powerofnow Posted July 1, 2013 Posted July 1, 2013 (edited) Hey Guys - please can you help me with a bit of clarity. Brief story , were never officially a couple but spent most of last year "hanging out" - I was blissfully into him - at new year he basically said he didnt want relationship, it all got confusing and sad and i felf very used. I was upset . very sad (posted on here about it) he always has sent the odd text or i will have late night missed call from him - but we did have a good few months with no contact at all. It affected me in a worrying way and we live near to each other in small town, I stopped going out, wouldnt go the pub or local shops - think i was just terrified of seeing him. Anyway back to the point - Just when i got myself feeling a bit back to normal his texts and calls started again. I was getting asked to pub by some new friends and would not go, all because of him. I decided to answer one of his calls and we had a friendly chat- as i seemed to cope alright with talking to him i decided to ring him and meet him, I knew i had to confront my fears and move on and get rid of this hold i felt he had on me, I felt stupid but i was honest and kept it brief but said basically I not going pub etc when i want to and i think its because of you so i hoping now we had this chat its gonna be cool etc, he said he got it and i was been silly but he too hoped now id go pub etc. Then i left - ( was prob only there 5 mins tops) Since then he started ringing more, I spoke with him a lot. Then he said he missed us hanging out - could he come around , he came and spent 3 hours cutting my lawn and doing garden. then bought me a plant. I was trying very hard to have my friend only head on, but its hard i adore him big time and cant pretend to myself otherwise. Few weeks ago he rang me when i was out (i was drunk) I told him where i was and he came and picked me up and went to another bar and ended up at his , through my drunk stuper i can recall him asking me to stay and me running off home , knowing it was a bad idea. He had a car accident last week and rang me from the hospital, scaring me to death. and is now in contact much more - today he rang asking to borrow something - which i took around and left outside so not to see him ! he rang saying why didnt you come in . basically i love him and he seriously broke my heart back in january, I still thought of him every day though. I spent ages trying to feel better - now all this contact is shaking me up again - is he just messing with me ? should I just avoid him at all cost? or is there a chance he has feelings for me like i do for him? has he got any idea how he stirs all my emotions up ? wish i knew how boys think ! Edited July 1, 2013 by powerofnow spelling
carhill Posted July 1, 2013 Posted July 1, 2013 Here's a video which does a pretty good job of, in a funny way, explaining the differences between men's and women's brains. When I read your post, I see that big ball of wire in action.
inaya42 Posted July 1, 2013 Posted July 1, 2013 contact with him has a bad effect on you and causes confusion, panic, hurt, unfulfilled hope. that is the reason to go NC. and that is also why it doesn't matter what he thinks. seriously, my friend, save yourself the unnecessary heartache and let this go.
Author powerofnow Posted July 1, 2013 Author Posted July 1, 2013 i am a little bit ashamed of my big ball of wire brain. .....Letting it go is never gona be that easy though as we live in such a small place, I had to kinda hibernate to get over it originally and i dont want to live like that anymore. but i know its the best way forward
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