Coup La-La Posted July 3, 2013 Posted July 3, 2013 I'm black and I joined a dating site about a month ago and so far I've received 3 messages. As an experiment I created a new profile that was the exact same as mine (just copied and pasted everything) but put up a picture of a random white guy that I found on the internet. Instead of 3 messages in a month, the new profile with the picture of the white guy received 6 messages IN 45 MINUTES!!! 2 days so far and it's received 32 messages. At first I thought that maybe it's just a matter of most people preferring to date within their own race, ethnic group ect, but when I saw that even Asian and Hispanic women were flocking to the new profile and commenting on how impressive my personal information was, I was flabbergasted. The profile with the white picture even got more correspondence from black women, if you could believe it. I understand the whole concept of "preferences" but it doesn't make sense that the difference in the amount of responses would be THAT DRAMATIC. I don't get it, what is so bad about black men?
InsaneTrombone Posted July 3, 2013 Posted July 3, 2013 Did you choose some ripped incredibly handsome white guy.... 1
ThaWholigan Posted July 3, 2013 Posted July 3, 2013 Give it time. Sooner or later, a MILF of European origin will soon be messaging you offering to f*ck her while her boyfriend watches . 6
SweetiePie12 Posted July 3, 2013 Posted July 3, 2013 what is so bad about black men? Nothing! Don't be ridiculous!
Author Coup La-La Posted July 3, 2013 Author Posted July 3, 2013 No, the picture I took was of guy that is average looking. Someone in shape less athletic than mine.
SmileFace Posted July 3, 2013 Posted July 3, 2013 I will be the one. Online dating sucks for black people. No lie. Unless you are on a niche site. 1
HarmlessThunder Posted July 3, 2013 Posted July 3, 2013 I would think statistics has a lot to do with it. Roughly 13% of the US population is Black and half of those are dudes. Where as whites (not Hispanic or Latino) is 66%. Simply put, its a numbers game. If interracial dating isn't your thing, do you live in an area with a large number of blacks? Not sure how common interracial dating is where you live but that is another factor if you are taking into account non-black women. Well he did say the white profile also got more interest with black women more too.
Feelin Frisky Posted July 3, 2013 Posted July 3, 2013 I bet if you went out into reality and played your cards right you'd get as much or more play than many of the white dudes hoping their computers will score for them. 1
pureinheart Posted July 3, 2013 Posted July 3, 2013 I understand the whole concept of "preferences" but it doesn't make sense that the difference in the amount of responses would be THAT DRAMATIC. I don't get it, what is so bad about black men? There's nothing wrong with black men and I have to say that your experiment blows my mind actually. Now my experience in HS was that black women didn't like other cultures/races with their black men. Now this was back in the mid to late 70's, maybe things have changed, IDK. It was the unsaid respected rule. There was no bullying, but a woman to woman respect thing. At that time I thought it was just my area, as it was a small town. Then in '87(?) Oprah did a show on this very issue...it wasn't "racist" it was simply black women communicating that they didn't like other cultures/races dating their men. They gave many reasons, but it was so long ago that I've forgotten, but wasn't left with a bad impression, and in fact understood where they were coming from. This is only partially possibly answers your question, or may give understanding.
Author Coup La-La Posted July 3, 2013 Author Posted July 3, 2013 I bet if you went out into reality and played your cards right you'd get as much or more play than many of the white dudes hoping their computers will score for them. I am 6'1" make 6 figures and i'm in excellent shape. When I go out with one of my white friends that's 5'7", overweight and still lives at home with his mother, he invariable gets more attention and phone numbers than I do.
pureinheart Posted July 3, 2013 Posted July 3, 2013 Sorry, I may have misinterpreted your OP ...went off the title and that's what stuck in my mind. It's a 115 degrees here also:o
MrCastle Posted July 3, 2013 Posted July 3, 2013 It's just numbers. Statistically, more minorities (male and female) wouldn't mind dating, or even prefer dating, white people. The group least likely to date outside their race are white people statistically. So you have minorities ignoring messages from fellow minorities, messaging white people, who ignore their messages. That's what the stats show at least.
BeholdtheMan Posted July 3, 2013 Posted July 3, 2013 I am 6'1" make 6 figures and i'm in excellent shape. When I go out with one of my white friends that's 5'7", overweight and still lives at home with his mother, he invariable gets more attention and phone numbers than I do.Get outta here... As for your online profiles, did you have pictures for both of them, or did you only have a picture on the white profile?
Ed the 3rd Posted July 3, 2013 Posted July 3, 2013 If it makes you feel better I'm white and I get jack ****. Messages from land whales and transexuals not counting I assume. 2
The Introvert Posted July 3, 2013 Posted July 3, 2013 White is right. You sound racist KungFuJoe.I AM BLACK AND BLACK IS BEAUTIFUL. 2
MrCastle Posted July 3, 2013 Posted July 3, 2013 White is right. You sound racist KungFuJoe.I AM BLACK AND BLACK IS BEAUTIFUL. I think he was joking. But black is beautiful. So is white, and tan, and yellow, and... 1
Author Coup La-La Posted July 3, 2013 Author Posted July 3, 2013 To op, do you also prefer white women to black? It's not a question of preference, I grew up in a dysfunctional household and when I relate to black women I often forget that I'm NOT talking to my mother. I was in a relationship with a black woman once and I didn't like myself, I became downright abusive. 1
USMCHokie Posted July 3, 2013 Posted July 3, 2013 You can replace black with any other race that is not white, and you will get the same results. 1
The Introvert Posted July 3, 2013 Posted July 3, 2013 QUOTE I think he was joking. I would like to believe he was joking, the reason I reacted the way I did is that I am having a book titled 'A Testament Of Hope' ( on Martin Luther King Jr's speeches) by my side. I think black is beautiful. So is white, and tan, and yellow, and... ya, every race is good and none is superior than the other, when it comes to dating it's a matter of preference.I prefer British white white girls to my fellow Blackies and I have no problems dating them I have a strong American accent.Where I live I have witnessed black guys marry Indian hotties, white guys marry black women and vice-versa.
joystickd Posted July 3, 2013 Posted July 3, 2013 I know I'm Black I had a harder time online. The thing is the best way to meet someone is offline. By the time a person get on OLD they are usually looking for a very specific thing. Most OLD sites are crap anyway except maybe POF but hell I don't even really touch that. Women that would never think of talking to you on OLD would if you met them in real life because it's easier for you to put out the actual qualities you possess. OLD is harder to sell yourself in a sense because you can't really show your personality. Hell I always thought it was easier to meet someone when MySpace was going good because the profile able to be customized so you alter it and make a better sale of your personality and qualities than some bland generic thing like on most OLD. 2
Noproblem Posted July 3, 2013 Posted July 3, 2013 We live in a material world where everything revolves around the surface If you are hot, you'll get more messages 2
Emilia Posted July 3, 2013 Posted July 3, 2013 We live in a material world where everything revolves about the surface If you are hot, you'll get more messages It seems that OLD is great for women in the 20-30 age range perhaps and everyone else struggles. Guess that tallies with real life. 1
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