andymb79 Posted July 2, 2013 Posted July 2, 2013 I started seeing the girl ill call B about 8 months ago. We both just got out of ltr's her more recently than me. Everything has been great and she moved in with me about 3 months ago. In the last month we've been talking seriously about our future together and having a baby. We are both over 24 by the way. About a week ago we got into our first real fight and I was in the wrong. I didn't cheat. After a few days we were ok. Last night she came out and said she still loves her ex and has been talking to him during our whole relationship. I learned today that she spent the day with him last week, the day after our fight. She says she is confused but I don't know what to do. We've talked and it seems to be getting nowhere. I don't know what to do. Should I ask her to move out or give it time? I'm lost.
Chi townD Posted July 2, 2013 Posted July 2, 2013 You had a fight and the first person she turns to is her Ex. Let me guess, she's the one that started the fight. Chances are she welcomed the fight. It gave her an excuse to leave your place and go to him. Your fight gave herself permission to go to him and not feel guilty about it. She was able to say to herself, " If he wasn't such an asshat, I wouldn't be here! So, it's his fault!" She needed the fight to happen, can't really cheat on someone guilt free if she says to herself, " I have the sweetest boyfriend in the world...aanndd, I'm here screwing my Ex." This would make her the bad guy and she knows it. So, she had to make you the bad guy to justify her actions in her mind. Dude, she cheated on you. Sorry, I'm sure she spent the night with him. You don't need someone like that in your life.
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