Zachsh Posted October 19, 2004 Posted October 19, 2004 OK so I have kindof been in a situation with girls. Im a bigger guy, played football all my life and in high school I was popular and got girls because of it. Now I am at school and it is much different because girls really do not look at me the same way. In high school they kinda approached me and called me and stuff to hang out, but now its totally different. I have had bigger girls come on to me but I have never gotten with a girl who is not atleast remotely attractive. If I hook up with a girl like that it would be a plunge in my standards, and Im afraid it would make me look bad. What should i do? lower my standards or keep trying for hot girls?
bluechocolate Posted October 19, 2004 Posted October 19, 2004 Jeez - you can't be serious. Are you buying a car or something? Lower your standards? How about getting some in the first place !?!
EC Posted October 19, 2004 Posted October 19, 2004 Oh c'mon...Are you still living your little highschool fantasy? The real world is nothing like highschool so you need to get over it. How about finding a girl you LIKE rather just just focusing on her looks. You might be surprised!
Katie-Lou Posted October 19, 2004 Posted October 19, 2004 Jesus Christ, dude, at the end of the day looks aren't everything, personality is way more important, looks are just a bonus. Never mind about lowering your standards, to be honest nobody really cares, you're no one special, nobody's going to be interested in who you're dating. Jeez, grow up and maybe learn now to be so shallow. 'Hot girls' as you call them are normally superficial, stuck up snobs anyway, sorry but they normally are, why don't you just find someone with a nice personality, if you get to know her, her looks will be the last of your worries. Katie-Lou.
discouraged Posted October 19, 2004 Posted October 19, 2004 Originally posted by Katie-Lou ...you're no one special, nobody's going to be interested in who you're dating... what the hell is that? talk about a slap in the face....give the guy some credit at least. 90% of people out there are affected by first impressions, and its proven. and he's no one special? how would you know? Originally posted by Katie-Lou 'Hot girls' as you call them are normally superficial, stuck up snobs anyway, sorry but they normally are, why don't you just find someone with a nice personality, if you get to know her, her looks will be the last of your worries. Katie-Lou. sure, personality is definitely more important than what she looks like on the outside, but you can't tell me that every single good looking "hot" girl out there is superficial and dumb as a brick, i have met and dated plenty of girls that are good looking and "hot" and are just as cool as the next person.....to say that all women that are good looking are stupid and superficial is a very poor oversight and a bad judgement on your behalf. i agree that you need to be with someone for their personality but really, saying things that are totally self-opinion-based isn't really going to help...
Katie-Lou Posted October 19, 2004 Posted October 19, 2004 Originally posted by discouraged what the hell is that? talk about a slap in the face....give the guy some credit at least. 90% of people out there are affected by first impressions, and its proven. and he's no one special? how would you know? Yeah, but at the end of the day, who is going to be interested? This is what i used to be like myself as a matter of fact, i used to think 'oh no, i cant date this guy, it'll lower my standards', at the end of the day nobody cared, i'm with my boyfriend at the moment, in my eyes he's absolutely gorgeous but nobody else thinks that. I like my boyfriend for who he is, not for what he looks like. When i first saw him i was attracted to him yeah, but not by what he looked like, it was by his attitude and the way he acted, but now i've got to know him for what he's like inside, seeing him from that light now, he's absolutely gorgeous in every way possible. Nobody looks at me and gives me funny looks or anything, yes i know i could do a hell of a lot better ( i don't mean that big-headed ) but at the end of the day it was my choice to go for him, nobody else told me to, and it hasn't lowered my standards in the slightest, all my mates still talk to me and all the 'popular' guys still look at me in the same light. As long as you're happy nothing else should matter. I didn't mean anything i said in a rude or cocky way if that's how it seemed. sure, personality is definitely more important than what she looks like on the outside, but you can't tell me that every single good looking "hot" girl out there is superficial and dumb as a brick, i have met and dated plenty of girls that are good looking and "hot" and are just as cool as the next person.....to say that all women that are good looking are stupid and superficial is a very poor oversight and a bad judgement on your behalf. i agree that you need to be with someone for their personality but really, saying things that are totally self-opinion-based isn't really going to help... I didn't mean every 'hot' girl, i said 'are normally' anyway i'm not getting into an argument, i'm just giving my opinion and i think i am intitled to do that. Thank you. Katie-Lou. x
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