Legatus Posted July 1, 2013 Posted July 1, 2013 Hi Everybody, I haven't noticed any "introduce yourself" type of thread so I'm going to do it with my first thread. I am not a shy person, nor am I a very confident man. Few weeks ago I was dumped for another guy and before that lied and cheated on. This forum actually helped me a lot (which I already mentioned in another thread) but just wanted to say a big thank you. Going back to the subject. As I said I am trying to be as confident as possible but considering the number of my female partners and encounters - I am far from being a Casanova. I like going to the clubs occasionally, but only to dance. I tend not to meet women at clubs, pubs et cetera. Somehow I never believe in it. I prefer to meet someone in causal places like library, bus stop, airport, shop, street, a queue - something like that. However, (correct me if I'm wrong), women tend to be even more difficult to be talked to while in those normal situations, right? I mean how can you just walk up to a woman and say .... that's the thing: what to say? Women expect men to be super-confident male specimen to even find them attractive enough to kindly respond. The reality is, sometimes underneath a little less-confident exterior is actually a pretty good interior. I always try to apply the same logic to women. But obviously a man wouldn't mind any woman to talk to him, but women would only respond if they think the guy deserves it. Am I wrong? I would really love to see other people's views on this subject. Personally I would like very much for a woman to start a conversation - I had numerous encounters where I smiled, she smiled - why wouldn't she speak first? I like people who break stereotypes. Don't you? I'm not going to go into details of my break-up, as it would take a lot of time to write, perhaps other time, but because of it, of course, not only my self-esteem dropped (although it's fine now), but my trust and believing in people (which I always have) have reached an all time low. I guess that's the main reason for this thread. I would like to know your opinion. Men how do you feel about casual chat with a woman? Ladies, how do you react when someone wants to chat you up, please be honest, what do you like and what drives you crazy?
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