ameliajones843 Posted July 2, 2013 Posted July 2, 2013 I am just curious but obviously you men break up women for certain reasons ranging from not liking her anymore to she cheated on you. How do you view your ex if she immediately starts being pushy about why you broke up with her and she starts begging for you back. Do you weirdly like the fact she is begging for you or do you find it annoying and the begging solidifies your choice for ending things? How about with a girl that just takes it, says sorry you had to break up with me I know its difficult and messy ending things and then she just walks away, never bothers you or contacts you asking why and a million more questions. what is your view. I did the second one by just walking away and I am curious about how my ex views me after that. :p:p
sweetheart5381 Posted July 2, 2013 Posted July 2, 2013 Excellent question - I too would like the answer!!
Ami1uwant Posted July 3, 2013 Posted July 3, 2013 Thereis a ton of factors in this that a simple answer is not possible. Did he end it with her or her with him? What was the reason? How invested was the relationship? What was the length? How serious was this relationship---did they live together? talk about marriage? were enaged? Why did the break up happen--what reasons? How soon after was this contact? How interconnected are your lives that you will cross paths again like you shared kids or shared friends or worked together?
sillyanswer Posted July 3, 2013 Posted July 3, 2013 I am just curious but obviously you men break up women for certain reasons ranging from not liking her anymore to she cheated on you. How do you view your ex if she immediately starts being pushy about why you broke up with her and she starts begging for you back. Unless there's no doubt why we broke up (like in your example of her cheating) then I'll probably break up with someone citing a vague reason and if she's pushy about why we broke up that might make me uncomfortable as the detailed reason(s) probably aren't very constructive. Does she really want me to tell her that I don't like her laugh, or don't like some physical aspect about her, or don't like her personality or mannerisms or don't like that she's getting really clingy? If she's begging to get back together... I think I'm too stubborn for that, and usually when I break up with someone I've made my mind up. Do you weirdly like the fact she is begging for you or do you find it annoying and the begging solidifies your choice for ending things? Solidifies. How about with a girl that just takes it, says sorry you had to break up with me I know its difficult and messy ending things and then she just walks away, never bothers you or contacts you asking why and a million more questions. If I've decided that it's over and told her I'm grateful that she accepts this with dignity. I try to do the same when the woman ends things with me. what is your view. I did the second one by just walking away and I am curious about how my ex views me after that. :p:p Maybe he doesn't think about you at all? Maybe he thinks "nice girl, but it just didn't work out." Maybe he thinks "crazy girl, glad I got away!" Bonus information: I do sometimes keep in touch with exes. Perhaps we shared common interests that we can still do together, or perhaps we can still meet for a drink. This isn't going to work if she's begging to get back together or badgering me for details about why we broke up, but talking about "when we were together" doesn't have to be a taboo topic either. 1
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