Casablanca Posted July 1, 2013 Posted July 1, 2013 Why does it seem so hard for some people, me definitely included, to follow their own advice? What is it about our own psyche that causes this? Surly I'm not the only one who has problem! I just asked a lady out, she said she would love to go out to dinner, but that she did just start talking to someone on match, but it was far from serious, and asked if I was okay with it and I said yes. I am okay with it, I'm still getting a chance and I know that whether that other guy was there or not, if this one girl doesn't like me, it wouldn't have gone anywhere. Either she was going to like me or not like me independent of this other guy (it could help accelerate her knowing she isn't interested long term, but wont change the outcome). But part of me can't stop worrying, just a tiny bit, that if they have a date before we have one, that he will "win" out, that since we're going out Thursday that my chances are lowered if they go out before then. I know this isn't the case (I think I have a step up since her and I share a mutual good friend, have been acquaintances for a few years where this other guy came from online), so why is it be so hard to listen to one's advice? Is this the reason we are told not to make big decisions during emotional times? What about us clogs our judgement and decision making skills when we get emotional?
todreaminblue Posted July 1, 2013 Posted July 1, 2013 Why does it seem so hard for some people, me definitely included, to follow their own advice? What is it about our own psyche that causes this? Surly I'm not the only one who has problem! Is this the reason we are told not to make big decisions during emotional times? What about us clogs our judgement and decision making skills when we get emotional? hey, No you arent the only one, it is easy to offer advice harder to swallow your own......and i was told the worse time for me to make any major decisions is when i am highly emotional.....because emotions cloud judgement....emotions wrap up logical thought in a blanket of conflicting scenarios when emotions are high...which makes it hard to decide what is best....its good when you can have a balance of emotions and logic.....it is normally however skewed one way or another.......what clogs our judgement is humanity...the art of being human......logic is often cold strategic and factual...emotions are a tangible cloud.......that changes with the weather.......imperfect...so that why i attribute our humanity to emotions...... anyway it is possible she will fall for the guy she dates....or she could really fall for you in a big way...as you said logically, she knows you better,dating is full of chance and uncertainty and cant be logically predicted having doubt is so normal,.......i hope that it works out for you casablanca.....and in the end......i FEEL that the right guy will always find his right girl...goin back to my cloud of feel good and warm blankets.........smilin atcha....best wishes....deb
Author Casablanca Posted July 1, 2013 Author Posted July 1, 2013 "Don't make decisions when you're angry, and don't make promises when you're happy." I do refuse to talk about a disagreement with a SO if I'm heated...if we're having a fight, I always wait till the next day to talk about the issue we had to avoid saying the wrong thing...I have wanted to say so many things before, but am always glad I waited until the next day to discuss things 1
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