Ed the 3rd Posted July 3, 2013 Posted July 3, 2013 Or lack there of haha. Here's a run down of the last 3 girls. Girl #1: Date goes well little awkward but when it comes to OLD when the first date not awkward. Next day "I think we would make better friends". Girl #2: Hold several great convo's online and she leads me on spectacularly. Out of the blue and in a complete 180 she tells me she's looking for friends only. Girl #3: She's so beautiful its unreal and we share common interests. Thought I had a date this friday. Out of the blue "3 guys asked me out and I liked the other guy slightly more" Its not fair to lead me on etc etc. "If that other guy doesn't work out you'll be first to know". I guarantee I will never hear from her again. Seriously I know I have social anxiety but whats wrong with me? Unless I settle for someone I'm not attracted too I WILL die alone those are only 3 examples.
ChessPieceFace Posted July 3, 2013 Posted July 3, 2013 In OLD you're just a piece of meat. And if you aren't the choicest cut, you'll be passed over a lot. Learn to get over rejection a lot faster if you plan to keep doing it. 1
Author Ed the 3rd Posted July 3, 2013 Author Posted July 3, 2013 I wish I could stop OLD. Its one disappointment after another. I'm so sick of it. But I don't know whats wrong with me. I can't meet people (even friends) irl. I'm not repulsive and I'm very nice but people can't seem to get away from me fast enough. I'm too silent. I will be alone. Tomorrow. The day after that. The year after that. etc.
shexy Posted July 3, 2013 Posted July 3, 2013 Yeah, that basically is my OLD dating experience, for the most part. Or I would just get propositioned for sex.
shexy Posted July 3, 2013 Posted July 3, 2013 I'm gonna bet 95% of the people here have no idea what the Gong Show reference even means. I remember that show - I was very young, but I remember my mom watching it :-)
Tobecomebetter Posted July 3, 2013 Posted July 3, 2013 Some valuable things you can learn from the past few posters: 1) Rejection: it is a part of life so the sooner you learn to accept it, the easier it is. Trust me dating is a numbers game and after that many rejections it will dull out. Heck it makes it even easier for you to just ask someone out for the heck of it. 2) Not being the choicest cut: what are you going to do? Become the choicest cut of course. It's as simple as dressing better, taking up hobbies to keep interests, going for a run to stay fit. You have to build yourself into a person woman want to be with rather than think that woman will flock to you. Think natural selection. 3) Self confidence: if after all this you should reassess yourself. What is the common denominator? You. You have the power to change yourself if you decide you want to. You have the power to stop making excuses. It is up to you. Trust me, coming from the highschool fat nerd that had no friends and started with nothing, it is a long and hard journey to better oneself but when you look back, you'll realise that it was all worth it.
Author Ed the 3rd Posted July 3, 2013 Author Posted July 3, 2013 Some valuable things you can learn from the past few posters: 1) Rejection: it is a part of life so the sooner you learn to accept it, the easier it is. Trust me dating is a numbers game and after that many rejections it will dull out. Heck it makes it even easier for you to just ask someone out for the heck of it. 2) Not being the choicest cut: what are you going to do? Become the choicest cut of course. It's as simple as dressing better, taking up hobbies to keep interests, going for a run to stay fit. You have to build yourself into a person woman want to be with rather than think that woman will flock to you. Think natural selection. 3) Self confidence: if after all this you should reassess yourself. What is the common denominator? You. You have the power to change yourself if you decide you want to. You have the power to stop making excuses. It is up to you. Trust me, coming from the highschool fat nerd that had no friends and started with nothing, it is a long and hard journey to better oneself but when you look back, you'll realise that it was all worth it. 1. I hate that its a numbers game. I've been rejected several times. It never gets easier. Most of the time I'm always being led on like I'm some sort of freak they can't get rid of. 2. I never used to be this awesome. I lost 50 pounds through hardcore cardio exercises and giving up every shred of food I ever enjoyed. I spend exorbant amounts on clothes because not only do I need clothes that fit me now but I like to look good. I doesn't matter though. I'm an incomprehensible loser either way. Should of just stayed fat and enjoyed food. 3. I have social anxiety. Picking up the phone is like going for a bungee dive. Its a programmed response to turn into a bumbling idiot when I'm around people I don't know. No matter how brave I am (regardless of how these girls turn out I actually do give it a shot) my mind and body betray me. Honestly I'm on the verge of tears. I don't know where I went wrong in life. I used to tell myself that I had a good chance like everyone else. Half of the people I know have smoking hot girlfriends or are married. They were ugly as **** chavs.
Author Ed the 3rd Posted July 3, 2013 Author Posted July 3, 2013 Its constantly rubbed in my face to. At work there is a young couple that are always together. Several couples come in to shop. I see several couples my age on the streets. Almost all the people I used to know either have kids or are married (I'm 19 not 30 btw) they keep posting how much they wove eachother on facebook.
MrCastle Posted July 3, 2013 Posted July 3, 2013 I have never had any success on OLD. Never ever ever. Real life, different story. People will always do better in real life. Always. You can get much better in real life. Leave OLD behind. It's not worth it for most people. 1
phineas Posted July 3, 2013 Posted July 3, 2013 I'm gonna bet 95% of the people here have no idea what the Gong Show reference even means. I used to watch that show. Damn i'm old. I'm willing to bet 95% of the people doing OLD are actually serious about meeting someone. Why do I say this? because i can only stomach OLD for a few months at a time & yr after yr I keep going back for a few months & it's mostly the same women on the site year after year. I have never had any success on OLD. Never ever ever. Real life, different story. People will always do better in real life. Always. You can get much better in real life. Leave OLD behind. It's not worth it for most people. Yep. I do way better in real life. also, i've had women that lived in my little city that ignored me on OLD sites actually approach me in bars or do that thing where they stand near you hoping you'll approach them. 1
ChessPieceFace Posted July 3, 2013 Posted July 3, 2013 1. I hate that its a numbers game. I've been rejected several times. It never gets easier. Most of the time I'm always being led on like I'm some sort of freak they can't get rid of. 2. I never used to be this awesome. I lost 50 pounds through hardcore cardio exercises and giving up every shred of food I ever enjoyed. I spend exorbant amounts on clothes because not only do I need clothes that fit me now but I like to look good. I doesn't matter though. I'm an incomprehensible loser either way. Should of just stayed fat and enjoyed food. 3. I have social anxiety. Picking up the phone is like going for a bungee dive. Its a programmed response to turn into a bumbling idiot when I'm around people I don't know. No matter how brave I am (regardless of how these girls turn out I actually do give it a shot) my mind and body betray me. Honestly I'm on the verge of tears. I don't know where I went wrong in life. I used to tell myself that I had a good chance like everyone else. Half of the people I know have smoking hot girlfriends or are married. They were ugly as **** chavs. Sounds like your negativity is the problem.
Phantom888 Posted July 3, 2013 Posted July 3, 2013 Its constantly rubbed in my face to. At work there is a young couple that are always together. Several couples come in to shop. I see several couples my age on the streets. Almost all the people I used to know either have kids or are married (I'm 19 not 30 btw) they keep posting how much they wove eachother on facebook. You are 19 and you are complaining? You need an attitude adjustment. Are you motivated and driven? Are you in college? What are your accomplishments? You gotta do something to feel good about yourself. Women can detect when a man is insecure, and that translate to weakness. You are fortunate that you have time on your side. If I knew what I know now at age 19, I'd be getting laid every weekend with different hot girls. You basically need to understand what you need to improve on, and make it happen.
Noland Posted July 3, 2013 Posted July 3, 2013 Its constantly rubbed in my face to. At work there is a young couple that are always together. Several couples come in to shop. I see several couples my age on the streets. Almost all the people I used to know either have kids or are married (I'm 19 not 30 btw) they keep posting how much they wove eachother on facebook. give it 3-6 years, majority of them will get a divorce and you'll be the one laughing
shexy Posted July 4, 2013 Posted July 4, 2013 Oh, wait....you're 19? In that case, you need to relax. You're only 19. A little young to be worrying about dying alone.
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