LosingHope0806 Posted July 3, 2013 Posted July 3, 2013 I met my ex 2 years ago and from the first night it was as if it was love at first sight. We spent every waking moment together and I loved it. But 2 months later he called it off stating that we had nothing in common. I was devastated but I was heading 2 hours away to school so I thought I could get over It quickly. Wrong. we still spent every weekend together and even with his family. This continued on for 2 months. Until social networking came into play. I realized that He was trying to work things out with his ex wife even though he was still spending time with me every weekend. I confronted him about it and all he could say was "who told you". After about 2 months we ended up getting back together and it was all going well seemingly. Until his friends brought up to my friends that they thought he was cheating with this young girl. I confronted him and he said no and I believed him. Yet he allowed his cousin to disrespect me in front of his entire family by telling me that I was immature and he could hang out with whomever he wanted. We broke up again after this argument. A year after this he came back to me. I was happy and pleased. In may we had an hiccup because I was angry and did some crazy stuff to an ex whom I had just found out had lied/used me/ and ran up an outrageous amount of money on my card but I apologized to my boyfriend. He said he had to work through it but we were still together. I basically moved in with him and everything seemed to be getting better. Until he received a text message from his ex-wife which sparked me to look into his other ones. He had been trying to work things out with her for a month. when I confronted him his entire self changed and all I got were excuses. That she always does this and he was only entertaining the idea. That I don't cook for him or come see him at work. That he didn't see a future with us and he was just trying to decide who he wanted. Long story short we ended up breaking up because he chose her and now i'm alone again. And a week later he was on vacation with her. They do have a 3 year old son whom I love dearly and have done so much for, and knowing that if they do work it out will be better for him makes this pain hurt slightly less. But knowing that they both had significant others yet were trying to work it out with each other makes me angry. That he could say he loves me yet do this for the third time. I know I'm not smart letting him return this many times but any words of encouragement or solace would be love.
2sure Posted July 3, 2013 Posted July 3, 2013 You should write him a thank you note . Hell, send them a card. I know you love him. If I knew you in real life, I would take your hand and tell you this is absolutely for the best. He didn't leave you because his ex is his soulmate. He left you because they are both cheaters, both game players. After their vacation and some time together he will probably knock on your door again. Since you mention this fool along with another one that ran up your credit card...I think you might want to take some time for some self reflection regarding your broken man picker . You're fixable, he isn't. 2
Author LosingHope0806 Posted July 3, 2013 Author Posted July 3, 2013 Thank you! That made me smile. And your right I do need time to work on myself and hopefully fix my man picker. 1
aisuru Posted July 3, 2013 Posted July 3, 2013 First, I'm sorry you are hurting. I know it stings, even when you know it may be for the best. Second, if you were my friend in real life, I would tell you that you deserve better. Relationships shouldn't be this hard. You deserve to be with somebody who loves you for you that you love as well, in a relationship based on trust and honesty. You'll find it. Heal that little heart of yours by taking time to care for you. You deserve it! 1
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