Unrequited love

[questionlife]

Hey everyone,

 

I was just looking for some advice about getting over a long lost unrequited love...

 

I met her 20 years ago as a teenager, and she was my first true love (which everyone says was just a crush, but I honestly really know it was true love but I had to leave home before we ever slept together...

 

Problem is, I find myself now sometimes not completely being with a woman I am having sex with now as I think of her and what it would have been like to make love to her...

 

It kind of makes me sad that life robbed me of not only the experience with her, but of sometimes truly being 100% with someone else since I am pining away for that experience...

 

I was just wondering what anyone had to say about getting over not just her, but the loss of everything else...

 

Thanks

[Leegh]

I understand how you feel. Recently, I looked up an old boyfriend on Facebook, and I got really depressed, and was feeling low for several days. I realize it's been 20 years for you, but do you have her phone number, etc.? Since you feel this strongly about her still, I think you should contact her. Perhaps you and she could go out, or at least you get closure.

[questionlife]

Thanks, Leegh

 

I actually did find her on Facebook a few years ago and got in touch - she's married with a couple kids, so nothing is going to ever happen... I'm not sure what kind of closure I would ever get, but I understand what you are saying, thanks

[TaraMaiden]

"Life" hasn't robbed you of anything.

 

You've cheated yourself out of living the life you should have lived, instead of pining for an unobtainable and impossible goal.

 

If any 'robbing' has been done - you've done it.

 

Face it - YOU have wasted your time.

 

So, decide:

 

Are you going to keep cheating yourself out of happiness, deliberately, or are you going to accept this is self-inflicted and aim to put it down - now?