Dread Pirate Roberts Posted July 7, 2013 Posted July 7, 2013 I posted here a few days ago about how my girlfriend and I had been arguing lately because she only made time for me when she wanted, never on my time. So, I called her Sunday and wasnt really sure if I was gonna break up with her or just try to talk it out or what. Before I could get to anything, she asked to break up. It was a pretty mutual thing, so I agreed. She is friends with several ex's, and said she wanted to remain friends. I told it would probably be a bit awkward, and told her if she ever wanted to talk to me, should would have to text me, because I would feel like an annoyance if I texted her first. Any way, she texted me for a little bit yesterday and we talked about how we both had feelings for one another, but she said a break is the best thing for us at this point, but she said she really does see a future between us again possibly. Having been in many relationships, I'm not taking anything she says as honest, so I told her as of the moment, if she wanted to try again I was all for it, and that I may be in the future too, but I told her that I wasn't going to wait around for her, and told her that I honestly just didn't know where my heart would be a month from now, and that I had to put myself back out there. She said she didn't expect me to wait around. Anyway, I told her I had to go and said "I'll talk to ya later, bud." She texted back with "Bye I guess." I could tell she was bothered or pissed or something and asked what was wrong and she just said "Nothing. Goodbye." So I haven't talked to her since then, but ever since that little text convo she has been posting pics on facebook, and I sorta feel like she wants me to be jealous, or it could just be in my head. She posted one pic with her and these two guys she is friends with, then she posted a couple of her and her girlfriend at a party last night, and then one of this guy she works with, and she knows that I was jealous of the guy while dating. She even posted a status after going to a theme park with a friend saying something like, "Got a shout out on the ride today from the ride operator dude, Adam :)". She posts pics on facebook, but not this often and they're usually of her. That's why I'm getting the feeling that she is trying to make me jealous. Also, a couple of the pics are several weeks old, so that means she's going through her phone and purposely posting pics of her and guys. I am not looking to get back together with her, and yea I do miss her some, but I understand break ups are part of life and I'm not going to dwell on this one girl. I was just curious to know, from a girls perspective, is she doing this to make me jealous? If so, why, she broke up with me? I gave her a chance to try and talk, but she insists a break up is for the best, at least right now, so why would she care to make me jealous? Man, it does sound like she's trying to make you jealous. It sounded like she was trying to keep your feelings for her, but make it uncertain; when you turned it around on her she didn't like that at all. You'd be best to move the hell on. Sounds like she's just trying to play games and you don't need that man. I been there and done that.
Dread Pirate Roberts Posted July 7, 2013 Posted July 7, 2013 you're still talking to her. are you noticing that it isn't getting you anywhere at all, and that she's still trying to string you along? Yeah, she's trying to see if she can keep him around for when she needs him. People shouldn't say stuff like, "Maybe in the future". Maybes are for fickle flaky people. 1
Author robtax Posted July 7, 2013 Author Posted July 7, 2013 Yea, well she's gone from being positive about wanting a break, to wanting to think 'long and hard', to 'I just need a few days to think about it. Now she is getting jealous and not wanting me to see other girls, and texting me first. So I don't know. I want to look at it as a step in the right direction, but having been in quite a few break ups, I am not going to look into it too much. A girl's mind is too confusing
Simon Phoenix Posted July 7, 2013 Posted July 7, 2013 Yea, well she's gone from being positive about wanting a break, to wanting to think 'long and hard', to 'I just need a few days to think about it. Now she is getting jealous and not wanting me to see other girls, and texting me first. So I don't know. I want to look at it as a step in the right direction, but having been in quite a few break ups, I am not going to look into it too much. A girl's mind is too confusing It's not. It's her keeping you on the hook as a backup plan. Nothing positive about it if you are looking to get back and stay back.
BC1980 Posted July 7, 2013 Posted July 7, 2013 Yea, well she's gone from being positive about wanting a break, to wanting to think 'long and hard', to 'I just need a few days to think about it. Now she is getting jealous and not wanting me to see other girls, and texting me first. So I don't know. I want to look at it as a step in the right direction, but having been in quite a few break ups, I am not going to look into it too much. A girl's mind is too confusing This road is just paved with red flags. It will lead to disaster in the end. The two of you need a good, long break without talking before considering anything else. She either wants to be with you or not. Maybe = NO 1
love.hurt Posted July 7, 2013 Posted July 7, 2013 These are signs that she is trying to cope with the breakup but in reality she probably is still hurting. Shes pretending she is doing fine and maybe just trying to make you jelous. My advice it continue to not contact her and wait for her to approach you. If she wants you back she will contact you in time. Have patience and try to move on regardless. It will only benefit you.
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