Closure?

[Zebra]

I recently split up with a girl I'd been seeing the best part of a year, it came from sudden, full on spending the rest of our lives together relationship to nothing in a week or so. She told no one, not me, her friends, her parents, no-one until the day she dumped me. She had basically been working massive hours and got very down, the spark had gone, instead of trying to put it back she bugged out and instantly left me, as you can imagine this has left me feeling totally hollow. She won't even reply to messages and has cut me out of her life completely, my problem is I'm finding closure very hard, I can't convince myself it's what she really wanted so it leaves me with a false hope, I'd love to go out and meet new people but the doubt is destroying me. Although being almost my mid 20's this is probably the first girl I've ever truly loved and still do, we shared everything. I just feel like she gave up on me the second the relationship fluttered (we'd never argued, not once). Has anyone else been through anything similar? Will this pass or will I keep clinging on to a lost flame?

[Sukotto]

Well a good way to get them thinking, my friend done this when his girlfriend made a harsh decision.

 

he met and her and looked straight into her eyes and said "If you can look straight into my eyes and tell me that you done everything possible to make this relationship work then we can end it". Obviously she couldn't and they had a good long talk and well got back together, her problem was the spark had gone but it was only due to how she'd been feeling herself about work and university and other stuff.

 

If you can't seem to meet her I guess you could tell her to look in a mirror and look straight into her own eyes and ask the same question.

 

I'm sure there would be other ways to handle it too, though if the above doesn't work then I'd stop talking about your relationship completely, this is either A. freaking her our or B. making her feel like she has control over her.