jacobj3 Posted October 19, 2004 Posted October 19, 2004 My fiance of 3 years has been secretly speaking with one of her old boyfriends via email. I found this out last night while she was checking her email. I looked at the computer screen, not because i was suspicious, just because she was sitting right next to me, and she quickly covered the screen and turned the computer off. I asked her to tell me what was going on and why what she was reading was so secret. All she told me was that she wasn't doing anything wrong, and that she wanted privacy. I would like to believe her and let it go, but her secrecy makes me suspicious. Do you think that speaking with old lovers is an ok thing to do?...my fiance knows that her doing so troubles me. That's why she's hiding it. Any advice on how we may resolve this tension? Thanks! Josh
Jilly10340 Posted October 19, 2004 Posted October 19, 2004 Most of my ex's are my friends. Actually, one of my ex's is my best friend so I don't see anything wrong with it. Especially if they're talking only through email and not even seeing each other in person, I don't think there's anything wrong with that. Although I do see a problem with her hiding it from you, it could be it's just because she knew you would be upset. I would just ask her about it and tell her how you feel. It's probably a bigger issue then you think and if you talk to her about it then it won't seem that big any longer.
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