lake2luv Posted July 2, 2013 Posted July 2, 2013 Hey everyone, I've been a long time lurker here, finally got an account because I need to express myself somewhere, before I do something stupid like sending a message to my ex-girlfriend. We dated for six months and she decided that she no longer wanted me in her life. Her reasoning was even though her feelings hadn't waned she expected to be more in love with me by now. My feelings for her are through the roof, but I held back hoping not to push her away. I'm not really looking for much advice here, I've already decided to do NC. I just want to share a piece of my heart with you guys and hopefully get some words of encouragement. Ok, so here's my after breakup email to her. My feelings are very raw at the moment so its a little dramatic. For Whats it Worth Dear L.B.C., I sit here thinking about this lost relationship. So many emotions pour through me all at once. It’s like I’m laying down in the stream of events from the last 6 months of my life. Each moment that passes by brings a different feeling than the last. I feel the coldness of your neglect, the warmth of your embrace, the hot fire that is your rage, the calming touch of your lips. I’m amazed that one person could bring about such subtle and profound changes in my being. I hate how much I enjoy being lost in your world. It so full of ups and down, wrongs and rights, great loneliness and deep companionship. Never have I felt such great emotion, so easily swayed between complete happiness and utter misery. I place this time against all in my life and I cannot find one other moment that is as rich and full of life. Sometimes I hurt with the most wretched pain. I feel the weight of every word, emotion and silence crushing my heart all at once. At other times I am elated by the bond we shared. Thoughts of being in your presence and remembering the sound of your voice lifts me off my feet. I ask myself, how can this be? How can something so short, so painful, and so difficult, bring about the most amazing feelings of my life? Is this True Love? I don’t believe that love conquers all. But I do believe that True Love survives all. For what it’s what its worth as our relationship dies know that my love for you will never fade. With all the Love in the World
athousandquestions Posted July 2, 2013 Posted July 2, 2013 What are you hoping to get from this email? What do you want it to achieve? If you've decided to go NC, why are you sending this letter? Do you think it will give you closure? Closure doesn't exist. Really think about that. Because this is what it will do: - It will give her more power over you - Her response, if she does reply, will hurt you even more. - You will be pushing her farther away.
Author lake2luv Posted July 2, 2013 Author Posted July 2, 2013 Sorry I should have clarified I am posting the letter here instead of sending it to her. I wrote the letter to express my feelings. I'm just trying to push forward through this time right now best I can.
SimonSerenade Posted July 2, 2013 Posted July 2, 2013 It's a sweet letter but yeah you shouldn't send it, closure is over rated, my closure was my ex giving away the gifts I bought her after the break up, I took that as the sign that we'd never be together again, you find your own closure, since we'll never be together again I couldn't give a crap what she says or does, that's my state of mind, it's been a month since she left and I'm genuinely happy on my own, I think because our relationship was a short one (a year and a half), it's just not that big of a deal and easier to get over, treat yourself to something nice and take it easy, it's all you can do to let it go, i loved my ex, she was a great lady for the most part but it's nice not having someone walk all over my ass lol.
hellischrome Posted July 3, 2013 Posted July 3, 2013 Jesus man, pull youself together and don't even write stuff like that! You are gonna be fine because eventually we all do!
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