Silly Girl924 Posted July 2, 2013 Posted July 2, 2013 You can read some of my forms in the "Breaking up" section if you'd like, but long story short.. I'm 21, he's 21. We dated for four years. We had a long distance relationship for two years and I moved back home because I hated the school I was going to, and his mommy passed away. We broke up two or three months ago and we've been in strict NC for about two months (neither one of us "initiated" it, I just decided to never talk to him again after he broke up with me through text for drugs and another girl.) Anyway, their has been another guy that I have been interested in lately. I've known him for a while, although it was only through mutual friends. He's super shy and quiet. And because we have mutual a best friend he has heard my vents about my ex boyfriend. He knows everything about him that I had to vent about at the time. I only started turning an eye to him over the last two weeks, when we realized we have the same favorite band (the Yeah Yeah Yeahs). Last night, I went to his college graduation party, it was very low key. We hooked up too! I don't mean sex hook up, but just making out, and getting hot and heavy but trying not to because I'm not a "fast" girl. Bottom line: am I just rebounding??? I hope not, I'm trying to take it as slowly as I can, although I guess I didn't show that last night. He said he'd call me tonight after work but he never did. Is that normal? Is that how dating is? Its been 4 years since I've "dated" and like I said, I'm only 21 so I have no idea!! Lol any advice would be great! Thanks for reading
simplyamazing Posted July 2, 2013 Posted July 2, 2013 If you still think about your ex all the time, even whilst around this new guy... then it's a rebound. If you're of clear thoughts from the ex, and all you think about is the new guy... you should be safe. If he didn't call you, try texting or something tomorrow - if he doesn't. Dating is a stupid game most of the time.
Author Silly Girl924 Posted July 2, 2013 Author Posted July 2, 2013 Thank you for the reply! I don't think of my ex much at all. I do sometimes, only if I hear something about him. Small town, lots of mutual friends so kind of inevitable. But I will tomorrow maybe, I just hate the whole texting thing I hate textin first but I hope he texts me first. Thanks again
pushforward Posted July 2, 2013 Posted July 2, 2013 The question are... Do you genuinely like the guy? Are you using him to get away from your emotions? You have to reflect on how you really feel. Nobody can answer these questions for you. If you think you are ready to go out and date, then try it. If you aren't ready yet, take some time off to figure you out. It's not so complicating. Just do what feels right to you.
Inviv_girl Posted July 2, 2013 Posted July 2, 2013 You shouldn't think about your ex anymore, he left you for drugs and another girl?!? come on..you deserve better! it won't be a rebound if you 100% clear your thought of him! You deserve better, if not with the guy you currently seeing then it will be with another guy. Hey you are only 21!! for God sake you still have a looong way to go! so no worries, if he doesn't text you, take your time to get to know other guy who is interested in you at the first place
Author Silly Girl924 Posted July 2, 2013 Author Posted July 2, 2013 Thanks everyone I'm ready! Lol yes I do like this other guy and I'm hoping for the best. I'm completely free of my ex! Thanks again:)
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