hellischrome Posted July 2, 2013 Posted July 2, 2013 Hi everyone... after 6 months of on and off he dumped me today, saying that he needs to clear his mind, he is not happy with me and that he has too many problems - committing first of all. He is seeing a therapist and going back to Italy for a week tomorrow, where he will most likely see his ex girlfriend. I am 26 and I have never been dumped before, I don't even know how I feel...
Legatus Posted July 2, 2013 Posted July 2, 2013 I am 25 (soon 26) and been dumped for the first time as well few months ago. She said she wasn't happy and lied to me in hope it will go back to normal, in the meantime she found somebody else. I know your feeling, excruciating pain of not knowing why it happened, and whether what he said was true.. Do you think he was truthful to you about the reasons behind his decision? Would you like to get him back or try to move on?
Author hellischrome Posted July 2, 2013 Author Posted July 2, 2013 There has been a lot going on between us, and he really had huge issues with his inner balance. He used to cry every single day in the last two months, and still had issues with his ex who he treated awfully, he had issues with me as he couldn't be happy and all of that. I knew he wasn't giving want I wanted (stability), but I closed my eyes and kept on going, hoping things would change. They didn't. I really think he should solve his issues. He wrote to me saying he swears he will solve his issues and then let me know. I know he said that not to make me feel bad, because I am the dumpee. I know he is not coming back to me, the only thing I hate is that somehow I will hope for him to come back for a long time... and I will suffer. A lot.
Nicoleiia Posted July 2, 2013 Posted July 2, 2013 I am 26 too and I got dumped for the first time almost 2 years ago. I was really upset, but its life. It happens all the time, so don't get too upset. He mentioned that he was going to Italy and was going to see his ex? He still wants his ex, that's the problem. Please use NC and just move on from that. You can recover from 6 months...
Author hellischrome Posted July 2, 2013 Author Posted July 2, 2013 He is going for family issues (his godfather is dying, unfortunately), and he told he doesn't know if he is going to see her or not, and how he will feel about it. He never talked to her on Skype or anything in these months, as far as I know, cause he didn't want to. They're gonna come back here together and get married Anyway, he's only going for a week. I hate that probably I will wait for him to contact me once I know he is back. And he won't do it. And I will get sooo hurt.
Legatus Posted July 2, 2013 Posted July 2, 2013 That's the natural course of life. The lesson is to always remember - if something bugs you, feels out of place, or you feel unhappy - speak up! We all have the right to speak our minds if something goes not at the pace we feel comfortable with. I learnt it the hard way and I never wanted a lot from my relationship but honesty. Unfortunately I never got that, especially not in the end. Hopefully you will wait for him less every day, until you find yourself in a place where it becomes irrelevant. I will keep my fingers crossed for you!
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