jayy23 Posted July 2, 2013 Posted July 2, 2013 so.. about two months ago I started sleeping with my sisters good friend it just kinda happend out the blue she isnt normally the kinda girl I would go for but we started spending alot of time together and well things were going really well. my sister warned me about what she was like but I didnt really take much notice. the thing with her is that she had only been single for just over two months before we started sleeping together.. her ex bf was abusive he hit her and cheated on her with every opportunity he got plus hes allways in and out of prison. the thing is she allways leaves him then ends up running back to him and I can never understand why?? when she was with me she promised that she didn't want to have anything to do with him anymore that she was happy without him and she allways spoke badly of him. so a few days ago she just started ignoring my texts and calls and she was doing the same to my sister so my sister told me she allways does this when she gets back with her ex. so yesterday I found out that she is back with him she text my sister just saying sorry and nothing else. we weren't in a relationship together and I did tell her I was happy being single but now that she wont talk to me and is back with her ex I find myself wanting to speak to her. maybe because now I know I cant have her I want her more im not sure? I miss her company. I dont understand why she would go back to her ex after everything he puts her through I showed her what it was like to be respected and treated well but she still ends up back with her ex why???
Jono85 Posted July 2, 2013 Posted July 2, 2013 so.. about two months ago I started sleeping with my sisters good friend it just kinda happend out the blue she isnt normally the kinda girl I would go for but we started spending alot of time together and well things were going really well. my sister warned me about what she was like but I didnt really take much notice. the thing with her is that she had only been single for just over two months before we started sleeping together.. her ex bf was abusive he hit her and cheated on her with every opportunity he got plus hes allways in and out of prison. the thing is she allways leaves him then ends up running back to him and I can never understand why?? when she was with me she promised that she didn't want to have anything to do with him anymore that she was happy without him and she allways spoke badly of him. so a few days ago she just started ignoring my texts and calls and she was doing the same to my sister so my sister told me she allways does this when she gets back with her ex. so yesterday I found out that she is back with him she text my sister just saying sorry and nothing else. we weren't in a relationship together and I did tell her I was happy being single but now that she wont talk to me and is back with her ex I find myself wanting to speak to her. maybe because now I know I cant have her I want her more im not sure? I miss her company. I dont understand why she would go back to her ex after everything he puts her through I showed her what it was like to be respected and treated well but she still ends up back with her ex why??? it really doesn't matter why. it could be MANY reasons, all unhealthy. what you must take from this is that you do NOT want to be involved with a girl like this. in fact this really turns me off completely when I find out from a girl that her ex used to abuse her or cheat on her etc. usually that's a deal breaker for me unfortunately b/c it tells you she really doesn't have much self-respect if she sticks around. it also tells you she doesn't value a good guy, which will probably undoubtedly smack you in the face at some point in the future if you get involved with her. these girls are damaged and nothing but trouble. 3
aloneinaz Posted July 2, 2013 Posted July 2, 2013 Agree.. be glad she's back with her loser ex and find someone normal without all the damaged goods. Life's too short to start a serious relationship with someone that's not capable of being in it.
Chi townD Posted July 2, 2013 Posted July 2, 2013 She's attracted to the " bad boy" image. And that's going to bite her in the ass one day. If this guy is always bouncing in and out of prison, sooner or later, they're going to be out and about; the cops already knows who he is, they're gonna pull them over and if he has something on him whether it be drugs or stolen goods, she could go down with him as an accessory to a crime. Or if he's in her car and he's a passager; if they happen to get pulled over and he hides drugs or whatever in her car, SHE goes down for drug possession because it's HER CAR! By then, she'll realize that sooner or later, bad boy will usually start to treat them BADLY!!! Look dude, this is her choice (as stupid as it is...but still her choice). The only thing you can do is heal and move on. You are NOT someone's second choice. You are NOT a consolation prize. You are NOT someone to cool their heels with until someone gets out of the slammer. You have self worth! And I'm sure their are tons of girls out there that will appreicate you and everything you have to offer! Time to find them. 1
inaya42 Posted July 2, 2013 Posted July 2, 2013 it really doesn't matter why. it could be MANY reasons, all unhealthy. what you must take from this is that you do NOT want to be involved with a girl like this. in fact this really turns me off completely when I find out from a girl that her ex used to abuse her or cheat on her etc. usually that's a deal breaker for me unfortunately b/c it tells you she really doesn't have much self-respect if she sticks around. it also tells you she doesn't value a good guy, which will probably undoubtedly smack you in the face at some point in the future if you get involved with her. these girls are damaged and nothing but trouble. i hear what you are saying about dealing with people who have horrible relationship histories. you do find yourself having to pay for the mistakes of the prior terrible partners. at the same time, it is important not to blame the victim. abuse, cheating, relationship neglect are forms of toxicity that erode self-esteem. and, given how terribly many people behave in relationships, it is common to meet people who have endured horrible relationships. and many rebuild themselves, repair their self-esteem, and become suitable partners for others.
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