adelia Posted July 1, 2013 Posted July 1, 2013 im really struggling today. ive tried to keep busy but when im not my mind feels lost and depressed. i keep going over all the good points and i have anxiety over the loss. i dont remember what life was like before he entered in. i feel so lost and like ill never be happy again. i worry about him hoping hes ok only to think he could be fine and find it humorous. i loved this person with all my heart. then i feel guilt at things i did wrong . i know it wouldnt last forever but i miss the good times. talking to him and laughing. sharing our days events. i really cared for him. it feels like its not worth sharing your life with someone when the pain is so intense. its hard to see the future as a happy one right now. lost is the only word i can use.
ToobSocks Posted July 1, 2013 Posted July 1, 2013 I know how you feel. I'm pretty much in the same boat as you with my ex girlfriend. How recently was the breakup and what were the reasons? The only thing I can say is for the first few weeks don't try to look into the future too much. The reason I say this is because for me, all my future plans that made me happy involved her and it just made me feel worse. You need to narrow your mind and take it one breath at a time and eventually it will become easier as you start to make plans with other people and possibly school starts again so you will have things to look forward too. 1
Author adelia Posted July 2, 2013 Author Posted July 2, 2013 what you said about not looking too far in the future really helped. my problem is im a worrier and think too much. im going to focus on moment by moment. im just feeling so lonely right now. it was recent within the span of days and it was because there was emotiinal pain build up and he lost interest. theres more to it but basically it was painful. it seems to come in waves the grief and anxiety. i just feel like sleeping for hours on end.
Fromoutofnowhere Posted July 2, 2013 Posted July 2, 2013 What a bummer. Sorry you both are dealing with a breakup. As someone who suffers from depression and PTSD, I deal with waves of melancholy and even rage throughout a single day. What I try to do is just concentrate my thoughts on the present. Meditation and hobbies are the best help. Learning a new skill is a swift way to feel good about oneself again and keeps the mind from idling and ruminating. Just remember that anyone that didn't think about you well enough to stick it out doesn't deserve your thought now.
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