Karina Posted October 19, 2004 Posted October 19, 2004 I kinda have this weird "attraction" to my boss. He's in his late 20's early 30's and im just turning 20. NOt only that im involved and he's married. LOL. typical type of situation i suppose. Anyways, he looks at me at times like he might be attracted too, which makes the whole moment sort of weird for me, since for some reason i feel the need to only want to be the one who's attracted at all. ISNT THAT WEIRD? I feel like having him be attracted to me would just escalate on things, which I'm very sure of. ALTHO he does "flirt" with me in the most innocent ways. LIKE looking at me straight in the eyes and licking his lips with a smirk on his face???? ALWAYS leaving and mentioning how it was SO NICE TO SEE ME AGAIN????? Am I GOING CRAZY? or is there something going on?
Merin Posted October 19, 2004 Posted October 19, 2004 Hmmm doesn't really matter IF he's flirting.. because he's married. You've already got someone (who I will assume isn't married) Stick with that, and save yourself a lot of agony later on.
izzybelle Posted October 19, 2004 Posted October 19, 2004 karina, hard to say whether something is going on or not. please be very careful about office relationships. there are other posts from people here who got involved with married men in their offices and it can be difficult. i won't go into details, but.... trust me on this one, it can get very messy if people even suspect that something is going on. and this will all be complicated by the fact that he's married. as far as you wanting to be the only one feeling the attraction.... not sure... perhaps you like the thrill of the chase, don't know. but again, because he's married and he's your boss you could be asking for much, much more trouble than you really want.
Quilly Posted October 19, 2004 Posted October 19, 2004 Do you like your job? If so, then don't pursue this any further with your boss. I ask this only because I'm sure you're capable of reading the other postings under this forum in which case you realize that being the other woman in an affair rarely leads to a happy ending. If you don't value your emotional wellbeing enough to steer clear of him... perhaps you value your job enough? Good luck.
Mr Spock Posted October 19, 2004 Posted October 19, 2004 Originally posted by Karina I kinda have this weird "attraction" to my boss. He's in his late 20's early 30's and im just turning 20. NOt only that im involved and he's married. LOL. typical type of situation i suppose. Anyways, he looks at me at times like he might be attracted too, which makes the whole moment sort of weird for me, since for some reason i feel the need to only want to be the one who's attracted at all. ISNT THAT WEIRD? I feel like having him be attracted to me would just escalate on things, which I'm very sure of. ALTHO he does "flirt" with me in the most innocent ways. LIKE looking at me straight in the eyes and licking his lips with a smirk on his face???? ALWAYS leaving and mentioning how it was SO NICE TO SEE ME AGAIN????? Am I GOING CRAZY? or is there something going on? It's somewhat natural to develop an attraction to a person in a position of authority over you (read has a problem with authority- keeps trying to f*ck it) it happens with teachers, therapists, bosses-it would be inappropriate for him to act on it. Trust me, you just THINK you like him. In a year you'll look back and SHUDDER if you've been flirting heavily with him. Believe what I'm telling you. Attention is flattering for both parties. Don't let it progress any further than that.
Author Karina Posted October 19, 2004 Author Posted October 19, 2004 I see where you guys are coming at. I shouldn't flirt back anymore i'm supposing, since it might lead to something else. its hard for me to say that if he actually initiated something would i act on it? Yea it might be since he's my boss that its a "power over me" type thing. who know's. I guess ill stop flirting back at him to see what he thinks. LOL. because by now its something expected from both of us when we see each other. LOL. ILL TRY MY BEST TO RESIST. since he is VERY VERY CUTE
Quilly Posted October 19, 2004 Posted October 19, 2004 Try not to forget that he's also VERY VERY MARRIED....
Mr Spock Posted October 21, 2004 Posted October 21, 2004 Originally posted by Quilly Try not to forget that he's also VERY VERY MARRIED.... Regardless, there are other mitigating factors that are much, much worse. You'll get over it...just a crush....normal. You'll thank yourself later for not acting on it. Trust me.
VivianLee Posted October 21, 2004 Posted October 21, 2004 It's a crush but it's not an innocent game! There's a wife at home that he made vows to. One day you'll be the wife at home, think about how you'd feel if the shoe were on the other foot. I've never seen a case in my life where you don't pay for what you do!! To him, you're just a young chick boosting his ego. He may even think you are an easy lay that he might try and get away with or he may just leave his flirting with you at work and go home and be the devoted or jerky husband..... Just enjoy your relationship with your unattached man and leave little ego boost alone! (P.S. it's not that great of an accomplishment to get a married man to flirt, they are all easy prey....now get a sexy, successful single guy then you are accomplishing something and could be considered a chick that's "all that")
Author Karina Posted October 22, 2004 Author Posted October 22, 2004 I'm not just in an "unattached" relationship. I mean we have a kid. But it still doesn't justify what i think might be flirting with my boss. Recently things have cooled off at my job though. I've started turning the table and ignoring him. He seems pissed off at times since i don't pay attention to him, and I'm sure he doesn't want everyone else around us knowing that its the reason why he's pissed off. BUT WHO CARES. I feel a little better now that I'm not worried about going to work to flirt with my boss. I'm concentrating on what's good, and what's gonna help me and my family out in the future. ALL OF YOU ARE RIGHT. not only is he married but he has kids just like i do. I wouldn't know what i would do if my husband came home one day and told me he was leaving me for his BOSS. LOL. it was an innocent crush that I'm SO OVER now. i mean he's still fine as hell..LOL. but I'm not taking that road with him anymore. THANKS GUYS. -kari
Sky Posted October 23, 2004 Posted October 23, 2004 Hiya I don't think it matters whether there is something actually going on or not ... you need to look after yourself and believe me that having an affair with a married man is a really dangerous and hurtful game as many of us here have found out. Even if he is attracted to you please don't recipricate... just leave him alone and walk away -- forget him and get on with your life... Sky
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