! You just have to find it and then you get to the magic point of no return (in this case a good one).

 

At first it looks like forcing yourself, but you have to do it. After a while you find that those things that you were forcing upon yourself become natural, they become your routines, hobbies.

 

Over the past few weeks I had, and still have, one sentence in my mind:

 

"Channelling frustration into passion"

 

You may discover some great things about yourself, your interests, along the way. So I would say - there's nothing cowardish about being busy. try not to engage in her social media in any way - treat it as experiment!

 

Right now i am doing okay with my life. Working hard and getting better at work, hitting the gym, reading book, started a dance class.

 

But as i said, even if i have 1 hour freetime, it become soooo hard not to creep on her. Wish it was easy but really so hard to resist it.

 

I know she didnt find anyone till now. Wish she found and i see it. Then i can truly move on and kill the hope of getting back together.

[youcanever]

Is it possible for you to stay off social media all together for a while? That's what I'm doing; I got rid of all the bookmarks etc. so I won't stop by at all. (Yeah it's still easy to actually type in the address, but it's an extra hindrance to remind me not to.)

 

If that desn't work you could deactivate your account all together for a while?

 

I dont have her in my facebook list.

 

I can just check it even when i am logged off.

 

I think it i all about strenght of willpower. Maybe this is a chance to make hell of a steel strong willpower.

[athousandquestions]

Block them so you can't look at their profiles.

 

Get some will power. Every time you have the urge to do it, remind yourself how much it is going to hurt you.

 

Nothing good ever comes from lurking/creeping social media