irc333 Posted July 1, 2013 Posted July 1, 2013 Well, I actually scored a date with a woman I met in REAL life for a change (not a dating site) wonders never cease eh? Anyway, that being said, since I've been so used to online dating, most women are just wanting to MEET at the venue for safety reasons, because of the nature of online dating. But since I met her out and about at a previous social event in real life, shall I offer to pick her up instead?
Casablanca Posted July 1, 2013 Posted July 1, 2013 Well, I actually scored a date with a woman I met in REAL life for a change (not a dating site) wonders never cease eh? Anyway, that being said, since I've been so used to online dating, most women are just wanting to MEET at the venue for safety reasons, because of the nature of online dating. But since I met her out and about at a previous social event in real life, shall I offer to pick her up instead? Where did you meet her and how much time did you get to interact with her? Overall I'd suggest offering to pick her up, she's got a good idea of who you are, knows you're real. Though it also depends on how you met her and how long you two talked. The couple cold approaches that have actually worked for me, I've offered to meet at a bar or coffee shop, well because I don't know that much about them and don't want to invest too much just yet. Meet up dates are easy and cheap. If its a girl I've met at a party or something with connections through my friends, or work or class where I have a better idea of the person as I've interacted enough with them I'll offer a more traditional date.
Author irc333 Posted July 1, 2013 Author Posted July 1, 2013 Where did you meet her and how much time did you get to interact with her? Overall I'd suggest offering to pick her up, she's got a good idea of who you are, knows you're real. Though it also depends on how you met her and how long you two talked. The couple cold approaches that have actually worked for me, I've offered to meet at a bar or coffee shop, well because I don't know that much about them and don't want to invest too much just yet. Meet up dates are easy and cheap. If its a girl I've met at a party or something with connections through my friends, or work or class where I have a better idea of the person as I've interacted enough with them I'll offer a more traditional date. It was through a Meetup event at a dance club.
Star Gazer Posted July 1, 2013 Posted July 1, 2013 Unless I have long-standing knowledge of the guy (he's been in my circle of friends for a long time), I still prefer to meet him there. The offer is appreciated though. 4
Casablanca Posted July 1, 2013 Posted July 1, 2013 It was through a Meetup event at a dance club. How much did you two talk? What kind of date is it? If it is just drinks or coffee, I'd say just meet, if you two are going for dinner, offer to pick her up, she might decline, but don't be hurt by that, just a lady being cautious.
Ami1uwant Posted July 1, 2013 Posted July 1, 2013 How is this any different than you chatted online for a bit? Do not go and pick her up--respect her privacy. Still have a date and plan on meeting her. Only if she asks about picking her up do you do it. Had you had a longer conversation or had known each other through work or social group for some time and then talked about dating would you go and pick them up for a first date.
SoulJazzBlues Posted July 1, 2013 Posted July 1, 2013 I don't care where I met a guy. I would meet him at the place. I have no interest in strangers knowing where I live. You for all intents and purposes are still a stranger to her. You can offer it to her sure. But after one meeting only, is that necessary?
Archgirl Posted July 2, 2013 Posted July 2, 2013 Yes do offer. I've only had two guys ever offer and it feels lovely. They both said something along the lines of "you're special, I want to do this properly and pick you up and take you out to dinner and treat you like the beautiful woman you are" It's pretty damn hard to resist. And also: go you! Best of luck! Xo 1
crude Posted July 2, 2013 Posted July 2, 2013 They both said something along the lines of "you're special, I want to do this properly and pick you up and take you out to dinner and treat you like the beautiful woman you are" It's pretty damn hard to resist. When a total/near stranger tells you that on a first date, do you really believe it's anything but a line from a player? How about if he throws in "you're the love of my life, the reason I breathe, my inspiration, and soon I'll meet you face to face".
Archgirl Posted July 2, 2013 Posted July 2, 2013 When a total/near stranger tells you that on a first date, do you really believe it's anything but a line from a player? How about if he throws in "you're the love of my life, the reason I breathe, my inspiration, and soon I'll meet you face to face". I'm a highly intelligent, highly self aware, very perceptive grown woman. 'nuff said? I got into relationships with both of them and more importantly for this thread had a fantastic first date and got very good first impressions of them for wanting to treat me to an old fashioned date. Why don't you take your bitter "all women are stupid and fall for the wrong guys" attitude somewhere else huh? 1
crude Posted July 2, 2013 Posted July 2, 2013 Why don't you take your bitter "all women are stupid and fall for the wrong guys" attitude somewhere else huh? I'm not bitter at all. The dumber women are, the more it suits my purposes. I don't care who women fall for, as long as I get what I want.
Tinie Posted July 2, 2013 Posted July 2, 2013 I'm not bitter at all. The dumber women are, the more it suits my purposes. I don't care who women fall for, as long as I get what I want. Well gee, thanks for the generalization. It's great that women are so dumb. Feel free to phuk us anytime you want! Carry on, then! 1
Lani Posted July 2, 2013 Posted July 2, 2013 Yes, offer to pick her up. It's a lovely gesture, and she's free to say no if she feels uncomfortable. good luck
grkBoy Posted July 2, 2013 Posted July 2, 2013 Offering never hurts I agree. Offer, but don't insist.
Author irc333 Posted July 4, 2013 Author Posted July 4, 2013 I agree. Offer, but don't insist. I offered, but she says she'll meet me right after work, so she won't be going home. Not sure why, figured she'd at least "freshen up" for me at first. lol
Author irc333 Posted July 4, 2013 Author Posted July 4, 2013 How much did you two talk? What kind of date is it? If it is just drinks or coffee, I'd say just meet, if you two are going for dinner, offer to pick her up, she might decline, but don't be hurt by that, just a lady being cautious. After the event, a few of us from the group hung out and took a walk around the area and I happened to strike up a conversation during that walk...so we had our time together then...but it was the first time I had ever met her. She told me she's pretty much up for anything, she enjoys movies, dinner, dancing, etc for our date. She seems to go with the flow and not demanding of anything. But yeah, she's meeting me after she gets off work.
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