sybo24 Posted July 1, 2013 Posted July 1, 2013 Its been 7 weeks since NC with MM. If that wasn't enough to cope with I have had my mother in law (who I am still very close to) supper a break down and she rang me early one morning to tell me she had taken some tablets. A day at the hospital and when they realise she had only taken 6 tablets they discharged her. Next day she was threating the same so over to me to arrange her treatment at rehab. Ex H suffered from depression and suicidal thoughts too so I had an idea what to do and that he would not be of any help. Now she is home and a lot better. Next EX H assaulted my 15 year old son and had to be dragged off by my 16 year old daughter. He has blamed me for the children not wanting to see him and not celebrating fathes day with him. He will not take any responsibility for his actions and has (2 weeks later) apologised to the children but refuse to speak to me. Next my mum who has been staying with me has gone down hill very fast with alzehimers and probably wont be able to come and visit us any more as it is just too confusing for her. SO.................... after all this I succumbed and contact my exMM!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I have sent him a stupid text re a kitchen fitting from a different mobile and using a name I know he will recognise. ARHHHHHHHHHHHHH why oh why did I do this. I know why, I just wanted him to comfort me and tell me everything will be ok. I have really good friends but feel that they have been so good over the last couple of months that they are probably sick of listening to my problems. I have heard anything from him and I hope I don't. A moment of weakness on my behalf. This is really hard and now I am back to square one of NC. And there was me thinking I was doing really well hahaha
JustAReformedGirl Posted July 1, 2013 Posted July 1, 2013 Its been 7 weeks since NC with MM. If that wasn't enough to cope with I have had my mother in law (who I am still very close to) supper a break down and she rang me early one morning to tell me she had taken some tablets. I'm guessing you meant "suffer"? That would be quite stressful. A day at the hospital and when they realise she had only taken 6 tablets they discharged her. Next day she was threating the same so over to me to arrange her treatment at rehab. Ex H suffered from depression and suicidal thoughts too so I had an idea what to do and that he would not be of any help. Now she is home and a lot better. Good that you took care of that before it escalated any further. I'm guessing you also meant "to make arrangements for treatment in rehab; it's okay, your thoughts are probably all over the place with stress. Next EX H assaulted my 15 year old son and had to be dragged off by my 16 year old daughter. He has blamed me for the children not wanting to see him and not celebrating fathers day with him. He will not take any responsibility for his actions and has (2 weeks later) apologised to the children but refuse to speak to me. That's not your problem; he needs to come to terms with his own frailties, and accept them as his own, instead of finger-pointing. Sorry to hear that you're dealing with so much at the exact same time that you're trying to cope with NC. When it rains, it does seem to pour, doesn't it? Next my mum who has been staying with me has gone down hill very fast with alzehimers and probably wont be able to come and visit us any more as it is just too confusing for her. SO.................... after all this I succumbed and contact my exMM!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Oh, no...I can understand why, given all the chaos going on in your life...but still, I bet you wish you hadn't. I have sent him a stupid text re a kitchen fitting from a different mobile and using a name I know he will recognise. This confused me, except the last part. ARHHHHHHHHHHHHH why oh why did I do this. I figured there'd be regret. You did it because you had your entire world crumbling around you, and sought comfort where you formerly could find it. Try not to beat yourself up over it too badly; you're only human, and you had a lot on your plate. Just try to re-instigate NC from this point on. I know why, I just wanted him to comfort me and tell me everything will be ok. I have really good friends but feel that they have been so good over the last couple of months that they are probably sick of listening to my problems. Ah, so it was rhetorical. My bad. I can understand that feeling, as well. I seldom wish to burden the people in my life with anything, and there are those I don't trust enough to open up to. Have you given consideration to therapy? If you can afford it (even if only a few sessions) it could really help you, so that you can maintain NC again, and prevent yourself from bothering your friends, if you feel they're growing tired of things. And there was me thinking I was doing really well hahaha Don't kick yourself over it; we all trip and fall. The important thing is to get back up, dust yourself off, hold your head high, and keep on moving forward. You had a minor set back, a moment of weakness, like you said. It's alright. If he does reply, ignore him, and keep yourself busy with your life. Grieve over the affair if you need to, along with anything else that's causing you emotional upheaval.
whichwayisup Posted July 1, 2013 Posted July 1, 2013 If he texts back, just tell him it was a mistake and wrong of you to reach out to him and it would be best to get back into NC mode. Don't beat yourself up over this, put it out of your head now otherwise you'll worry more and more.
Author sybo24 Posted July 2, 2013 Author Posted July 2, 2013 Sorry for the state of my post but I an glad you got the gist of it. I have turned off the phone and am going to bin the SIM (it was a new pay as you go one) so I don't see if I do or don't get a reply. Then it will feel like I haven't broken NC haha I have been having hypnotherapy to relax and distress me and it is working well (apart from yesterday) but today is a much better day and I am having another session tomorrow Thank you all xx 1
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