Babolat Posted July 2, 2013 Posted July 2, 2013 I am very much into psychology, studying how the mind works, how it works with your body, etc. I also belive in psychic stuff, not the wacky stuff, I believe people put off energy and some folks can read/feel that energy. I feel that in my own personal life and in relationships. Call it a vibe, intution, gut feeling, what have you, I believe in it and I feel it in my life. That said, typically when dating someone I do not dream about them. In fact I rarely remember my dreams. However, breakups are different. I have had 3 LTRs (more than 12 months) and after the breakup I will dream about the person. Sometimes they are just present, no real meaning. In my current case, they are strange, werid, almost scary dreams with her in them. And, when her and I dated and we would spend the night together I would dream like crazy. I personally think it's my mind processing the breakup and my mind telling me "stay away" as she has recently initiated how can we make it work talks, offering compromises, and I have been resistant. I have listend but I have not responded. It's been 3+ weeks since we last talked and I have no plans to continue our talks. Your thoughts on dreams?
startinganew777 Posted July 2, 2013 Posted July 2, 2013 I am one of those people that always dreams and most of the time remembers them all. I think they definitely mean something. I am going through a rough time right now with the guy I am dating. It has been 6 months and 3 months ago he said he wasn't looking for a relationship. I am falling in love with him but haven't told him and I am VERY scared it will be over when I do. Or that he won't feel the same and I will need to move on. He divorced 3 years ago and has a daughter and I just always have this feeling although he says he really dislikes her, that he still has strong feelings for his ex wife and that is why he can't get serious with anyone. The other night I had a dream it was his birthday and he was blowing out the candles and I told him to make a wish. His wish was that him and his ex wife would get back together. It seemed so real. Then last night I had this reoccuring dream of driving in a car up this really, really steep hill, so steep I get really scared and then my car flips over backwards. I think that is because I know I need to tell him how I feel now and get it over with. It is an obstacle I have to take and I feel very out of control and scared. My dreams always mean something to me and when I am dealing with something intense, they get more intense.
Eternal Sunshine Posted July 2, 2013 Posted July 2, 2013 For me, I dream about what I am thinking about a lot in my waking life. Or the thoughts I am trying to suppress. Dreams are more jumbled though... I rarely dream of men I date but I also don't get attached easily. I didn't dream of my ex after our LTR ended once, but that's largely because I have emotionally moved on before the relationship ended. If you are dreaming about this woman, it's most likely because you haven't emotionally moved on just yet.
sillyanswer Posted July 2, 2013 Posted July 2, 2013 Your thoughts on dreams? I think the existence of dreams can be indicative of healthy sleep, and the content of dreams is meaningless other than that they occasionally reflect something that's been on your mind recently. For me, I dream about what I am thinking about a lot in my waking life. Yes, me too, sometimes. Also, ES, that's a cute new avatar. 1
firstworldproblems Posted July 2, 2013 Posted July 2, 2013 Well I'm in a relationship and have never been through a breakup. I don't remember my dreams often, but the only ones I have remembered in the past year or so are dreams where we are happy together. Sometimes its our wedding, sometimes we are just hanging out in our real life. I really enjoy having those dreams :-)
Author Babolat Posted July 2, 2013 Author Posted July 2, 2013 If you are dreaming about this woman, it's most likely because you haven't emotionally moved on just yet. I thought this too, though months before I ended the relationship I was emotionally detaching myself. I almost had to to put up with her. I feel great right now. I think when she reaches out to me, it naturally makes me think "what if". I think that is pretty normal as I remember the good. Then within minutes I remember why I ended it. I will always care about her; she is a specail person in my life as I grew a lot with her, and learned a lot about myself being with her. For one, she made me realize how much I crave affection and want to give affection as I never really felt that in past relationships. I literally crave it now! The relationship emotions are gone for me. I think what's happening now is my brain is creating dreams to enforce that when I hear from her. And to her credit she has mostly stopped contacting me.
Author Babolat Posted July 2, 2013 Author Posted July 2, 2013 I think the existence of dreams can be indicative of healthy sleep, and the content of dreams is meaningless other than that they occasionally reflect something that's been on your mind recently. I have heard the opposite; that lots of dreaming means a restless sleep...hmmmm
startinganew777 Posted July 2, 2013 Posted July 2, 2013 I have heard the same. I get very restless sleep. Wake up often and probably don't get much deep sleep. Always seem to be in a dream state
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